Do interracial relationships bother you?

[Imuglyandiknowit]

yes all of them bother me

it depends on the mix up

no

[Mickey9999]

@anonymous there are plenty of happy poor people raising their families. You are the one that mentioned statistics for blacks which i agreed to but not for the same reason of just up and going away. I simply said it’s not that simple. There’s reason for their failures just as with any other race. How did natives do? Some did, many didn’t. They had their children stolen from them to be raised by evangelical strangers in boarding schools across this country. My own grandfather born in 1912 was a poor brick layer who struggled to properly raise his in white society. Out of nine children, two died in infancy with that comes hospital bills and funeral expenses in a day most didn’t have insurance of any kind as it was a luxury and still is. In the late 50’s, he was taken against his Will and put in a TB ward for a year because he was suspected to have TB. He never had it. So his family struggled more and my dad in his teens became the man of the house as he was drafted into the army. My grandfather never came back. The marriage was over. The stress overwhelmed him. He was already a drinker and became an alcoholic. I met him once just a year before his death. One son committed suicide facing a divorce at 25 and the rest battled with alcohol. Even my dad for a time period and he raised his siblings and financed his mother working more than 40 hours a week for GM and went to college to get a Masters degree in HR. How he broke the circle was a huge struggle and with determination but i can tell you I’m so much better off for it and so are my children who are in college. My daughter in law school. People don’t need to given everything but they do need the support system to succeed. So no I’m not quoting statistics, I like my family lived them. History has a huge effect and until you face that history, it’s only bound to repeat itself.

[Mickey9999]

Sorry posted this in the wrong spot 😉

[90sVibe]

I grew up in California so maybe it's because of my background, but NO! There's nothing to be bothered by for crying out loud! People love who they want to love and it's weird if people have a problem with that because of their skin color, race, or ethnic background. It's no one's business in reality so I don't feel like people should have a right to feel offended. The only concerns people should have are in their own relationships when it comes to stuff like that. There are always cultural and religious differences to be aware of but qe should always be respectful and considerate of others. It shows a lot of maturity, humility, and openness to love someone from a different background as yourself so I think if you're bothered by it then please keep it to yourself.

[magiusX26]

for those saying yes. how does other people dating actually affect you? does it cause you any harm? does it lessen you as another human? does it affect your ability to provide for yourself? or is it that it means more competition for dating that bothers you?

[magiusX26]

hope you do realize less than 1% of the world's human population is purely 1 "race" pretty much everyone is technically a mixed race these days. look into what all ethnicities make up a country. for example germany. german heritage has prussian, nordic, germanic (look up roman empire for better idea of the difference), and a few other ethnicities to it. so off that little info a pure bred german would still be a type if mixed race.

so all you who hate interacial dating, please go ahead and start hating yourselves and your parentage/family, you have my permission.

[johnsmall23]

@magiusX26 for me yes. I feel like i can't compete with black men

[Sonorous]

Who voted yes

[Sonorous]

whoever it was, show yaself mothafucka!

[jcnum10]

Yo. Ya got me dyin💯. Have some 🍰🍰

[Sonorous]

[magiusX26]

as of my vote of no, there are 13 guys and 1 girl who said yes. just wow.

[Sonorous]

@magiusX26 - dis world scary

[magiusX26]

i see you like sam jackson too

[magiusX26]

as for this world, i'ld say more dumb than crazy, but crazy is there too definitely

[jcnum10]

Some people always gonna have hate in they hearts.

Forget dem.

Almost 78% are fine wit.

The minority h8ers are the minority.

[Sonorous]

@jcnum10 - Crazy to think that I could date someone that just so happens to not be black and people will be fervently against it 😂

[jcnum10]

I agree lk wtf?

How does who we date really matter to some1 we never met?

Is that person's life that pathetic?

[Sonorous]

@jcnum10 - 😂 Right! Some do believe that certain races are inferior to another because the culture they're apart of differs from theirs in a way they view to be unfavorable. So then if they see someone that looks like they're from that culture being with someone from theirs or maybe with someone from another more "civilized" or "favorable" one, they'd see it as wrong. They'd maybe see the person from the culture they don't like as being a poison or a virus. And that the "superior" genes would be better off without them in their lives. But their flaw is that they're lumping culture in with race as if they're always interchangeable. :')

[jcnum10]

Yeah my dad's black and mom is white.
My mom used hear shit like I don't understand why a beautiful white woman like you would lower yourself to date someone like him. Or you'll regret it when he leaves you once your pregnant.

