How to heal and move on?

[Anonymous]

I was talking to this guy for a month. We weren’t official but we both could definitely feel the spark between us. He would always message me first and ask me about my day and everything. We live in different cities so never met but were talking over Instagram. He had all the qualities I was looking for like all the green flags. Everything was going pretty nice until he texted me all of a sudden saying that it he couldn’t do this due to long distance and would rather be friends with me. I unfortunately developed feelings for him and when he told me this, it shattered me. I didn’t tell about my feelings and told him that I can’t be friends with him. It was amicable and ended on a good note but after saying goodbyes he straight up blocked me !
Its been a few days since that happened and my heart feels so heavy and broken. I don’t know how and when I’ll get over this feeling but I do feel like I’ve lost a part of me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, that seriously sucks. Getting your feelings playing like that over someone you never even met is rough. I can understand why you're feeling so down.

A few things that might help:

- Let yourself be sad for a bit. Wallow in it, listen to sad songs, whatever helps you process the emotions. Don't bottle it up.

- Distance yourself from anything that reminds you of him - delete old messages, photos, anything he sent you on social media. Out of sight, out of mind helps.

- Stay busy with friends and your normal hobbies. It's easy to dwell when you're alone, so make plans to get out and distracted.

- Hit the gym extra hard - nothing releases endorphins like a good workout.

- Remember it wasn't meant to be. His loss, dude! As shitty as he was, now you don't have to waste any more time on someone who wasn't fully feeling it.

It'll take time but I promise soon you won't think of him every day. Keep your head up - someone better is out there waiting for ya! Don't let this jerk living rent-free in your head. You got this.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You said you can't be friends, so he unfriended you. You got what you asked for, now you're complaining you got it. Okay, be more careful what you ask for.

[DreamCrescent]

Darn, that’s savage. i’m sorry, booboo

time will heal. and you’ll realize the feelings you had couldn’t have possibly been that deep for someone you haven’t met

we all let ourselves dream and become infatuated

[Paris13]

Consider It a Lesson In Love and LDR... It Is What It Is or Not... Huggggs. xxoo

[Paris13]

Tanks for The New Year Soon------MHO on This, Gag. xxoo

[Hardshell1234]

Sorry that happened to you but I guess it’s time to grieve and move on. Give yourself a grieving period. You will find someone new, you are young and have so much time. Maybe he will regret it and come back but you will probably have moved on.