If you see a woman hitting a man in public, what should you do?

[Anonymous]

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A number of people who have answered this question have said something like "call the cops and report it" or "somehow involve the police."What people do not realize, of course, is that when you call the police, even if it's a woman who assaulted a man, unless she's killed him or done serious and obvious physical injury to him, the police are much more likely to arrest the man than they are the woman, even though the man was the victim. This sort of thing has happened to many men.

[Finchie40]

Tell him to leave her ass because nobody should be hitting anyone , that is domestic abuse and something he should not tolerate whatsoever , and you are right about the cops favoring the female, because my ex attacked me not to long ago when I was sound asleep in bed , and all I did was grab her to stop her from attacking me , I didn’t punch her at all , but since I gripped her wrists to hard and she was trying to break free, I guess my finger nail cut her wrist and gave her a little scratch , to make her bleed a little , so when the cops came , they arrested me instead of her. because she was showing a little scratch and blood , and completely ignored the fact that she attacked me first , so now I am suffering the consequences of her actions , which I feel is a bunch of bullshit , I have never experienced anything like this in my lifetime, I have never been arrested before and always had a clean record my whole life until now and , now I being treated like a convicted criminal until I complete these domestic violence classes that were mandated by the court , after this happened , I was let go from my job and now I can’t land another one, because of my record , I have to wait until I am done these classes until this shit comes off of my record , which I have 20 more classes to go , which is another 2 and a half months, then I can hopefully get a decent job again , it’s such bullshit and I will never forgive her for this whatsoever, the girl needs serious mental help

[Asker]

Sorry to hear this just happened to you, but quite honestly, this happens to lots of men. The worst thing that a man can do at a domestic violence incident is to call the cops, because he's the one who's going to get arrested, no matter what actually occurred. The police absolutely favor women and discriminate against men in these incidents, mainly because if they arrest women, they get in lots of trouble, but if they arrest men, nothing really bad occurs for the cops.

[Finchie40]

Yea the night I was locked up I was in there with a bunch of guys’ that were arrested for the same thing , which blew my mind , I said what is this crazy bitch night and they all started laughing. I was released the very next day , because this was my first offense ever , but I was in there from 2 am in the morning until 3 pm in the afternoon when the judge was finally ready to see us , the judge told me I could nt go back to my home and told me to make no contact with her whatsoever because I have a PFA on me until the court date , so I wasn’t able to go to my home whatsoever or contact her. So I ended up staying at friends’ houses and hotels until the court date came , the day of court , I showed up and she dropped all the charges , which I was shocked she did , when I got home I told her it’s best for her to go stay with her brother because this isn’t working whatsoever, I said once the house sells , I will still give you half of the money and go our separate ways for good , because there is no coming back from this whatsoever. I told her she needs to get serious help and that I cannot live in the same roof with her anymore , she agreed and packed her things and left Now that she doesn’t live with me , she is still starting shit with me every chance she gets by trying to play this victim when really she is the POS , but I am controlling myself as much as possible to not snap, because I do not want to go back to jail whatsoever, now that I am taking these classes, all the guys’ I am in class with all pretty much are experiencing the same thing with their crazy exes as well , and we all have similar stories about what happened , so it’s funny to me that these girls’ are
Getting away with their behaviors and attitudes and acting like they are victims when really they are the abusers. My ex and I were married for 20 years and we made 3 beautiful children , when the kids’ got older , she decided she no longer wanted to be tied down to me and wanted to be

[Finchie40]

Single so she could go be a white , or whatever she has planned , she completely changed on me like a flip of a switch , I felt used and devastated that she decided to do this to our family , and it’s because she became friends’ with a snooty girl that is a complete bitch as well that influenced her to be against me. I honestly think they are dyking it out by how they act with each other , it’s very shady and weird and I am not the only one that thinks it , she was never like this with her other friends’ so I told her I know she is t going to tell me the truth but I know you are up to no good with this girl, so I hope the both of you have a happy life together but please stay out of my life and leave me the fuck alone , but she doesn’t , it’s like she gets off on raining on my parade , the girl is mentally sick on the head and that’s why when I sell this house I am moving the fuck out of this area and moving in with my brother