Wtf? My dad is one of the best men you could ever met and an amazing father.

[Sonorous]

@jcnum10 - Dang!! I bet that was motivation for her to make him a husband! And prove them people wrong!

With race, I understand why people feel so negatively when it comes to possible hardships. Because like attracts like, and culture is so deeply intertwined with race that there will inevitably be many correlations. And it doesn't help that the culture of black people nowadays is so relaxed and void of responsibility.

But people's flaws are when they start lumping everyone together. And not taking the time to get to know the individual person. For instance, they might accidentally lump someone like me in with the ones that are causing trouble. When in reality, I wasn't raised like a lot of people in my race were. And because of it, even I have never fit into black culture.

But I don't know if those types will ever see things in a reasonable way if they've stuck in their echo chamber for a long time. :')

[jcnum10]

Tru, but she didn't let any narrow minded person who can't see past skintone impact her decision.

Tru you could be put into the very small portion of us that are trouble.

I could spend hrs going into how i feel about our representation in the media and how it makes everyone including ourselves perceive black culture.

We are just as much to blame for that perception for allowing and supporting it.

[Sonorous]

@jcnum10 - "Tru, but she didn't let any narrow-minded person who can't see past skintone impact her decision."

^Oh yeah true, it's best if the determining factor isn't motivated by outside perceptions. She sounds wise!

"I could spend hrs going into how i feel about our representation in the media and how it makes everyone including ourselves perceive black culture."

^ I don't know a whole lot about this topic, what's a major flaw that you see? Maybe something recent or a recurring thing that seems to happen with the media regarding not portraying information correctly or accurately?

"We are just as much to blame for that perception for allowing and supporting it."

^ What steps do you feel should be taken to change these things?

[jcnum10]

Rap. It's a representation of our culture to outsiders. Is that how you want us perceived?
Reality tv.
They purposely pick thots and hood chicks.
9 out of ten of us do not act like dat.
But if ya not familiar with us. It's all ya know of us.

Movies we fatherless. We drug dealers or criminals. Rare occasions it's not they make sure to make it seem like it's not the norm with subtle hints. Like always ensuring he knows a criminal or came from a criminal area.
unless it is a black owned production company.

Media we have millions of peaceful well educated protesters preaching truths.

Instead the media purposely show the violent hateful angry protesters instead.

Media tries to pretend hawk Newsome is the leader of the black lives Matter movement to paint it as a terrorist group.

He supports and tries to be apart of it.

Blm has nothing to do with him. He tried to be apart of it but his hatred and racist behavior and violent means was something they wanted nothing to do with.

So he created some fake ass verison and people swear he da leader cuz the media claims it and the easily brainwashed believes all they see because it fits the belief they created.

The only time we see the tru message of BLM is on black owned media outlets or social media feeds where they preach love for eachother and police reforms to better serve the communities.

But when the media talks it. They tryin to get rid of the police.

[jcnum10]

Think about this.
If ya take a white boy who grew up wit all black people and he understands our culture he will act naturally.
Where do whiteboys who love black culture but doesn't know many of us learn how we act?
From rap, media.
They believe we act lk rappers and try to dress and act like that cuz that's how they see us.
How many of us act like that?
Very few.
Pro athletes celebrities why are they cautious of what they let the media see of them?
Most people make decisions on something or someone they don't know from how the media let's them see.

[Sonorous]

@jcnum10 - Ahh, I see. This topic is always hard to talk about for me because I really don't know the statistics and I don't keep up with the current events. I'm not your average black person when it comes to this. I usually like to stay away from it all. 😂 Mainly because I see it as a battle for a war that can never be won. Even if someone were racist against me, I'd be the type to be indifferent unless they showed hostile physical intent. I tend to be very (but not completely) passive.

[jcnum10]

I understand.

I am not gonna go out tryin to convince people but if asked.

I'm not gonna hold my tongue Either.

[Sonorous]

@jcnum10 - People like you are really what brings about change! I'm just too lazy in this regard 😂

[jcnum10]

thanks.💙
I get ya laziness is probably more the lack of wanting to deal wit the anger and hate dat comes wit it.
Many people do not want to hear da truth because dey like how it is and or being able to pretend it's not happening.

