Are you the one writing your story, or are you just reading along?

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I have always felt in control of my actions and my life. When I made bad decisions, I was fully aware of the risks.  And when things happened that I had no control of, in the back of my mind... i was completely in control of how I could react and deal with the situation. So for me, I am the author of my story. What about you?

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

I'm somewhat the author of my own story. I feel like you can make decisions but those decisions will lead you either down one of two paths. You're kind of just going along for the ride until you get to make another decision. Things are often out of your control. The main things you can control is how you treat people and how you respond to how people treat you. Everything else is kind of like you are kind of reading from your story because you just don't have full control of your station in life. You can work hard to make things better in your life, but sometimes even when you work hard, there may still not be much results because of how you were brought into the world.

Not everyone gets to do whatever they please. Heck most people don't have that. So writing your own story is somewhat hard to do when you have many things out of your control.

I say all this to say, even with a Master's degree, I'm still no better off than my mom was. I'm making probably the same exact thing she made and she didn't even go to college. So you can try your hardest to be in a better place than your parents but still end up in the same exact station in life despite your best efforts.

And that's just one example. There are many examples of how you're not truly the author of your own story completely. Another one is I thought I would be married with kids by now or at the very least engaged. I thought with my ex that was going to happen. That he was going to propose marriage but after a year of being together he chose to just give me a promise ring. Yet proposed marriage to another woman in less than four months after we broke up. You see how crazy life works? We can't control what people do in our lives. You can be the best girlfriend in the world and still never get the ring.

Ok I know this was long but the point is, I'm both writing it but also reading it.

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

I used to have a lot of trouble making decisions and would get stuck bc I knew there was always something I wasn't aware of. So how could I make a decision? Then one day I was sitting in my doctor's waiting room and there on the wall was a sign that said: All decisions are based on insufficient data. That changed my life. I became much more proactive and decisive. And I am writing my own story, but I understand that is is often in the dark or, at best, not fully lit. I'm ok with that.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

Zooming out then . From afar, everyone's story looks precisely like that, a story, literature, fiction made up, needed by consciousness? To get a sense of identity, singularity? So we attribute some importance to ourselves, events, choices and decisions. And that's great, I like the mirage, I believe in it, but from afar, it really looks cute and misguided. Some prose or poetry, some could be cheap, well thought, whatever.  Underneath literature, disregarding supernatural forces, there is birth, a lifespan, and death. From afar, any of these three events seem trivial in a 15 billion years old universe filled with giant stars and impossibly old planets, where any organic life is an excessively fragile and short sighted pile of flesh. In comparison. Fucking philosophers. Shut them down 😬

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

I was the author of my own story until I was 20. Then, to my surprise, I found that somebody had already written the next 20 years for me. I have been reading ever since.

I would have written a very different story. The problem with being the reader is: you have no control over where the story takes you. You end up reading about things you never would have written into the story.

Eventually it doesn't feel like it matters that I wrote the first half. It's nothing like the story I was intending to write.

MemeSupreme · Answer

i liked how you wrote this post. makes me think you're an avid book reader lol

and i am now but i wasn't when i was younger. i felt like i deserved to be punished so i sometimes looked for it. that feeling is still there BUT it's significantly less bc im an adult now. can't blame anyone but me

Finchie40 · Answer

I wrote my own story , I am not a mind reader so I just treat others’ the same way I like to be treated in return , if someone wants to lie to me and not be honest with me , that’s their problem not mine , if I find out the truth they were lying , then oh well there is consequences to your actions and I will walk the other way. I am not going to stay by someone’s side that can’t be honest period

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I'm definitely the author :D that and other stories :D

DrPepper12 · Answer

I am co-writing my autobiography with my dark passenger. IYKYK

clampfan101 · Answer

I’m looking for my pen. I can’t find it anywhere.

DepthsofMe · Answer

I am not in full control of my life but I control what i can. I like this post.

princeofromance · Answer

I am trying to be in charge of writing my own story.

Miah06 · Answer

My story has been given a beginning and end, with footnotes on how to write what's inbetween. And i am doing my best to create a masterpiece with what i have been given

alice55 · Answer

A bit of both it depend on the day and on my mood

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’m learning to write it. Because for many years. I did not believe I could write my own story and control their narrative.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Since I can’t control everything but can control certain things, I’m both

Staximus · Answer

Sometimes when you think you're in control of your life something will happen that will let you know that you are not really in control of shit

Valdemort · Answer

A little bit of both 🤷🏼‍♀️

ewok737 · Answer

Just wandering aimlessly.

Jay-_- · Answer

Writing my own for sure.

exitseven · Answer

I am mostly writing my own story.

wkhan_87 · Answer

Nope

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