Afraid to move out of a triggering apartment—where do I start?

[Anonymous]

I need to leave the apartment I'm in it's triggering.

However whenever I think about leaving i feel afraid and don't know where to start.

Do you think I should start with an Airbnb for a few days?

[SueShe]

I would suggest you start by doing a table on a spreadsheet with all the items you need to consider. Put priorities on it and start with the highest priority.

Going to a hotel for a few days is not the solution because all you will achieve is to postpone even further what has to be done. Don't procrastinate on such an important issue as the moving.

Also, be selective with what you want to take with you and what not. Those items you don't want (or cannot) take to the new place can be given to either a thrift shop or perhaps to a charity organization rather than to be discarded.

Good luck.

[Asker]

The thing is more than the packing etc. it's the actual move to an apartment that scares me.

The packing can be done gradually. But moving itself scares me.

[SueShe]

I am aware that it can be scary. New neighborhood, adjusting to a whole bunch of new and possibly unfamiliar settings.

You cannot push it forever. Once you have to take the decision to do it. The sooner the better because the longer you wait, the scarier it gets.

[jshm2]

Don't be silly.

You'll put yourself in a worse situation. First thing is to check with your letting agent or landlord, to see if you can get some help.

[Cidknee]

Agoraphobia?

I'm no expert but I say just do it!🎭

[Asker]

Definitely have some agoraphobia

[Cidknee]

I've dealt with not wanting to be around others but I don't think it quiet qualifies as the disorder. But possibly. This would have been back during and right after adolescence.
So I don't know what to say except that I made myself confront it.

[slatyb]

I think you should see a professional counselor.