[Sonorous]

For me, it's more of not wanting to deal with such a controversial topic that I'm not passionate about. 😂 Because I won't necessarily be motivated to do a bunch of research to back up anything I say. It would all just be from my perspective of other people's experiences & my emotional perspective of my experiences.

Even if I were around people that were courteous and made the conversation goal-oriented, I still wouldn't be interested in anything except (briefly) maybe the data aspect. But with this, you often see more of it is qualitative and quantitative. It's something that people feel and wouldn't be portrayed accurately when statistics are brought up. Because statistics don't cover the nuances of the situation.

So, I'm more interested in social issues that are more clear cut and easy to observe. Probably because I can relate to them more. Haven't really had a strong issue with racism before. I've had more issues with certain cultural differences relating to specific social hierarchies.

"Many people do not want to hear da truth because dey like how it is and or being able to pretend it's not happening."

^ That's what's really scary because those people aren't even interested in hearing if they're part of the problem!

[jcnum10]

I can respect dat.
Yeah it's tru.
Race hierarchy isn't da only issue here in America.
Wealth hierarchy is huge problem as well.

But ya right look at the outrage wit kneelin during the national anthem.
Dat straight up lots of people mad cuz dey don't want us voicing this issue cuz dey don't want it fix.

a lot of people don't want to know about it cuz it pops dat protective bubble dey hide in so dey can pretend all is right in dis country.

I'm not gonna pretend to be some freedom fighter but i mean da problem exists.

To me the bigger problem wit da police shootings is not that it happens cuz mistakes happen.

Ya gonna have problem cops or just problem employees.

But when it happens da police make it seem lk itz da person's fault not da cops. Dey need to take responsibility and stop protecting the cops dat are dirty.
Almost always da cops that are bein caught has a long history of dis and it keeps gettin covered ^ and dey go on and do it again and again each time gettin worse and more blatant cuz dey feel untouchable.

Too much heat gets on dem they allow dem to quit and move to another state and do it again.

But from what i see. The cover ups seem to happen more when itz a poc gettin shot or killed.

Why dat whiteboy in Wisconsin carryin a weapon bein pointed out as a shooter by protesters get to walk away?

Ya really think if white people pointed out an armed black male carrying a weapon as a shooter he would be given dat same opportunity?

[Sonorous]

@jcnum10 - sorry "more qualitative than* quantitative"

To me the bigger problem wit da police shootings is not that it happens cuz mistakes happen. Ya gonna have problem cops or just problem employees. But when it happens da police make it seem lk itz da person's fault not da cops. Dey need to take responsibility and stop protecting the cops dat are dirty.

^ Yeah, I agree. It really does make me feel hopeless when certain people get away with things whereas others without the badge or power would be punished to the highest extent of the law.

Ya really think if white people pointed out an armed black male carrying a weapon as a shooter he would be given dat same opportunity?

^ Sometimes I really wonder. 😢 This even happens with a person's looks. Better looks can lead a person more in favor of the jury. And possibly less severe of a sentence. Also in other aspects but that's the most life-altering type. But in this case, it could be something as simple as skin tone. smh

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If we're all the same race=The human race, just different ethnicities, why should/would it bother me.. And whether it bothers anyone else or not is that really anyone's decision to make for someone else other than theirself, That's a NO...

[johnsmall23]

Because if you had been with a black guy other men probably wouldn't want you

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@johnsmall23 And you think that would matter why? I wouldn't want to be with a racist man, so... I love how some of you men say a man wouldn't want like that's supposed to what be a big blow? not thinking a women wouldn't want sometime like that anyways so...

[johnsmall23]

so being racist is bad now?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@johnsmall23 when hasn't it been bad?

[johnsmall23]

@Brainsbeforebeauty when white women have been dating only black men

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@johnsmall23 and you know that how? Just cuz you see a white woman with a black man, that don't mean she only dates black men.. that's a way big generalization there

[johnsmall23]

@Brainsbeforebeauty I've heard so many women say they only date black men

[AmandaYVR]

Not in the slightest. I think these people are superior people. I commend them. (And me, ha ha.)

[modelUN242]

I think Black/White relationships don't work as they have the highest divorce rate, my classmates have divorced parents and they're biracial. Same with White/White relationships. I think Asian and anything other race is the best interracial. I do think interracial can be a cool thing but it's not for everyone as you have to adapt to the other person's culture or values. I know this African woman who married a white guy and they're still married 30 years, the African woman comes from a conservative background.

