I've had this with just a couple of girls, as most girls I know are not that easy to talk with. With that I mean they can be nice, but we simply cannot have a normal conversation. And a normal conversation is when you both talk AND listen, and it's like most people just like to talk. If a girl hears me and shows some interest in what I'm saying, then she's easy to talk to. I know most girls complain guys are bad listeners, but from what I've experienced girls can be bad terrible listeners as well. No matter what I tell about myself they will twist it and start talking about themselves. Or they will only talk about stuff they want to discuss and don't care what I would like to talk about.
So there's really no relationship between you being easy to talk to and they not willing to date you. You just didn't get lucky. I myself am easy to talk to and can handle many different types of people. Sometimes I meet a girl and it seems like she enjoys talking to me and we have a real open and free conversation and it makes me think like she's interested in me, while she isn't. I think it's because I can have a nice conversation with her makes me attracted to her, and then I start to think she must feel the same way.
I guess those guys you're talking about just like you as a friend because you're easy to talk to and perhaps you have some things in common. But for the rest you may not be his type, he's simply not attracted to you or he already has a girlfriend.
In the end, stay who you are and don't change. There aren't many girls like you around. I know a lot of girls but only with a few of them I can have a nice conversation and it's a very valuable quality and it's definitely something I'm looking for in my future girlfriend.
Sometimes if a guy likes a girl and appreciates the fact that he can have someone who is nice to talk to and is cute at the same time, it can cause him to be afraid to take things further. Cause as soon as a guy expresses his feelings, he won't ever hear from you again if you don't feel the same way.
Guys don't have a whole lot of people that they can tell how they really feel about things. They can't talk about their feelings to their guy friends because then they might get teased or they would feel like a girl. To find a girl who will listen and let them talk yet not baby them or make them feel unmanly is very valued, but rare. I think these guys might feel like they wouldn't want to lose a good thing by getting into a relationship, because that would complicate everything.
I thought about this awhile back and came up with this:
You know when you meet someone and they're interesting and conversation just flows and you're having a great time? That means your easy to talk to.
It's a good thing :)
Guys tell me I am easy to talk to and they also tell me it's a good thing. I think it's a good quality to have in a girl..but they ask me out later so I am not sure why they just want to stay friends with you though
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probably that you two get along very well and he feels like he doesn't have to watch what he says around when talking to you
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