You boyfriend/girlfriend has dated interracially in the past-do you have a problem with it?

Question

You find out that your girlfriend or boyfriend has dated interracially in the past, meaning they've dated someone of a different race. Do you have a problem with it or are you accepting of it or is it whatever? Would your opinion of them change?

superqueer · Accepted Answer

Yes, I would definitely care, and it would be a deal breaker. I am not ashamed to admit it. I believe in equal rights and opportunities for everyone, but I don't believe in racial mxing.

And to all those who claim that only hillbillies or small minded mutants feel this way, well, embrace your new age mumbo jumbo if you like; I know that I won't be able to change your minds. Just know this: no one is going to give you a medal for being a white person that dates other races in order to be politically correct. If you really want to, then fine, but don't pretend like the sun is somehow shining out your backside because you do, and that other white people who don't want to, are somehow inferior creatures of the night. We are still allowed to have freedom of choice and freedom of expression in today's time, and that means that a white person should be able to be honest about his preferences in dating without being assaulted and harassed for being displeased with a girl's inter-racial dating track record. It does not even make him a racist, just culturally conscious and conservative.

He might view a white girl that has done this as being just a tad too liberal and indisciplined to have made such a bold move. In other words, they just won't be compatible. Whitenes and the features of white people - brown, red and blond hair, green and blue eyes, etc. are recessive and it might concern a man that the hite girl he is dating was at some point willing to not pass on those features. It is his right to like whiteness that much if he does. She will then be better off to be with a white man who doesn't care, but this does not make the other white guy a bad person. If it does, then why is someone who tries to conserve a certain threatened language from going extinct not considered as a hater of other languages?

Also keep in mind that us white people are not particularly blessed when it comes to penis size, with only small percentage having above 7" penises. So you might think you are this wonderful, open minded white guy, but when you make love to your white girl she is going to subconsciously compare you to the 12" African American lovers she had slept with in the past and oh boy, will you be coming up short in that department. Don't be surprised if that's the reason she leaves you. This is only logical and natural. They say size doesn't matter, but that's just women trying to be PC. In the back of their minds they will resent you for being inferior. Not that I have had personal experience with this matter (: it's just pure common sense.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

anyone who votes A is almost surely inbred...

nyalalam · Accepted Answer

A. Most definitely A. I will never knowingly date a white girl that had dated outside her race in the past. I believe one must be loyal to your race, at least sexually. I will also immediately dump a girl I'm in a relationship with if I find out that she has done this. I will make a point to find this out before I get too invested in her. Luckily I don't live in the USA. Here where I live white girls are still conservative and have their heads screwed on firmly. Also no self-righteous people here that will call me backwards for simply not buying into this new age, hip-hop, color-blindness propaganda. Sure, everyone can have equal rights, but date your own race, thank you very much. I won't try to stop you from dating outside your race if you really want to; I'll simply lose sexual interest in you and it is my right to dump you for it.

I have to laugh at all the beta white males and liberal wussies insulting people who vote A. Have fun thinking you are better than others. If you liberals can only realize how intolerant and totalitarian you are. More power to you if you don't care about this issue, but don't insult or try to incriminate those who do.

oOsweet~o~nessOo · Accepted Answer

Depends on their intentions.

I prefer white / Hispanic / Asian guys -

I've met a couple white guys who have black gf's because they actually care and love these women. Then I've met others who just want to have a sexual experience with other races, but give all their true affections to women of their own race.

It' works sometimes like that in other races too - guy just happened to be white in my example lol

Anyway - if the guy has dated openly, and not exclusively while flinging with other races , then I'd be more eased in his intentions.

If he prefers his own race and just wants another flavor to sample on the side - then I'd be bothered by it.

But who wouldn't be bothered being the side dish?

xochanelxo15 · Accepted Answer

I experienced with a white guy before and once we ended he told me that he was embarressed to go out with me because of my race. A few weeks later, I found out he hooked up with a few girls of his own race..if bothered me a lot because of the way he told me when we originally broke up. We both made this decision to because I just wasn't committed anymore, and I was attracted to someone of my own race within the relationship. And I felt dishonest so I told him, he might of said this out of anger and his actions definitely showed..but it's over now. I honestly do not care, but I think you would have to experience an interracial relationship and a breakup with that to understand this question and where she's comming from.

Camilus · Answer

If it is a white woman and they only dated guys of another race exclusively and then dated me (white guy) then it might make me think something was up. I would think she had low esteem for her race (most likely low self-esteem too), but now she wants to go back to her race after getting jaded from too many dudes from the other race.

If I date a girl of a different race and she has dated interracially before then it would make me feel more at ease knowing I'm not the only white guy she has been with and the relationship isn't some kind of experiment.

