What does it mean when people say I am so “calm”?

[bobalife]

I recall my old co-workers would have big reactions about particular situations or even when I disagreed with them about somethings. I always think mindfully before responding.

My recent internship journey was very tough and I remained resilient to finish it. My co-interns said they don’t know how I do it and if I could do it.. then, they could do it too. They shared I inspired them to be optimistic and strong.

But one thing I realized was commonly mentioned is the repetitive word describing me as “calm” in situations when it’s not always easy, others may have more explosive reactions, or disagreements.

I don’t believe we need to be loud to be heard, strong, and resilient. I always believe in how do we frame our approach to be heard and seen.

[NathanDavis]

that's... if I remember it correctly, the bridge between the prefrontal cortex and the amygdala, it's like a way faster lane for some people... so there's less of a reaction, and/or more control over it

also... could just be your "default role" in group situations or dynamics, you just chill and wait... instead of taking over, lol

[bobalife]

Very science 😂😂😂

Funny thing is I’m actually very calm or super extra in a derpy way 😭

[NathanDavis]

what's one thing that would make you run away, or freak out...

bugs? spiders? snakes? dogs? bears?

[bobalife]

Lmaooooo alllll of themmmm!!!😭😭😭

Except dogs, I’d be freakin out in the best and adoring them way bc I loveee dogs, they’re so cute!

[NathanDavis]

do you work with mostly men? or more like 50/50... other women as well?

[bobalife]

Both! Why do you ask?

[NathanDavis]

because, as I said... group dynamics, that could be the basis of it

generally speaking, men do tend to react or act quick, more competitive... they get louder, and all that

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgW7ucg4n7M

[Still-alive]

probably in tense situations or arguments you know how to remain calm or even diffuse the atmosphere and let cooler head prevail. you are likely seen as someone who can do this well and is thus a 'leader'

I knew there was something special about ya lol. You're probably way more tolerant of certain types of people than i am lol.

[bobalife]

Thanks friend! :)

[Nikki1989]

It is a compliment, but as you probably know, the stress heads of this world hate it. They hate seeing someone who is cool, calm, happy, and successful in life. Hell, I've even gotten flak for being like that on here.

[WhitneySnow]

Your approach is what makes you seem calm. You don’t flip out.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

In my experience, it means, you represent, depending on who is saying it:

• A calming force they enjoy
• A sluggish person they are annoyed by
• A combination of the two

You can guess which option it is gonna be when you read them enough?

[molonski2]

Relaxed and in control I would think.
To control the circumstance best result is to be Calm..

[bobalife]

It’s funny bc my mind might be 🤯 at times, but I try to think before reacting lol. I agreed with you overall.

[molonski2]

They used to say to me..
" If you were any more relaxed you'd be in a Coma " nothing could have been further from the truth..

[bobalife]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 omg that’s too funny. You’re probably the certified as the calmest of them all.

[molonski2]

I never felt that I was calm , but other felt I was...

[bobalife]

Sameeee lol my mind is like 🤯 but I’m like 💆🏼‍♀️

[molonski2]

Yeah , 100% get it hahaha 🤣

[LC75LC71]

It seems that you have a tactful way of approaching things and dealing with them. Doesn't work for everyone.

[bobalife]

Interesting 🧐

[LC75LC71]

Indeed, a one word reply..

[bobalife]

Lmao! Woooow that was so insightful and helpful skillset suggestion indeed sir LC!

I just realized it’s you LC! You changed your DP to NY! Lol

[bobalife]

Can’t believe you found me.. in my new question after all 🧐

[LC75LC71]

Kool kool, I prefer the sarcastic over the mundane. I was going to upload a pic of lady liberty's backside but thought it might be too much.

[bobalife]

Let’s stay classy, sir LC.🧐 LOL

[LC75LC71]

i know since I've followed exactly 0 people here! What a coincidence!

[bobalife]

Ikr, what a coincidink, you’re too kool to follow anyone. I’m usually inactive. Maybe if you’re lucky, you’ll find me in another question post since you follow 0 ppl😃

[LC75LC71]

Why do chicks have to double post? Throws off the whole vibe since men usually can't type near as fast..