[tiajoka]

actually black women with white men have some of the best success statistically. Though true for black men and white women.

[modelUN242]

@tiajoka No they don't show me the stats then. I'm assuming you're black.

[tiajoka]

Nope lol. I'm a Jewish woman, right leaning libertarian too

[J2ohhhhh]

It's technically almost black

[tiajoka]

@J2ohhhhh nah pale Jewish. Plus mixed with northern, eastern, and middle European

[tiajoka]

don't understand why you'd think I should only care if im black lol. Im not trying to horde all the white men for myself.

[modelUN242]

@tiajoka Why would you think that black women white men relationships work better than black men white women ones? I think the reverse tbh. Plus, black women in an online dating stats are seen as least attractive while Asian women are seen as most.

[J2ohhhhh]

@tiajoka it was a joke ffs

[johnsmall23]

@modelun242 All the white girls i dated had an insane fetish for black guys. I had to buy a BBC dildo to keep them satisfied

[Anna__M]

No. Really we don’t even need to call them “interracial relationships” anymore and instead just call them relationships. Since it’s so normalized for people to swirl nowadays.


It do be lowkey annoying when people force it tho. Or try and act like being in that type of relationship makes them superior to same race couples.

[Anonymous]

I'm black with an exclusive preference for interracial relationships, so there's that lol
I'm not at all bothered by IR relationships just for being together, obviously. I think the reasons people choose partners are more interesting (and potentially bothersome). How you go about it is the only thing that would bother me.

I do have some bias about straight black men dating non-black women, but probably just because black women have had to listen to a vocal portion of black men trash black women publicly. If the black guy and his partner are respectful and nice people, then no problem. I do feel like I get some weird vibes from black guy/other woman couples. Feels like they watch me more in public, on the subway, etc. I don't know if it's an expectation based on past experiences, they really want to see my reaction, if they're both checking me out, or what. I'll literally catch them staring. It can be uncomfortable, so that's the only thing that bothers me.

[Anonymous]

No, especially since I'm currently in one. It does bother me when people make a big deal out of them. It's 2020, it should be a relationship, why point out the race?

It also bothers me how people still stare or judge people differently in those relationships just because of your skin color or ethnicity.

[I_make_me_anxious]

I’m Asian and prefer to date black guys (no not cause of their dicks) so honestly it would be hypocritical of me to hate on interracial relationships. I’m all for whatever you want (as long as it’s legal AND YES IM CALLING OUT THE MAP COMMUNITY YOU PIECE OF SHIT PEOPLE)

[johnsmall23]

Why do you prefer to date black guys? Is it the color contrast? I like that

[I_make_me_anxious]

No specific reason, I’m just more attracted to them and I find that I’m less fetishized by them compared to white and Hispanic guys.

[johnsmall23]

@I_make_me_anxious yeah people with their Asian girl fetishes cringe me

[I_make_me_anxious]

Yeah, imagine how it makes us feel when we get asked to mail our used underwear to them for money 🤢

[snowboarder720]

As a white caucasian male, I support you.

[johnsmall23]

@I_make_me_anxious whaaaaaaaaaattttt? so many pervs out there

[TruthBringer]

I've been in one before. Ended up dealing with racism. That's the only thing that bothers me, dealing with stuff that you aren't suppose to deal with in the first place.
But when it comes to seeing other interracial couples. Doesn't bother me at all. As long as two people are happy and working on a healthy relationship, that's all that matters.

[Bisexual_music_geek]

Nope, as a Chinese girl it would NEVER bother me unless it's a fetishization. If a man/woman/non-binary person is fetishizing me or the person in question because of their race then that's not okay. (Especially to those people who think Asian woman are all docile and submissives. Plus those k-pop stans who want their real life version of Jungkook from BTS.) Don't date someone because of their race.

[hellionthesagereborn]

It only bothers me if their are alterior motives. i. e. fetishism or something like that (though if both parties are open about it then its their choice but it seems kind of scummy to me (no different then a woman being with a man for his money or a man being with a woman purely for her looks).

[GlitterFairy16]

No, not at all. Im to busy focusing on my own relationship to bother sticking my nose in one that has nothing to do with me. If anything when i do take notice, i think it's really sweet to see. As i know but in the past people were too scared to be in a open interracial relationship in public because of peoples judgements. Its nice to see times are changing and people can live life the way they want without hate.

