What event in life has changed you the most?

[Charliefretz329]

[Genie23]

Watching my mum get extremely sick and on the verge of death. Luckily, she survived and I'm so grateful 🥹 but it really changed me even when I was barely 13/14. It changed my perspective on things. How I viewed life. How we need to live every moment. Taught me the importance of time and make sure we do things we want to before it's too late. Taught me to appreciate people in my life more and to never take them for granted. Taught me responsibility and sacrifices and many other things.

Other than that leaving home and stepping out in the world. Learning how to survive on my own. That changed my life too. I learned how the world works, what most people are like, how to handle things like betrayal, hurt, backstabbing, manipulation, guilt trapping, being stalked, being harassed, being intimidated, etc. I also learned some positive things like cooking, organizing everything, learning how to be calm in extreme situations. I think leaving nest definitely turned me from being a starry eyed innocent girl who believed everyone is good and be good to me because I'm good to them TO an observant, sharp, careful, reserved, mature and responsible person.

[Bricealan]

@Genie23 A very well written and expressed view, of the impact on you. At 33, I was just beginning to have this view of life/death/illness/survival. Too bad that many do not ever see and recognize those those things you detailed with regard to appreciating what you/we/I have in our lives, while we have them

[Genie23]

@Bricealan I'm so sorry for the late reply. I wrote a length comment but when I tried to submit it yesterday, it disappeared 😭 I got annoyed and thought I'll type again later as your comment meant a lot.

Thank you so much. To be honest, for a year or two, I was feeling lost for a while and I experienced insomnia at 13 and I understood what trauma was- the night I heard my dad sound like he's crying and telling my mum nothing would happen to her while she asked him to look after the kids well if she doesn't survive because doctors almost gave up on her. It scared me and also scarred me. I didn't know what to do anymore and felt quite helpless. I thought I'd never be the same but when that miracle happened, I was just so happy and realised I'm blessed that my loved one is still with me and I'll make the most of it because I won't be lucky again.

I know what you mean and I wish people could just appreciate things they have before it's too late. There's nothing worse than living with guilt and remorse

[Simslover92]

My aunt who was like a sister to me because we were so close in age dying only at 24 and I was 17 at the time. It made me realize time is precious and we really only have so little of it in this world. It taught me to cherish all the people in my life and to try to live everyday like it could be my last.

[Emmytexrex]

I don't like being vulnerable but here we go ok when I was a kid I was abused a lot almost by everyone kids at school neighbors when I say almost everyone It was deep but that made me to look at myself and grow in learn and wisdom I worked on myself so hard to the point nobody could ever believe I am that kid that a lot of people were abusing I took there abusiveness as a motivation for my growth

[Bricealan]

@charliefretz329 The deaths of all my immediate family... mother, father, and recently my only brother, sister-in-law.. from Cancer...

[MemeSupreme]

idkk i've had a lot of shitty things happen WHICH i won't trauma dump you with

so i'll just say tumblr as a kid bc i got properly exposed to like 2000s emo culture lol

[Dongie]

Which one?
I'd have to list all the traumatic events then visit them and define each change and im not going to. So that's that, sorry.

[Fatal96]

High school; I became more introverted after I graduated.

[NathanDavis]

being born...

[katiesmuff]

Marriage and children!

[fonduegirl]

Middle school bullying