Anybody else suffering from a broken give-a-damn?

[Caroline91]

I just feel so off lately. Went to the doctor and after extensive testing, the results came back: I have a broken give-a-damn! They have no idea how this condition develops to begin with and haven't discovered a cure for it yet. So, I'm kinda up the creek without a paddle here and I want my give-a-damn back! Anyone else got the same problem lately? Any thoughts on what causes this condition? Any suggestions on how to fix it? All thoughts would be sincerely appreciated!

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Boy, I hear you. I'm that way with a lot of external things now, like politics. I just don't care anymore. In some ways, it's a good thing. I used to stress out about everything and be so afraid. Now, I completely ignore anything that is fear-based. Period. If it's trying to frighten me, it get tossed into the memory dump, haha. It's changed my life and I am a lot happier now. Odd how rejecting fear makes one happier. :D

But in other ways, I can see how that could feel paralyzing. So much going on and just throwing up our hands and saying, I can't care about anything anymore!

I don't know what your particular situation is, so this is kind of general, but my personal goal is to only focus on my top priorities. For me, that's my kids and myself. Not extended family drama, not my parents problems, not what people might think if I don't volunteer my life away at my kids school, etc. It may not get your "give-a-damn" back, but it might get your "f*** that" going. :D

Hang in there! It's winter; time to hibernate and watch movies anyway. It's what the rest of nature is doing. :D

[Caroline91]

@TheRealPepperPotts Thanks for your take on it. I've always kind of done my own thing and let things pretty much be like water off a duck's back. But I just think for anyone who tends to care at all that things are so overwhelming just trying to function in the whole social/political environment rn that it is numbing. I posted this largely as an explanation of how I am being affected, and as an opportunity for others to speak about it, too. We can't just shove it all under the carpet. I think an open discussion might help many of us. I would like to say "all of us", but I don't believe that anymore. There is just so much nasty gloating going on. Anyway, Pepper, I always value your thoughts.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@Caroline91 Thanks! You strike me as a person who is like that. :D I admire the ability to just let it roll off your back; I'm learning how to do that, ha. Right back at you, my friend. :)

[sage2021]

You seem so young to have a broken give a damn, and I can say that because I am 70 years old and I have had a lot of adversity in my long life.
I am a strong woman and I always just put one foot in front of the other and push on, get things done and then go to the next thing.
I don't believe that I ever was in a place in my life where I was ready to throw in the towel - like what you are doing.
I know of one thing that I don't care about anymore and that's wearing clothes that look nice but are uncomfortable to wear. So I don't care how I look, I go for comfort now and no restraining bra anymore!😉
The other thing that I stopped doing last year in the Spring is that I quit watching TV!! That freed me up to do more of the things that I enjoy doing and I wasn't stressing about anything anymore.
Sure, I still have struggles with my life, but if I just give up and don't care anymore then it's time to bundle up my coffin. ⚰️🪦

[Caroline91]

@sage2021 I have always been the eternal optimist, but have just been hit with a lot in the past 5 years. I expect I will get back to my normal state before too long, but I just need to bitch and moan a while longer before I do!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

[sage2021]

@Caroline91
Do you have anyone to vent with?

[Caroline91]

@sage2021 I do. But I don't do much venting to other people. I just need space and time to be prayerful. Thank you for asking.

[exitseven]

Okay- I know you are sort of having some sport about this but if you are really going through something like this you might be clinically depressed. I went through this a few years ago during covid. I was unemployed and just hung around the house. I all but stopped working out and I really had to find a good reason to get out of bed. I tried to find stuff that might help me. I got a beach sticker so I could drive my truck out on the beach. I also worked on the campaign for a political candidate. eventually I found a new job and things got better.
I had a friend that is a wellness coach. She told me that depression can be caused when you are out of the loop of control of your life. Get some control over your life and your depression will improve.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Levin]

I can sense it.

I suppose you need to define better what the problem is. Do you feel hopeless. Is something getting you down? Is there something you want that you feel like you want but can't have? Do you feel trapped? Is there an area of your lift you're unsatisfied with?

Some Japanese 1980's city pop might help as a little quick fix.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/g1Nccuk0jig

[Caroline91]

@Levin. by the way, I got into listening to this and forgot to tell you it is really nice... Ty!

[Levin]

That's okay. Something a bit different. Hope you're feeling okay.

[Caroline91]

@Levin doing well, Ty.