If it's any woman that just dates whatever guy she likes no matter what race they are then it wouldn't bother me.

brokenbutbreathing · Answer

No. I would not have a problem. In fact, I can't even see it as something that needs to be mentioned.

Seriously people - who cares?

Skin color is as important as hair color.. ie, it's not.

And talking about different cultures makes no difference either. People who grew up in London differ from those who grew up in the countryside.. And they're the same race.

The only thing I'd have a problem with, is people that have a problem with this. If I found out that any of my friends were that racist I honestly think I'd have issues ever looking at them in the same light.

kheserthorpe · Answer

I'd be worried that if she had dated a lot of guys from a race with small penises, she'd be used to the easy quickies, and disappointed with how much foreplay she'd need to comfortably handle me.

Well, worried might be overstating it a bit ...

Matrim · Answer

umm wtf? I'm sorry but this is the most meaningless question ever. I would have a problem if they dated sheep or dogs...One would think that humans date humans right?

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

I would prefer a boyfriend who hasn't but I would overlook it if it was just for sex or he didn't really care about her. Also if the majority of girls he dated were his race I'd overlook it. But not someone who has dated outside their race repeatedly unless he's mixed himself.

Kladdpapper · Answer

It was only until when I began visiting this site that I realized people actually care about 'race' when they date. This is not present in the place I live and if someone would say they did not want to date someone because of their race they would be shunned and pretty much hated by everyone. Preferences is a whole other thing like liking blondes or dark eyes, but refusing to date a decent nice person because of their race is ridiculous in my view. :)

Anonymous · Answer

Well, where I live it seems like most of the white girls that do date interracially go with thuggish types of guys. If that's the case, no I would not date her. That would be the same if she was dating a similar type of white guy too, though. If she was dating someone a little more similar to me and he happened to be of another race, I'd be fine with it.

EngineeringStudent · Answer

I'm not insecure/racist, so why would I care?  Wouldn't change at all.

UnoriginalUsername · Answer

Lololol. I know of people like that. I don't get it. I wouldn't care one bit.

Mrsupaakeru · Answer

This thread looks like a trap for racists! I dare anyone to say they wouldn't date a person who had dated outside of their "race"(whatever that means). The poor little xenophobe would have to post anonymously.

ps just so everyone knows: totally NOT a racist!

osalien · Answer

I think some white guys might fear that you've been stretched out by some 'big black brothas' and won't be able to reach where they've been. Of course, having this belief would denote a lack of self confidence and understanding of human anatomy. If your guy has a problem with it you should dump the chump. If homegirl hating then she just a dumb bitch.

BeautifulButterfly99 · Answer

I found out that for the whole year before we started dating, my boyfriend had joined an interracial dating site and interacted with many many black women and dated one for several months. He also had a long distance relationship online for months with a black woman that he called his soulmate and asked her to marry him. (I found their old conversation). We have been dating for 2 years. As a white woman... This really bothers me and I can't let go of it. I wouldn't care if he occasionally dated a black woman because race didn't matter... but because he went looking specifically for only black women on this site and liked soooo many of them, I feel like he has a preference for black women and I don't want to be someone's second preference. He says he loves me more than anyone he had ever known and he doesn't care about anyone else and wants to be with me for the rest of his life, but I still struggle with this.

Prescribed_By_Me · Answer

lol...I would respond with cool and ask about the cultural difference they experienced with that partner. I see no problem with it...I don't really plan out who to date whomever comes along that I become interested in I date no matter past interracial relationships. I accept that person for who they are...now if you asked me how I would feel if my boyfriend dated someone with AIDS or an STD in the past I just might have to say goodbye. Safety First! ha.

palek · Answer

Only a small-minded mutant would have a problem with such a thing.

MrJune · Answer

Personally, No. I feel sorry for people who are racist, or bothered with people who can look past the color of someone's skin, or the label of someone's race and find true happiness.

cun7n1nja · Answer

Nah, that kind of thing is pretty irrelevant to me.

gonyr · Answer

wouldnt care, but I will acknowledge that there sometimes is a stigma in our society when you see a white girl whos been with a few black guys.

but anyone who says that they would have a problem can no longer refer to Kim Kardashian as hot

MissConfused93 · Answer

Umm no. Because I only date interracially. I've been with a black guy, an el salvadoran, a Mexican, ...

sunseeker11 · Answer

keep your perviously sexual encounter to your self.  it will because touble later,

Pedantic · Answer

I wouldn't have a problem with it, but it would matter. I would basically see them as more enlightened and I would expect to get more out of the relationsihp as a result.

blossom7409 · Answer

why should that really matter? I am sure there are other past related things that are much much more important than who they dated and what race. but I understand some people are offended by such stuff for whatever reason.

Alpha_1 · Answer

Yes, ofcourse it would matter...if I was an uncultured hillbilly.

