How often to you think about people who have passed on in your life?

[DishLady]

I know there isn't a "loss" category on G@G, but we're given so much bad advice when facing a loss... There are people I think of daily who were the center of my life for long stretches of time... and though time has passed I think of them often, reference things they would have done, and feel stronger for doing so.

If you've had experience with loss and care to share a bit about it, I guess this is your time. :)

[ohsheeT]

Depending on what's going on in life at any given moment

All it takes is the right words at any given moment. And I will think about a friend or a family member but there is all something that pops up or I hear or even question on here that will trigger a memory or a thought

So sometimes daily sometimes weekly

And my belief is that even tho they have pasted from our daily lives I believe that there are in another dimension, or even this dimension.\nBut we just can't see their energy. I know I can feel it sometimes where I will just get goosebumps everywhere over my body when thinking about it like right now

We're all energy.\n And everything has a constant vibration to it. So it keeps energy alive, whether you're in your body or your spirit, your soul or your energy is still alive. Energy does not die. There's always energy everywhere. So if you believe in past lives or incarnation , then if you were a hundred years ago and everybody that was in your life , your family
One way or another, if we come back on this planet, we are going to be joined somehow.\n In the same family or as a friend, but there's always a connection. Because energy is energy.
Sometimes when I read on here about soul mates or twin flames, and that connection that they have, sometimes I believe that connection is the knowing the person in a past life, their soul, their spirit, their energy. And that's why you have such a connection, I believe that's why you have thoughts about them each and every day. What you understand energy. And how it works like I have a voice on here. You could be on the east coast , i'm on the west coast , and we can be talking on the phone and we can fill each other as if we are standing right in front of each other

I will take that even a step further. Let's pretend that you're having phone sex and you can take that person\n With your words that you're using with your energy to a better orgasm than you could, if it was physical because of energy. So when we think of somebody that has passed it , same type of connection when you think of them , you'll get goosebumps all over your whole body , it's the same thing as being on the phone from the East Coast to the West Coast, and you feel that you can feel the same thing, no matter how they are.\nEnergy is the universe.\nSo you can feel everything once you start understanding energy

[ArrowheadSW]

Yes I think of friends who have passed on very often. I'm at that point in life where it is happening. It is hard to deal with but it is the inevitable over time. One old friend last year passed on from a heart issue, who I had been friends with since I was 19. I knew he had a heart problem but I expected him to last longer. Also both of my parents are gone now and I think of them very often.

One way of coping is to remember the good things that you learned from them. I learned a lot of good things from my parents and I'm glad that I listened to them when I did. My friend who passed on last year was a great guy who grew up underprevileged but made the most of life. He always had good things to say about "life" in general. He listened to me in my younger years when I was navigating through the dating scene and I needed to vent.

[ArrowheadSW]

That old friend of mine who died last year was 5 years older than me. I remember his stories about his younger years. There were some life circumstances where he ended up on his own when he was 15. (Imagine that.) Something to do with being from a broken home and his dad moving out of state and his mom being homeless. He was a guy who truly made the most of life. At that age, instead of living on the streets, he got a job cleaning a restaurant at night and spent the night there. He knew to enroll in high school, so he enrolled in the local high school and got a local resident with mental health issues to sign as a guardian. He went to college and worked various jobs in the creative fields and was reasonable successful.

[MontBlanc]

I think about them fairly often, especially in quiet or reflective moments.

Sometimes it’s memories that make me smile, other times lessons they left behind or moments I wish I could share with them. They’re not just in the past , they still influence how I see the world and the choices I make.

[DishLady]

Same. We say "Memory Eternal" and remember them just as you're describing. <3

[MontBlanc]

Absolutely ❤. “Memory Eternal” really captures it , their presence stays with us, shaping how we live and who we become, even long after they’re gone.

[douride2]

I have lost both parents at different times some years back. I also lost my oldest brother 2 years ago now. We all thought he was the healthy one who would outlive us all. His death was very sudden & unexpected. He is the one that I think of most times.

[DishLady]

My mom and a few others who have passed were like that -- SO healthy, but then something unexpected took them.

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you asking about people who are no longer in my life because we went separate ways, our people who have died?

[DishLady]

Either is fine. I meant "passed on" (death), but some departures are deep and for life even though the other person isn't dead. Either is fine.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have a few former partners who are now deceased. The first is the girl to whom i lost my virginity. She died about three years ago but o had not thought about her in many years. The other was my first wife. We married in 1987 and divorced in 2004. I paid her alimony for several years but she remarried and that ended. She died in 2024 and my feelings for her had long since resolved.

I learned, many years ago, to let go of old feelings for exes because anything else will just consume you.

[Bricealan]

@DishLady My only brother died January 6, 2025, and not a day goes by that he is not on my mind.

[DishLady]

I understand. Where I come from we say "May his memory be eternal" so we can remember the best parts of the person who has passed on.

[tfan1]

Please I can’t. Questions like this make me tear up thinking of my dad. Time heals all wounds is a double edged bullschit saying. Yes it dulls the pain, but it also slowly destroys the memories which if you think about them, reopens the wounds again.

[DishLady]

I'm like that with the loved ones I've lost.

[tfan1]

😞😢💔

[DarKnight36]

I lost very dear friends in accidents. I think of their families; their screams and helplessness never leave my mind. I always remember them fondly. I believe they are in heaven.

[exitseven]

I think about my parents and my best friend who died 2 years ago. Sometimes when I can't sleep I think of a friend from college who was murdered.

[MicahRaine]

A lot 😂 Unfortunate perk of being young and having dead friends.

[worldscolide]

My grandfather, mother in law, father in law, all the time. I miss them all dearly.

[spartan55]

Every single day without fail.

[DishLady]

<3 <3 <3

[Ironco]

All the time... I've lost everyone and everything close to me. So it's a daily thing.

Probably why I'm always helping others, or doing things all the time.

[CubaPirate]

Everyday I really miss my father

[Staximus]

Pretty often

[Cidknee]

Quite often.