[Finchie40]

Whore not white lol

[Asker]

Apparently, if you peacefully or relatively peacefully stop a woman from physically attacking you, this is then interpreted as an attack on the woman, and you wind up in jail or worse every time. You literally are not allowed to stop a woman from attacking you other than by running away if you can do that. Even for those guys that do run away, all the woman has to do is allege physical harm to herself, even in the absence of any other corroborating physical evidence, and the man will be found guilty and sentenced to the same things or worse than you've had to go through. What this comes down to is that men are perpetrators a hundred percent of the time and women are victims a hundred percent of the time in the eyes of the law.

[Finchie40]

Yea when the cops were arresting me , I said I am getting arrested for defending myself? I said if I punched her she would of been knocked the fuck out , I said you guys’ are arresting the wrong person , just because I am not showing blood she gets away with what she did? I said this law is a bunch of bullshit and so wrong. The cops kind of agreed but said they are just doing their job , and then they were telling me what to do and say in court because they know my ex has a history of psychotic episodes and have been to my home multiple times for her mental break downs. It just shows how girls’ are favored in the court system and good men get shit on

[CalmUntilAbused]

Grab the closest heavy, blunt object and hit the woman to the back of her head. Sorry, not sorry, for all I know she might be a SCUM (Society for Cutting Up Men) member taking part in the execution of the #KillAllMen directive. I would not make sure she is no longer alive, though. That would be going a step too far. Maybe the hit can rewrite her personality and make her sane.

[MemeSupreme]

depends on the situation tbh

like where are we (like work, the mall, a park, or on the streets), is there security nearby, how severe it is, have i heard context (like cheating), are they being overly loud, how are the cops in that district, and stuff like that.

i dont think there's only just one answer to this

[jazzy34]

Mind your business and keep walking. Or if you have to do something, call the cops from a distance. Either way, that situation is none of your business.

[OneViewpoint]

First find out if that's actually a woman. And while you're at it you may as well make sure that guy is actually a guy. That's important these days. So pause the fight for a crotch inspection. Once the gender confusion has been sorted out the fight rules can be determined.

[InknKink]

Nothing.

In most cases. a woman isn't capable of posing any sort of physical danger towards men. Sorry laddies... but most of you do more damage to yourselves than others when attempting to physically harm another person.

And if it should happen that I see a trained female fighter start cracking a guy... that's just free entertainment.

p. s. I likely wouldn't intervene or do anything about a male on male fighter ether. Only time I'd feel obligated to interject is in a male on female clear case of domestic abuse situation which I have never in my 37 years witnessed firsthand.

[Asker]

Why is a woman getting hit something that you'd like to do something about, but a man getting hit you're just going to walk away from?

[InknKink]

It's how I was raised. Men should know how to fight and take a hit while woman and children should be protected from violence. It's just who I am.

[Asker]

Well, you will change your mind about that when you get beaten half to death, or you get a few limbs broken, or you get shot or stabbed. You'll change your mind about who you are real quick. Being a white knight to some woman who doesn't give a damn about you is gonna get old real quickly.

[Asker]

Sure tough guy go right ahead and prove what a really big tough guy you are. When you get badly hurt or killed, don't come crying to us. You want to be stupid like that and waste your life. Go ahead.

[InknKink]

You think protecting those who cannot protect themselves is a waste of a life?

[Asker]

I think not wanting to protect men is shameful.

[Asker]

Apparently, you've never been physically attacked by a woman. I have. It's not as benign as you think it is, and if it ever happens to you, which I certainly hope it doesn't, you're going to have to deal with the follow-up from that just like I did. Remember that women can use weapons just as well as men can sometimes.

[NoDecision]

Join in because he probably deserves it. But seriously, probably nothing as you don't know the reason for it. And you certainly don't want to support the wrong party.

[spartan55]

You report the incident and let the police handle it. So you would do the same thing if the genders were reversed?

[objective_calendar]

Call the cops. Irrespective of their gender, it's assault. And yes I would do the same vice-versa.

[spartan55]

Wow, a single pink user has a moral compass.

[CalmUntilAbused]

@spartan55 Yeah, that's impressive!

