I am kind of ditzy.. turn off, GUYS?

[Anonymous]

So I am not unintelligent by any means, but I definitely am kind of ditzy a lot of the time.. I know I am smart in my own ways.. I guess I just have my moments very often and say ditzy things sometimes..I have noticed a lot of guys like my ditzyness (not a word, I know) and some are turned off by it.. is this a turn off?

I mean who knows, maybe I like the attention I get from guys because of it?

[PassionateStud80]

Most of the time ditzy girls can be fun and exciting and keep things from becoming too boring.I mean I know I want to have fun and not be bored so I would hangout with a ditzy girl as long as she wasn't too annoying.And you would have to be pretty obnoxious for me to not want to hang out with you.I don't want to hang out with a girl that just sits there and says nothing the whole time,thats not fun.So I look at it like that, they are fun and exciting and I don't mind hanging with them and if I like them it wouldn't keep me from being with them.Like you said you are smart in your own way and I am sure you are smarter then you even realize.I think a lot of it is probably an act to get attention and maybe you feel alittle nervous.

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Ditsy girls are fun to tease and joke with >:)

Whether it's attractive or not depends on how extreme, how frequent, and how well she handles such moments.. Varies from person to person. Like don't get mad at me cause you don't know how they get telephone poles across the ocean for Hawaii to have electricity.

But otherwise, I'm not gonna get mad I'll just tease a little probably ^^ no biggie. As long as you can deal with me bugging you :P It could be funny, maybe annoying. Depends on our connection. It's not a deal maker or breaker, I'd say

[Prof_Don]

As long as you don't PURPOSELY act ditzy, and the "occasional ditz moment" truly is who you are...

...then it's perfectly fine.

Just PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE...don't act ditzy to purposely hide your brains. That's one of my biggest pet peeves in the female gender.

[Spangle]

I'm reasonably intelligent . I have exam certificates to prove it . I watch the news etc . I am however capable of saying and doing really stupid things .

Some guys seem to find it cute , others don't . I think the important thing is if they actually like you . If they do, they find your little quirks endearing . If they don't , they will find you annoying .

It's usually the silly things you do completely by accident that people really love , it's like you've proved that you are a real person .

If you "act" ditzy you will come across as false . Nobody likes false .

[Skyler123]

OMG, I am the same EXACT way! I am quite intelligent but I have my moments and my GAWD! It's not like its on purpose a lot of the time I'll say or do something and within the second I've done it I either realize the answer or realize how really dumb that must have looked.

Most guys I know like it, they think its "cute" but it irritates me so much! A lot of times its just an instantaneous thing. I have learned that if I give myself more time to respond to something regardless of what it may be I have more time to think about it and give a more appropriate response or reaction.

[Anonymous]

Guys when they see me they're like she's fine they approach me get to know some things about me then they like me but when the start noticing that I'm very ditzy they'd be like hell no so they start avoiding me then I get kind of clingy and then I feel ugly... Point is if the guy is serious and you are ditzy he would not like you and find you unattractive if the guy is fun he'd find it cute..,.. I'm attracted to mature guys so that's why being ditzy is unattractive

[aliciaxx]

I act ditzy on purpose, but it's to make fun of the girls who act ditzy to attract guys. Most people get that I'm being sarcastic.

[Kain6th]

what do you do in particular?

[aliciaxx]

Lol it's a little hard to be funny when I try, but when someone makes a comment or asks a question about something.. let's say math homework, if I'm in the mood, I'd say something like "oh my god, that's like, what? The symbol for pie, right?"

[Guysensei]

i love you , and all who understand the art of sarcasm

[CrystalHarley]

I love being sarcastic lol

[aliciaxx]

haha thanks, sarcasm is pretty much my whole sense of humor, besides when I pretend to act creepy.

[Summeroflove]

Some yes. But look if you’re just legitimately that way. It’s not in your control and that’s not to say you don’t deserve love.


You have to find whose right for you. Not everyone will like you. Obviously you say your smart in ways so you’re not a total idiot or mentally challenged.

[Cannedheat]

I like ditzy girls..they're cute and fun in my opinion. It's not a turn off at all as long as she's got some form of intelligence behind it. looks can be deceiving but I don't like serious people too much. lol

maybe you do like the attention..i don't think it's an issue.

[Asker]

I do have a form of intelligence

[Cannedheat]

Good! because it's the best of both worlds, intelligence and a dash of personality is always great. :P

[drummerdude25]

Ditzy girls can be fun to hang around, but there is a fine line.

For an actual relationship, I would prefer a quieter, seemingly more intelligent girl, because ditzy girls do tend to come off as being a little bit dumb...

[Asker]

quiet and ditzy do not associate together

[drummerdude25]

Never said they did...

[Asker]

oh, I read that wrong.. I'm sorry

I don't know though.. I feel like a lot of guys like it

[drummerdude25]

No problem... There are a lot of guys that are only looking for a good time, hence why they seem to like it. They like it for the moment.