[ohsheeT]

Start making life out of the people go do something first in elderly people do stuff or other people because it makes you happy teach your child something cause and effect is a good place to start but you have to love yourself before you can give a damn or before you can give love

[Caroline91]

@ohsheeT Yeah, Thanks for sharing some good thoughts... I'm usually pretty active and optimistic... I just went out and bought me a new give-a-damn 'cause the old one is beyond repair.

[ohsheeT]

Well you got to be careful with the new ones because the new ones also have added accessories like I give a f*** I care and I want to feel what you feel so it gets quite addicting I think

[Caroline91]

@ohsheeT. Darn! What's a girl to do? lol

[ohsheeT]

Well I think in life when we were all born we were all given a gift and that gift is choice and we get to choose who we want to be in life by the things that we say and do but through our upbringing sometimes we get misguided we get turned around spun around we are made to feel certain things and it changes a lot of things and then one day we wake up a little bit and we understand that we are our own worst enemy our own best friend and we start wondering what is going on and why can't I be who I want to be until one day you go to the doctor and the doctor says you lost your give a damn. And when you hear those words you have to do something about it sometimes you have to let yourself go and be a free spirit and just explore and experience sometimes you just need to go wrap your arms around somebody and hold on to them tight whether it be in the living room on the street in a bed it doesn't matter as long as it's coming from you and as long as you can feel that give a damn that energy rushing through your body because the more you experience it the more you better want it and the more you want it the more you're going to give it

[Caroline91]

@ohsheeT It's really been an eye opener for me bc my give-a-damn has always been such an intrinsic part of me. Not that I let myself be taken advantage of, but it does serve as my main motivator and it feels kind of like a boat without a rudder having it it broken. Definitely on the mend, though, bc it's just not something I care to live without. It's never impinged on being a free spirit and I doubt it ever will for me. Your thoughts are much appreciated... and the way you phrase them. Thank you.

[ohsheeT]

Well you're very welcome about whether you're a free spirit or not that part doesn't even matter it's what makes you happy is what matters and that's when your give a damn. Kind of just takes over and it kind of just becomes you and who you are..

I get put in the right place at the right time in the most unusual times.
But it seems like no matter what I do or where I go something will be in front of me and I can either help that person or I can walk away but I'm there in that moment I have the knowledge to help them to fix whatever it is is broken so might give a damn kicks in and I do what it takes to get them off and going to where they need to go or be and I try to do it with quickness if possible so I can still get off and get where I'm supposed to be but if I didn't help that person I would think about it all day and then that would break other parts of me and I would rather stay whole and be happy..

We are put up against challenges every day we go through things every day and it's for a reason it's to prove to ourselves who we are or it is to prove to ourselves that if we fall down we can get back up with quickness and we can understand it and we can understand it's a challenge and we have to give a damn about ourselves too

If you read most of the questions on here it's usually about a girlfriend or boyfriend something happened and one person didn't give a damn and they want to know how to get through it well first of all they have to give a damn about themselves and understand what just happened whether it was happiness or painful it was to make them think and to grow and change to become the best we can become because of where we're all headed

It's choices and with choices you have to give a damn because that's what's going to guide you or teach you in this moment of time for the next moment of time that happens but I appreciate your question and I appreciate your sense of humor

[ohsheeT]

and I appreciate you because whether anybody knows this or not this is one of the most important questions that I've read on here and I think everybody should read it and try to understand it to their best ability just because I say what I say doesn't mean I'm right I have to tell you that too but I answered the way that I answered it because I do care and my give a damn. Likes to smile and be happy
So like I said I thank you for this question

[Caroline91]

@ohsheeT. Awww.. Well, I am certainly smiling now 😊 Thank you so much!

[ohsheeT]

Lol
You're very welcome

[DryGermanGuy]

Take two of these and call me in the morning:

[Caroline91]

@DryGermanGuy. 🤣🫠🤪 I'll be popping 'em like vitamins... Don't think it's possible to over dose on those!!

[NathanDavis]

I always forget my pills...

[Caroline91]

@NathanDavis. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WANNqr-vcx0

[NathanDavis]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n1pKCzIUMeA

[Caroline91]

@NathanDavis How is it you always seem to have such a great responses to my silly forays? lol

[NathanDavis]

I liked that song... so I sent one back, that I do like

[Caroline91]

😁🙃

[NathanDavis]

🦈🌪️🙃

[Caroline91]

🤣🫠🎶

[Bricealan]

@Caroline91 Caroline, I think at some time, EVERYONE gets one broken, but it does heal and you can go on about your life.

