Would having to compete for someone be a turn off to you?

[Anonymous]

I find the whole thing toxic and time consuming, I guess what makes it not worth it to me is that how the results end can be based off someone's bad taste, imagine wasting time of your life chasing someone that will eventually not see your efforts, I believe fighting for someone is for stupid people, like piranhas fighting over one fish while there's a whole sea full of them, is it a turn off to anyone else or am I alone on this? 🤔

[alice55]

For me it's a turn off, I feel like the dude would be a cheater if he have many women wanting him and fighting for him like if I need to fight for his attention during 3 months and he's still not knowing who to chose that's quite a red flag.

[Asker]

For being in wonderland all the time you surely know what you want, good 😂👍🏼

[alice55]

Well those dude take like 30 min to respond to each message while I'm used to people responding to me under 1 min and I definitely prefer people that respond fast XD

[Asker]

Really cause I've noticed people would get bored if you respond fast or they for some reason get this illusion that you'll always be there I guess, even if they aren't fair lol

[alice55]

I think it simply depends on the person, personally I become bored if the person don't respond fast or play game and don't send a message everyday but prefer to wait three day to do it, it's such a weird stuff like some dude wait always 3 days before responding because they think it make them interesting and I guess it work with others but with me I just lose interest if the person is too long to respond.
Everyone is different though so I may be different but I don't see how it's agreeable to have a conversation with someone that take age to respond.
Maybe they're immature though?

[Asker]

I agree with you, I also prefer fast responses, I'm not with all that making people wait games, that's all some school crap, that shit we do as children, I think people should respond to each other if able too, it's simple stuff really, I believe it also keeps things healthy

[alice55]

Yes we should respond when we can so if we see the message and can respond then we should waiting artificially and making the others person wait is so weird and dumb it's like people have nothing else to do except playing mind game or something.
The whole three day stuff is something I heard from old American movie / tv show it's so weird XD
It's definitely healthier to respond fast

[Asker]

I knew making people wait was a game people played to look mysterious or whatnot but I didn't know it was specifically 3 days or whatnot, I dont get it but I agree quick responses is healthier ha

[alice55]

I heard the whole 3 day a lot it was even written in book for teenager to wait three day before responding or even to not call back but to wait the next fews days to do it to look busy and interesting and not look desperate. A lot of book said to never respond directly but to always wait if not you look desperate those books were so funny to read when I was a teen it was filled with some many crazy stuff XD
I should do a MyTake with all those stuff they write in teen book in the 2010s XD

I don't get it either but it's a common things though I think it's mostly girls who use it not so much men
Definitely

[Asker]

Damn that's insane, people really believed that garbage also, it's kinda insane how people believed that a book could guide them, you should make it to see how people react to it, I wonder if any will feel stupid if they still follow those things lol

[alice55]

Yes some did, but who thought it was a good idea to write this in teen book too?
So many people used book and also love coach for it, I saw so many emission like that in France and also so many relooking emission as a child / teen it was so funny, France was filled with those stuff everyday XD
I definitely should, I need to find back the book though to not forget one single things XD

They would definitely feel awkward for sure

[Asker]

It's definitely a loss of aura points lost for france as it's known for the country of love or whatever, I wouldn't expect them to have books and rulebooks or whatnot, but thinking it twice maybe I do? 🤔

[alice55]

I think it's mostly done as a troll things to be honest, we have many emission that are made to be troll / ironic but some people took it as face value.
They like to make the person look a bit dumb in the show as it make the viewer laugh, it's tv.
We don't really have rule book it's just for teen, the others it's just basic "conseil" like being clean and dressing well one dude in a show washed his hair every 2 weeks and dressed in shirt who had stains and holes into it and he was confused as to why he couldn't find a date XD

Well in a ways it make sense people love to date and have relationship so there's lots of advice everywhere to help people who are not good at it though it's a small percentage that need it the other just read it for fun

[Asker]

That would be even worse if it's all meant to be just for jokes and people read it and take it seriously, I thought they truly meant it it for a second or maybe it's my country that takes it seriously lol

[alice55]

I think it depends on which books is it but a lot either do it as joke or do it as a ways to make money but give really shit advice and the worst it's that the guys that buy it are mostly like extremely shy and in the book they just say to them to be extremely assertive and to ask out any woman they see, like they told them to ask out ugly women who they don't want to date to build confidence then to ask out pretty one in the street like stranger but those kind of stuff just don't work in France as people don't ask out stranger here people date within their work or friend circle.