When it comes down to wanting a relationship, men look for women that present themselves in a seemingly more respectable manner. It's OK to have an outgoing side to your personality but like I said, "ditzy" can be a bit of a turn-off.

[Asker]

I mean I would not consider myself not a relationship type because I am ditzy.. Again, I am smart in my own way, I am great with people and do have a lot going for me.. I work and try very hard to reach my goals

[Asker]

I'm not here to try and sway your preference.. your preference is your preference.. I just don't think that me being ditzy makes me not a relationship type

[drummerdude25]

Sounds great... Just keep in mind that the impression you give off is important. And you're not swaying my preference at all, no worries. Ditzy girls will typically attract guys that aren't looking for anything serious. That's just kinda how things are...

[Asker]

You are right about that... I have been with guys though who have wanted things very serious.. and yes I agree the impression I give off is important.. but if someone does not like me, I don't care what they think.. I am who I am.. I am very confident with who I am.. A lot of people say me being ditzy adds to my charm.. if that makes any sense

[drummerdude25]

It's important to be yourself, so that's good... charm is a definite plus! And what I'm saying isn't ALWAYS how it works either. There are exceptions to every rule, but generally, the "ditzy girls attracting casual relationships" is true...

You'll just have to know how to spot the right guys.

[kholland65]

Depends on how ditzy. If a girl is down right dumb its a turn off. But cute, unimportant mistakes or ones that are completely not retarded are well...cute.

[Asker]

I'm not dumb, I am smart, but I don't always pay attention and I have my moments very often

[rotarymoon]

Well it is definitely a turn-off when a girl pretends to be ditzy just to get attention. If you are genuinely that way then people who like/appreciate you will find it cute.

[Asker]

I do not pretend to be ditzy..

[sweet_18]

I am like this. I don't mean to be and I am actually really intelligent. I just can appear to be just kinda out there I guess. Idk, guys haven't been turned off from me because of it. Don't think you need to worry.

[WeaponZero]

Everyone has ditzy *moments* no matter who they are or how smart they are.

[Hyrule]

Unless you are mentally retarded, you shouldn't worry. For me, intelligence is neither a turn off or a turn on. Other qualities are far more important.

[bassman]

I'm OK with ditzyness as long as its not contagious..and you get better soon!

[zagor]

Yes, for me.

When I was in the hospital one of the nurses was very ditzy. I mean she never did anything wrong or made a mistake, but her mannerisms kept me on edge waiting for her to...

[Anonymous]

If you are like Jessica Simpson, that is super annoying. Supposedly she is intelligent but, really, I cannot buy that.

[RayR781]

Some guys will like it, some guys won't.

[Asker]

i am well aware of that. you're not answering my question

[RayR781]

You are asking if it is a turn off to guys? I did answer it. Some will not like it, some will.

[DiamondKutt]

She's asking if YOU, personally, like it.

[RayR781]

No I do not.

[Billlewis]

Ditzy can be very sexy;)

[GymStatus]

Depends on the guy... That is about all I can say

[Asker]

and what about you?

[GymStatus]

it does not really matter to me. As long as she is a caring person to people who knows her and strangers. One who serves others is a more attractive quality to me.

[Anonymous]

Why do I feel like I know who you are?

[Asker]

who am I? haha...

[Opinion Owner]

Lol. Hmmmm I would like to say who I think it is but if it's not her then I wouldn't like the fact that I just mentioned her name publicly. Plus, if I'm wrong it could be embarrassing.

[Asker]

lol I don't have any friends on this website so I doubt it is me...

[Opinion Owner]

Well let me ask you a question (then maybe you might now who I am too lol).

Have you ever taken a shower with your clothes on?

[Red_Arrow]

>>> Suddenly she realizes that someone here does know her and stops responding <<<

[Asker]

lol actually I just saw this.. I didn't realize you responded to me and now I have never taken a shower with my clothes on before? lol...

[Red_Arrow]

hmmmm?

[Opinion Owner]

well, now this is awkward...haha

[blah26]

wait... what does her name start with?

[Likes2drive]

No, you’re probably fun like that

[Alpha93]

Funny and a Turn on to a point

[Wassup]

To me it is

[Asker]

why?

[Wassup]

Being ditzy is most of the time a sign of a lack of common sense. Sometimes girls will be ditzy on purpouse which gives off the sign that they're attention whores. To me girls don't have to be book smart or knowledgable they just have to have common sense. Not to be racist, but where I'm from it's not the blondes or whites who are ditzy but the Asians. You could totally tell that their ditziness is forced. I think it's because they might be given the idea that white guys like ditzy girls.

[djhohrath]

Annoying

[Asker]

lol oh

[wondering_guy]

i love ditzy girls

[Jmmmfi4]

It's hot