Why do I keep attract lovebombers?

[Anonymous]

I've already lost track of how many times I've heard the words "I love you". Someone that never even saw me in person just said that minutes ago. It's disgusting.

I already it's a total lie and it's not real. In fact hearing "I love you" (if it's not coming from my family or close female friend) is making feel nauseous. Honestly what the hell am I doing wrong? Why do I keep attracting lovebombers? Why?

Updates

3 mo

I had to block another lovebomber trying to waste my time. One more "love" word in a sentence and I'm going to scream so much.

[Oliverlogan263]

It seems you have developed a pattern of attracting guys who put on an act to get your attention and affection. A few thoughts on why love bombers find their way to you:

- They target kind, caring girls like you who want intimacy. They know how to find those with big hearts.

- Don't be so hard on yourself - even the most confident women can fall for smooth talk. Abusers are skilled at pretending to be what you want.

- Take a look at how you present online. Love bombers gravitate towards profiles that show vulnerability.

- Set strong boundaries upfront. Don't engage with fast-talk or share deep feelings until trust is built over time.

- Trust your gut feeling. If a guy professes love within minutes, that's a big red flag. You likely spotted issues but ignored them before.

Moving forward, keep your guard up with new people. Anyone pressing for commitment too soon isn't worth your time. You deserve real love and respect. Believe that - and the right one will come when you least expect it!

[BarryLiverstone]

You may be talking to them and saying you care about them.

[Asker]

I had to block another lovebomber just now. I want a normal conversation with someone that is looking for useful qualities in a partner, wants to settle down and isn't lovebombing me.

[BarryLiverstone]

But if you want to find a partner irl, why not look irl. You said you haven’t seen this person.

[Asker]

That's why I've been going out more often and making new friends. The more I get out there, the more likely I'll meet someone on my same page. It's just harder finding him.

[BarryLiverstone]

Gotcha. So I’m not sure if you actually asked a question or wanted to vent about someone online.

But you know the answer is to meet irl and not rely on the internet for romance.

[Asker]

I was doing both, asking a question and venting. I've heard the L word so much to the point I hate it.

[BarryLiverstone]

Keep in mind we can love others and not feel romantic towards them. But guess I have heard you vent so I was useful