How do you heal when you’re the screw up?

[Anonymous]

I love my girlfriend like crazy, but I’ve been unfaithful for the past few months. She was a good girlfriend for the most part, but I was always concerned about her behaviour. I always felt like she was the one cheating on me.

She was rarely interested sex, she seemed flirty was other guys, had too many guy friends, and used to brag that her guy friends wanna fuck her. This so mind boggling I lost sleep over this. I was convinced that she’s cheating on me. So I started having an affair myself. I’ve been having affair with another woman for 5 months now. My girlfriend never caught me red handed but she had her suspicions and left. Now I’m feeling lonely, down, and extremely depressed.

I know I’m the one at fault here, but how do I get over her?

[Anonymous]

“used to brag that her guy friends wanna fuck her.”.

Alright that was shitty and you should of spoke up about that to her. But you didn’t, why? Why did you let that slide?

Anyway yes you are the bad guy and sometimes circumstances pressure/tempt people into being bad but deep down we both know that’s no excuse. You could of just broke up with her before doing what you did.

My advice is to just break up with her. If you don’t this will slowly but surely eat away at you. If she asks you why then tell her the truth.

Tell her you take ownership for your bullshit and are responsible for what you did. You can also tell her that you were angry and frustrated with her but you are NOT using that as an excuse for what you did.

If she gets upset about it then she probably never cheated. But if she acts doesn’t act too upset than your suspicions might be correct (she probably won’t confess though)

Anyway I don’t think you are a shitty guy but you did make a really shitty decision. The only path to redemption is to own up to it.

[tenor55]

I am sorry for your loss, but as I read your description of her, maybe you will look back and see that this was the best thing to happen. I know you love her, but do you really want a sexless relationship? Anyway, I hope you can get over her, move on, and find someone with whom you can have a genuine relationship.

[Labokachulaa]

You have to just come to terms with your decisions and how everything played out. After that you have to accept it and just move on. Focus on yourself, improve yourself. Try not to think about her anymore. It sucks but that's just a part of life. We have to learn from our mistakes, you cannot change the past, so there's no point in dwelling on it. Things will get better. 🖤

[BlueScorpio]

Take the L son and learn from it, next time just communicate with your partner about how you're feeling instead rushing to assumptions. Our minds get the best of us when we do that.

[jshm2]

You made your bed, dumbass, now sleep in it.

A fucking 18 year old jumps to conclusions and assumes. You should know better at your age, and be able to sit people down and talk it out.

[bean2k21]

She doesn't like sex but does enjoy manipulating your emotions? I'd say you made the right decision. Get your mind off it and go hiking in nature or something. Afterwards, bang the new girl.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Speak assertively to her. State that you’re extremely sorry and regret it. State how you are jealous/pissed/anxious/whatever about her other relations. Give her a hug. Show her some love by taking care of her.

[LazerBean]

Dumping the person who cheated on you probably helps a lot.

[Anonymous]

This is your shit you've put yourself in. Now pull yourself out the same way.

[Anonymous]

So she is not into having sex that much?