It's a bit a mix of both but when it come to the emission it's mostly joke stuff.
Or just plain awkward

France love irony and sarcasm and it can be hard to spot if you aren't used to it, Asian people don't get irony at all in France so French people think they're weird

[Asker]

That's like a scam or something they should really look into that stuff and like make it illegal or something, it's kinda messed up they take advantage of people with crap but I guess in some ways they can always finesse it as a fiction story or some crap lol

[alice55]

Well I mean any person would understand it's bullshit when they start reading it since it's so dumb after we don't really censor any books in France so

[Asker]

I guess that's true, you make a good point indeed

[alice55]

It's like our tv show, we had very dumb tv show in the 2010s that showed pretty crazy people but most people understood it was fake and staged only children took it as face value

[Asker]

Isn't most things on TV fake? 😂

[alice55]

they're, they're all staged but some people believe it, I know I did when I was a child xD

[Asker]

Yea I did too, til you grow and are like this is bullshit lol

[alice55]

Yes, this is so over the top and stupid than when growing up, we can't help but realize the fakeness of it XD
Thanks for superb opinion :)

[Asker]

Wasn't me Alice but I would've given it to you if I remembered lol

[bobalife]

Definitely no question… I don’t compete… if you wid me, you wid me. If you’re not, you’re not. It’s a major turned off, but I’m also understanding modern dating… people looked at all their options before being exclusive. Very complex.

[Asker]

I guess that depends on how you look at it, personally if I find compatibility I don't seek for other options, I know there's people that do either ways

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, you should be their only choicee and no choice at all.. It's not a contest and nobody should be that important that you have to win them like a prize..

[Asker]

That's some more wise words indeed, I agree

[PrettyCrumblBb]

That's basically what I said.

[Joshydavid25]

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[Miah06]

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[Joshydavid25]

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[Miah06]

No. It's mine. I own all your answers

[Joshydavid25]

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[Miah06]

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[Joshydavid25]

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[Miah06]

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[Joshydavid25]

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[Miah06]

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[Joshydavid25]

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[Dongie]

Yeah, that's for the birds. It always meant getting into a fight. Then after you clip the jerk she feels sorry for HIM.

[Asker]

It's not worth it, all that monkey business 😂

[Dongie]

It's really not! Some girls like that shat 💩 too! 😮

[Vevv123]

If someone is pursuing me romantically, it should be no mystery he only has eyes for me. No one should be confused. 😌He would obviously have to be entertaining other girls at the same time for such confusion to happen.

[Asker]

Well that is how it should be V, without confusions and with eyes on one person indeed 😌👏🏼

[Vevv123]

Yes, no confusion at all. If necessary I can always gift him a personalized travel mug with my photo on it, just to remind him who he should be focused on. 😌 …And to make sure everyone else know who’s on his mind. 🧐

[Asker]

That would actually be adorable, how could someone focus on someone else after that, it's also impressive that youd know how to print your face on mugs 😂

[Vevv123]

I know it’s very thoughtful of me, it would be his daily travel mug 😌

[Asker]

By thoughtful id imagine you men very big headed of you 😂

[Vevv123]

You’re right and he cannot possibly say no to that kind of gift ☺️

[Asker]

Nope, although a shirt would be better 😂

[Vevv123]

But he can’t wear the shirt every day 😂

[Asker]

Oh yea good point, you are thinking of the future with those brain wrinkles aren't you 😂

[Vevv123]

😌🤓

[Little_Bumblebee]

Yeah, I'm not doing that.
Either he's interested or not.

Shouldn't be about who yells the loudest or whatever.

[Asker]

Very well said indeed lol

[Valdemort]

Yeah, I'm not competing for anyone. I might keep in touch for a while, but I still have morals. Not gonna fight for a spot.

[Asker]

That's good indeed

[MikeRJ]

I think that type of thing is immature, so yes.

[Asker]

I agree indeed

[PrettyCrumblBb]

It's dumb. If that person loves you, you don't have to fight for their love.

[Asker]

Wise words indeed crumble bee 🤣

[PrettyCrumblBb]

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[Asker]

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[PrettyCrumblBb]

Only the best from the 🐝

[Asker]

Okay good lol

[douride2]

Not worth my time.

[Asker]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[Miah06]

Yes. It's already showing a problem

[Asker]

Indeed

[Miah06]

Indonesia

[Asker]

No 🙂

[Miah06]

Indigo

[Asker]

Nope 😇

[Miah06]

Indiana

[Asker]

Nop..