[Caroline91]

@Bricealan I'm sure you are right about that.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Congrats for this elaborated vagueness lol... Could be seasonal? Winter, especially after festivities... Without more context I can't think of anything else

[HungTexan]

I’ve had it before. I think the best cure is focus on being active, doing things for other people, and lots of sex. It will gradually go away.

[DrPepper12]

I usually meditate and light a candle...

I feel you!

[Caroline91]

@DrPepper12. Yeah, take that and that and that and set it ALL on fire!! lol

[DrPepper12]

@caroline91how you doin today? Better I hope

[Caroline91]

@DrPepper12 Thanks for asking. I have purchased a new give-a-damn. But it is a lot more selective than my last model. lol I'm back to dancing around the house. My funky moods don't usually last too long. I just do one-foot two-foot until I get out of it. Everybody here was really helpful. ❤️

[Grond21]

That reminds me of this song this guy made. Absolutely hilarious, and completely in line with what you're feeling.

https//youtu. be/Vqbk9cDX0l0? si=EdpnvKfVnF7e-6Mz

[Caroline91]

Yeah I remember when I thought that song was funny. Guess my laugh-o-meter is broken right along with my give-a-damn.

[Grond21]

Sending hugs

[LiaRaven]

I hear you! Sometimes you hit that point where you're just like, "I can't keep caring about everything." It's tough when it feels like the world’s a bit much. What's going on for you?

[Caroline91]

Just stuff. Lots of stuff. I wonder if there's anybody in the world not being affected by stuff atm...

[LiaRaven]

I can feel you, believe me
I hope things will get better soon🫂🤗

[Caroline91]

Well, thank you... but a broken give-a-damn is pretty serious... lol

[Circushowcowboy]

I think it comes with age. 10 years from now we will likely realize it exists even less than it did today

[Still-alive]

We can all learn much from Clark Gable here

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Rk16glWoMCk

[Caroline91]

@Still-alive Reeeally? Really!! Well, Mr. Still-alive... beware... bc... after all... Tomorrow IS another day...

[Still-alive]

Hehe

[Caroline91]

Eyelashes batting, then turning and gliding away... a mysterious smile gracing her lips... Ohhhh, Rhhhett...

[Kelly6]

@Caroline91 no I never had it and hope never get it too.

sorry to hear this

[Surely]

I am that way with the news overload on the current events!
You mean that your doctor didn’t have a pill for that?

[Caroline91]

That’s a big part of it for sure. And, actually, the doc does have a pill for it…

[Surely]

I have heard of escapes that people take. To unplug from the electronic world. No cell phones, televisions etc. Maybe that should be included in our insurance coverage!

[Caroline91]

You have my vote on that one!!

[TonyMetal___86]

What does this condition means? It's a funny name, what's your condition? Broken give a damn hehe

Seriously what does it means? 🤔

[Caroline91]

@tonymetal___86 It means I have stopped caring anymore.

[TonyMetal___86]

I can't believe that a woman like you can ever stop caring 😌

[Caroline91]

Thank you, Tony. But, I am just too tired to care anymore... at least for a while. I'm just taking care of the birds and not much more. I love my little birds.

[TonyMetal___86]

Who doesn't loves the little birds 👶🏻💓👶🏼

[Caroline91]

Exactly!

[Staximus]

You need a change in your routine, something is obviously causing you to say "fuck this shit!"

[Juxtapose]

What do you mean? Things are getting better than ever now that Trump is elected!

[Caroline91]

@Juxtapose I'm happy for you. Really I am.

[Juxtapose]

Well what would make you happy?

[Juxtapose]

But thanks.

[Caroline91]

It would make me happy if people would stop being so nasty and cruel to each other. It's fine to have differences, but it isn't fine to express it all in such rude and disrespectful ways. Where has the art of civil debate gone? That is one of the founding principles of this nation and I, for one, would like to see more of it instead of name calling and hurling insults. This poisons the environment for all of us.

[Juxtapose]

I think it's about time the USA led through strength in my opinion. The Columbian leader bowed their head and gave in to Trump's demands because he wasn't weak. He showed strength.

Politeness is good though for a lot of things though.

[Jennz6]

Me too honey 💕💯

[Caroline91]

@jennz6. 💓

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, I am.
One cause is a broken heart.

[Caroline91]

I know, Funkster. And it is tough feeling that way!

[ilistengood]

Is that treatable?