[spartan55]

Start filming after I'm certain someone is watching my back.

[spartan55]

The number of pink users who wouldn't even call the police is just insane. I guess none would expect anyone to help you God forbid.

[TonyMetal___86]

Why did the guy let her hit him? 🤔
Can't he defend himself? Well if she looks big and strong and he's weak and small, i'll go and stop her but other than that, it's his business, man up!

[Asker]

He can probably defend himself, but here in the United States, if you hit a woman or scare her, or even scare her, no matter the reason, you're going to go to jail. Police differentially arrest men here and differentially, do not arrest women. The best thing you can do if a woman starts getting physical like that with you is to just get away from her as fast as possible.

[TonyMetal___86]

And why these men stay shut? Why don't they go on the streets to change such laws? 🤔
If anyone gets physical with me, do you think that i care about a sh*tty oppresing law? I'll make this girl regret it and making her a lesson to everyone who allows themselves thinking that it's okay to hurt others cause they will get away with it!

[Asker]

You may not fully understand how serious things get when men hitting women and get arrested. Many of them wind up in prison. Also, men don't like hitting women and don't like doing things like that as you probably know. So combine those two things and very few men are willing to defend themselves against women.

[TonyMetal___86]

Well it's their problem and don't worry i understand and i know what you mean, but if there's something wrong and you stay silent about it, than it means that you're accepting it in a way or another...

[Staglioni]

The short answer from my own experience is because she said if I ever tried to stop her doing it or said anything she would smash her own face in and go to the Police and say I did it, and they would never believe me because I'm a man. And based on some of the responses talking about it afterwards even to therapists, lawyers, etc., she may have been right. All you can do guys is get out ASAP, sorry.

[Asker]

How is he supposed to stop her?

[Asker]

@Staglioni unfortunately, she was right. Men are never believed, and women are always believed.

[Chazmatazz269]

Intervene if it’s safely possible. Call the police and stick around to make a witness statement.

[Veronika_p]

I think a man who genuinely wants a relationship usually finds a way to make that clear.

[Staximus]

I see anybody hitting anybody else in public and I think a persons life is in danger, I’m going to do something about it

[LiamJHayden]

What are the specifics? She's 5'4 and 130 and he's 6'2 and 200? Ignore. She's hitting an 80+ year old who is in a wheelchair? Put an end to it.

[LC75LC71]

Dammit large woman! Just because he got a one pin victory in bowling doesn't mean you can assault him! Or something.

[HighValue]

Tell the man, "don't take that from a woman. Kick her a$$!"

[AngryCarl3]

I wouldn't do anything. It's not like she can do any damage with her hand.

[EmmaMary]

Totally avoid the confrontation.

[spartan55]

Disgusting. If genders were reversed would you do the same?

[EmmaMary]

Why is It disgusting, and yes I would.

[spartan55]

Disgusting to watch any person get beat on and not call the police?

[Anonymous]

Just shake your head. It's unfortunate, but he isn't in any danger.

[Nikki1989]

Mind your own business.

[blackeagle007]

No one has any right to hit anyone. No more feminism please

[andreasderjuengere]

I'd get my first aid kit ready.

[loveyouoak]

I’d just keep walking.

[spartan55]

What about if a guy is beating his girlfriend into the ground? Still looking the other way?

[lessthansane]

Take her out at the knees

[ThisSiteSux]

I live in Texas. I'd shoot her to death

[dudeinohio]

Call police

[DirtyOldMan777]

yell at him to back hand her.

[Pterodon]

Call the police

[Asker]

If you call the police, they're going to arrest you, not her. Do you think calling the police is a good solution to this problem?

[Pterodon]

Why would they arrest me stupid? I’m a witness

[Asker]

Police virtually always arrest a man in domestic violence and sentence. If they arrest women, they get in trouble. If they arrest men, they just get an arrest to their credit. I know it doesn't make any sense, but this is exactly what happens.

[Pterodon]

You’re paranoid and need institutionalized for your safety

[Asker]

No, I'm not being paranoid, and you're being an asshole. Men get arrested like this all the time, and this has been the experience of almost every man on here except you.