[bobalife]

Boys gonna be boys, so chicks gonna be chicks lolz. Not true, I met men who out typed me 🥲 I’m impressed if I out typed you even with my splint on 😂😭

[LC75LC71]

And they probably got carpel tunnel.. Well catch ya next time, calm splint owner!

[bobalife]

….. sadly I just got diagnosed yesterday I have it bc of work 😔💔

[RedInnocent69]

That you emit green energy. Cats probably like to sleep on you too

[bobalife]

Looool!!! I’m dead about cats comment 😂 green energy? 0:

[rapfan107]

Trying to make it like they're not actually upset whne they are

[bobalife]

It is my valid concern as well… 🥹 you’re the only one who caught and mention this

[rapfan107]

Well from my experience thats what they say !! You can tell they're upset about a situation but try playing like noo im calm🙄that mostly happens with guys

[bobalife]

Lmao wait you’re absolutely right, men tends to do this 😂 but for my case of someone saying I am calm.. do you think they’re upset I appear calm or?

[rapfan107]

Well usually they're not!! You said calm down for reason right? Like from my experience whne they tell me im calm 🙄no mf you're not!! You almost punched someone and turned red like a tomato

[bobalife]

I don’t think we’re talkin about the same thing, but I’m so dead you’re so funny😂😭😂😭😂

[rapfan107]

Oh really well those are my experiences sadly 🤣 what was your situation?

[AngryCarl3]

That's radical! What's your secret? I'm so highly strung I was prescribed meds for Generalized Anxiety Disorder.

[bobalife]

I have a lot of anxiety too. No sekret. I think for me it’s just about genuinely listening and understanding where others are coming from first. Then, mindfully respond calmly and clearly. I always try to stay intentional as a person and professionally.

[shortster]

It sounds like a compliment.

[bobalife]

I hope so 😊

[Anonymous]

that's impressive you can stretch far enough to pat yourself on the back. 😏

[bobalife]

Don’t everyone can pat themselves on back? lol. It’s good to be your own cheerleader lol

[Opinion Owner]

yes. I was just teasing. I'd pat you on the back, and anywhere else I could. 😏

[bobalife]

Anon you’re getting little too handsy on my post about staying calm😇

[Opinion Owner]

but but but, my hands are calm. they might be the only thing that is though

[bobalife]

Good anon, drink boba and stay calm 😌

[Opinion Owner]

i'm calm i'm calm. i think

[bobalife]

You got it: you are calm, you are calm anon 💆🏻

[Opinion Owner]

are you gonna pat me on the head and call me a good boy? haha

[bobalife]

Yeah! 😄 good boi *pat pat head

[Opinion Owner]

oh. i kinda like that. haha

[bobalife]

Who are you? Do I know you?😶🧐

[Opinion Owner]

i don't think you've ever talked to me. maybe anonymously on here

[bobalife]

Lol I figure but I was jw who’s trying to secretly flirt with me publicly

[Opinion Owner]

not me. i'm innocent

[bobalife]

😂😂😂 mhmm definitely not you… 😌😏

[Opinion Owner]

😇😇😇 <--- that's me

[bobalife]

The biggest halo 🥹

[Opinion Owner]

that's what i wear. lol

[bobalife]

That’s good, good boy anon

stay calm and wear a big halo

[Opinion Owner]

i have the weirdest boner right now. 😏

[bobalife]

Remember to wear a halo

Until next time anon who will stay anon

[Opinion Owner]

i have to. what if you got mad? lol

[bobalife]

Sorry it’s not my vibe here and I would appreciate you to remain respectful with a halo. But I’m sure other women or men would be down with it here 🥹

[Opinion Owner]

i'll always have my halo to keep me company

[Opinion Owner]

you should dm me

[bobalife]

Lol you’re anon, you can DM me if you want.

[Opinion Owner]

i tried i tried. 🤣

[bobalife]

Lol oh? Which one is you to reply to?🤔😆

[Opinion Owner]

did you find me yet? :D

[Anonymous]

It means they can control themselves.

[bobalife]

Interesting 🧐