Is it just me or can anyone relate with their road map life has taken them?

[Paulalove98]

For example, if you had an idea or alignment of how or when you thought your goals were gonna manifest and come true but they haven’t yet, you feel confused and totally lost. I thought by 25 I’d have my first child but my road map of life didn’t take me in that direction. I met my boyfriend at 24 instead, we hit our one year anniversary almost 3 months ago. I feel like everyone around me has kids or getting pregnant but I am not a mom yet. It’s making me feel a bit depressed and sad even though I know we’re not 100% ready, in reality nobody ever is tho? I feel so behind and like things will never happen because I had bad luck with relationships in the past and I’ve been defeated a lot from my goals. It’s been a dream to be a mom for me for almost 10 years now. I am so passionate and I also work with children. I’m a very down to earth woman and very sweet and generous. Life just isn’t fair…

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I mean road map NOT taken them* not has.

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I got sick almost 5 years ago with a thyroid disease which can sometimes prolong my periods although it’s not impossible to get pregnant, it’s harder at times. We are enjoying life together I just feel devastated so much and it gets me very emotional. My boyfriend isn’t the best emotional support at times but he tries his hardest and supports me if we may need ivf someday but I also wanna be a foster mom and adopt as well.

[midnightmoon05]

That’s sounds very stressful to me.
I have never plan my life and it worked out in a funny way.
At some point… I started to admit I am getting old when I said… I used to… so… here is how it started…

at a young age…. I just took a bus and left the hospital because I got bored…I was little and didn’t have to pay a bus fare.
I had a first boyfriend at 19… didn’t work because we were too young. I stayed single and dated… till I met my hubby at 27. We didn’t care if we have kids we just enjoy being together… till his grandfather was diagnosed with cancer so we said let’s make him great grand father… and it worked…. he died knowing he had created another generation of off spring. 😊

we had some good years together and have 2 amazing kids. He wanted to end the married and I tried my best to keep our family together… I didn’t succeed.
I was sad and upset… I learned to get over it to be the mom I need to for my kids … and that’s what I am doing… soon I met my hubby here on gag and we have been very happy together… now that my kids are teens they asked a lot questions and wonder how I am so happy and so successful.
it all comes down to … just let life take you and don’t stress over the small things.
same with my career… how did I become a teacher? Because I had a great time raising my younger sister … I literally raised her being 11 years older … now she calls me instead of our mom when she has questions about her baby… 😂

as a school teacher, I told my own teens I was a terrible student and failed multiple classes… but I am very successful!!
so do your best…but don’t stress I believe a lot are out of our hands… a lot we can try.. at the end… we are not in control. Stress will make it worse.

good luck to you… figure out if this is your husband or boyfriend? If you become a mom… be the best mom for the child, raise him/her to be better than us.
it also sounds like you have some work to do with how o communicate with this guy you want a kid with.

[19magic]

Honestly I'm feeling the exact same thing there was only three things I've really wanted in life, one be a mother, two have a great partner and three own my own home.

My choices this far has got me one but not two or three and I don't see them happening anytime soon. I feel like I've wasted some of the better years of my youth because I had trauma that I never really dealt with and then had did not have the life experience needed to deal with the people I met. Now I feel really lost as I feel like I'm going to have to wait 10 or more years until I can start finding what I've been looking for.

[Summeroflove]

Well sometimes the best relationships take time I know we have talked before. It’s best not to rush things some people get into too big of a hurry and marry the wrong person.

There are people who marry let’s say just because they want kids. To never love the person and become unhappy in the marriage. That or the person turns out not to be all they thought.

[bowenw]

It's like the famous line, "Life Is What Happens When You're Busy Making Other Plans."

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Lliam]

I never had a plan. I just headed down the road of life, explored the side roads, and enjoyed what came along. It all worked out great.

[fuddly]

Life happens white you're making plans