[FackThePackers21]

Interracial marriage is a wonderful thing, and quite oftenly results in the birth of beautiful children. Along with that, biologically speaking the offspring of interracial marriage tend to be healthier due to the fact that they'll be less likely to inherit diseases specific to certain ethnicities like "sickle cell anemia" in the African community.

[Imuglyandiknowit]

we don’t always turn out “beautiful.” i’m one fourth puerto rican and i look like shit.

[FackThePackers21]

I doubt it, work on your self-confidence and take care of your looks and you'll look at least average. And notice that I said "quite oftenly." :)

[tiajoka]

I got mixed up with all corners of Europe and the Middle east and am the least healthy person 😂
But i do agree lol

[fashionguy17]

Not at all. I don't mind interacial relationships. I only mind it if people decide to date interacially and bash their own race. I'm black... and I have seen black men and women date outside their race because they think their own race is hopeless. I don't think that's cool. Like I said, if you date interracially because you genuinely like the person and not due to their skin color, I don't see a problem.

[zariahdp]

Agreed!

[StephenCF]

As a kid, they did (maybe I was subconsciously racist in that sense, despite having black/brown friends and idols). I used to wonder if the White partner was too ugly for other White suitors 🤔 But I’ve grown up now, and of course they don’t bother me anymore (though my own preferences still lie in my own ethnicity)

[tiajoka]

some people just aren't attracted to the features that others may find superior lol. I for one am very into when men or women have their teeth protruding so their mouth sticks out past their nose, a feature I've noticed common in the African community. Or sexy glaring eyes and petite body's you see generally with Eastern Europeans or Asians. Or freckles and pretty color eyes that are common with Northern Europeans. Personally I like all races of people, because im turned on by the things that are not typically prevalent in other ethnicities, and that uniqueness turns me on.

[tiajoka]

Guys on gag: "Well here is the reason..."
Girls on gag: "No, im in one lol"
y'all guys just salty that we don't want you and wanna blame it on race. But if we're all honest we would date white guys too, just not you.
ALSO know it wasn't everyone for my quotes, just saw a lot of both and thought it would be funny to point out. Great for the guys and girls who dgaf or support or have changed their views to accepting. Good on you.

[LeoElias]

I had the opportunity to date a Asian girl. But I was too embarrassed to be around her, to date her. I was in her presence in public and every single person gave me a bad look because they thought we were dating. Knowing that's how it feels to be in an interracial relationship, I don't want to deal with shit like that. Id rather be invisible to people. Any other race I would never date, I don't find them attractive.

[Jaximus-Lion]

I am in a interracial relationship since 2008, soooo NO! Am cool with it

[SexyAshh]

Am I into it, No. Do i care if others are, No.


The only time it matters is if im talking to a guy and find out he was in an interracial reltionship, it turns me completly off and i ususally won't take said relationship any further

[Sevenpointfive]

yes. for a non-white guy the white girl is usually the the epitome of "made it". that's the same with a non-white guy with a white guy. it's a white privilege thing. they better themselves through white people

[tiajoka]

Only a white supremacist would believe that lol

[Sevenpointfive]

@tiajoka why are you labeling me? i'm stating well-known beliefs

[tiajoka]

I didn't say you. I just said anyone who really believes being with someone white means you made it. Because white people are better or whatever shit the believe

[SexyAshh]

@Sevenpointfive people can deny this but its actually true

[Sevenpointfive]

@tiajoka i severely doubt it's white supremacy. it's more like acknowledging white privilege

[SexyAshh]

I wouldn't call it white supremacy, white supremacy is a myth. Its just the reality. Everyone is like this. Blacks want you to be with blacks, Asians with Asians , hispanics with hispanics, and so on and so forth

[tiajoka]

@SexyAshh im not talking about staying in the same race. Im saying people who believe its a financial show to be with a white person.

[SexyAshh]

@tiajoka i see what you're saying, i dont see it as a money thing either

[CupcakeKiller]

That anon button is the Klan hood of GaG. No it is fucking stupid to care about that.

[johnsmall23]

@CupcakeKiller you're not a guy so it's different. It would matter to you if your ex girlfriend had been with a black guy

[CupcakeKiller]

@johnsmall23 bro why tell on yourself like that.

[johnsmall23]

@CupcakeKiller What do you mean?