Hazel63 · Answer

Not at all! Its irrelevant to me. I've dated interracially myself :) love and attraction is color blind to me

Sayaka1202 · Answer

I wouldn't mind at all. I would, however be concerned if they had dated a different species. ^^

-Asmo- · Answer

Completely accepting of it... shouldn't make any difference. In fact, they are probably more interesting because of it.

theydidntnameme · Answer

no I wouldn't have a problem. if they did date interracially, my opinion would change for the better.

mark_boss · Answer

I might think about it but I won't make a big deal about it. Your relationship is about you and your girlfriend/boyfriend and has nothing to do with their past relationships.

KrystalMeth · Answer

No why would I be bothered?! Heck I'd date inter-racially! Don't give a sh*t myself :)

menina · Answer

It would be great!  It means that he's an open-minded person. I see no problem. :)

AliceMcKay · Answer

I would never even think of it as a problem. Race really doesn't make a difference to me.

ESPNforever · Answer

A guy should be trying to take you as far from your past as possible. That way there's more room for your future. If a man is so stuck on your past, make him yours. Too insecure.

gialuan · Answer

No, I wouldn't mind. If he's dated women of VARIOUS races, that's even better! It shows me that he's not just into one particular race and that he's very open-minded.

wadsworthsucks · Answer

I'd have a problem if they kept talking to the other guy, or if they kept trying to compare me to them, only wanted to use me to make the guy jealous, etc.

Confused145 · Answer

It does matter. But not as much as people tend to believe. The real thing that matters is who her ex is. If her previous boyfriend was a rich hunk. That would make any guy feel a bit insecure.

IHateMeganFox · Answer

No why would I care. Hell even he might be a different race than me.

selfishstars · Answer

It wouldn't be a problem at all. It wouldn't even register to me.

MarcyNumNums · Answer

it should not matter what race he/she dated in the past as long as he/she doesn't make it effect the presnt

AndyWes · Answer

Personally, a bit of dislike about it, but it's not make or break, nor would I make an issue of it.

NothingGoldCanStay · Answer

I don't see a problem with it. My parents were an interracial couple as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Well if she dated a black guy before me I would think she has a black fetish. (since I can count the number of black guys in my city on one hand) Obviously I'm not black so wouldn't be able to fufil that fetish, so it might bother me a bit

Charnelle · Answer

My boyfriend, who is white, told me that he has a lot of friends who won't date a person if they have been with a black person.

EmilyW · Answer

Nope I wouldn't mind, I ain't no racist and I believe all people should be treated equally. As for racists they shouldn't even exist.

Prof_Don · Answer

Frankly...the race that someone is dating doesn't matter. So I voted "no". However, to the QA, I'm curious; how do people react negatively to interracial dating, that you know of?

PoliticallyIncorrect · Answer

I'd get the hell out of the relationship if I found out she'd been dating outside her race. But I date classy women, so I don't have to worry about that.

Bluegameroyon · Answer

if I could, I would TOTALLY date a red-head. so no, I don't have a problem if my Girlfriend has dated interracially in the past. i <3 red-heads.

Destinee7 · Answer

I wouldn't care at all, plus it's in the past so that's yet another reason why I wouldn't care.

May31 · Answer

No, why would I have a problem with that? Besides, it was in his past so who cares?

jacquesvol · Answer

No I would not have a problem with it. Certainly not !

xSweetestSinx · Answer

no, who cares about who they dated before they met you?

Anonymous · Answer

i personally would find it unattractive.. although by my terms of different race is mostly directed towards african Americans. I'm not racist I do have friends of color. but they act differently its true. and I don't find it attractive and don't find people who think its attractive, attractive

DiamondKutt · Answer

No. It wouldn't even make sense in my case because I prefer to date white men.

angyismytitle · Answer

It doesn't really change anything I don't think anything of it.

Shpongolia · Answer

It's always bad to talk in detail about any past dating partner to your signifiant other. PERIOD

lustful1 · Answer

no it would be completely fine with me its the past let it be that's how I look at things

blaizeandblue · Answer

It wouldn't matter what-so-ever; at all. It wouldn't change my opinion because it doesn't matter to me.

asianfreak · Answer

I wouldn't have a problem with it just because they're a different race. It just depends on the person one is dating.

Anonymous · Answer

It wouldn't bother me. But I think if a guy knew that a girl had dated a black guy, it might bother him

katie126 · Answer

Yes i would have a huge problem with it and would probably not be able to look past it but at least my boyfriend has never interracially dated.

Askingonly · Answer

I have a problem if they only date outside their race, my current girlfriend told me her admiration for one race and she was making an exception with me.  Should I marry her?

Wood-Carver777 · Answer

@Asker... what's your perspective on this question? Answer:No

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