Why is forgiveness seen as weak while revenge/holding grudges as strength?

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It's really the opposite. Revenge and/or holding grudges really isn't strength; it's weakess. The forgiveness route that very few people do is strength. It means you're not going to let yourself consume by anger as it's bad for your own mental health.

By holding grudges or seeking revenge, you're still giving them power in your life. Even hating someone is giving them power.

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By the way, this is coming from an atheist. I actually admire those that were able to forgive and if they were able to forgive and forget, well those are strong people.

Holding grudges and seeking revenge, anyone can do that. It's too easy. There is nothing special in that. They're destroying their own selves.

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It takes great strength to forgive. Regarding revenge and holding grudges, they are not signs of strength but rather a lack of emotional intelligence, in my opinion. Taking revenge on someone makes you just as bad as the person who hurt you, and holding grudges causes more damage than good.
Long story short, it takes a strong person to forgive, while revenge and holding grudges make a person bitter.

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  Indeed it is great strength and I actually admire such people like that. There is nothing to admire when someone holds grudges or takes revenge.
  The stories I continue hearing about people getting revenge at a cheating ex boyfriend/girlfriend, lol. Too many weak people.
  
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  Oh, yeah people getting revenge at cheating ex is absurd (and revenge overall, in my opinion). Like, it just proves that you are no better than cheater (or any other person who hurt you) since you stoop down to their level. If people just would focus on moving forward and healing instead.
  
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Culture wars can't exist without grudges so the media (and their billionaire backers) that profits off of culture wars promotes holding grudges.

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Berethor Follow
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If someone had raped you then forgive him, I am sure it would make you look strong.

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