How can you bring back old feelings?

[helpha]

Say from an ex or someone you were romantically involved with, if it's been a while since the breakup and they may or may not no longer have feelings for you, how can you bring back those old feelings? Is there a way to salvage them?

I'm looking for helpful answers, not "Just move on" answers, please.

How would you win back your ex to bring up old feelings so they want you back?

[easyzombie]

Be the person they feel in love with. Wear the clothes they really liked you in and do the same for hair. Also if you will meet your ex after months of not seeing each other and lookk different ( e.g new haircut or hair color) will attract them.

Anyway, just act like you did when you first met them. Be happy and outgoing and don't talk about the reason why you two broke up. If you are going together somewhere, suggest going to a place where you two used to go as a couple.

And of course, be a bit mysterious. Say that you have something to do and leave the place. Let him wonder what you are up to.

I wish you all the best!

[helpha]

Thank you! This is the first helpful answer I've gotten that I've been looking for!

Also, we used to always go to this tree place that has plenty of memories in it (first kiss, where he said he loved me, we went there all the time) should I maybe tell him I have to walk home after school and I'm looking for a companion, and just take him that way? Or should that wait for another time I see him?

[easyzombie]

Well, has your ex contacted you recently? If he has and wants to meet up you can tell him to meet you there or like you said you can just take him there on your way back from school :)

[helpha]

Nah he hasn't contacted me at all, I've been the one contacting and initiating that I wanna meet up, he says that he is indifferent to it since its been two months and he isn't emotional anymore.

[easyzombie]

Allright then, when are you meeting him?

[helpha]

Sometime this week, what can I do to bring back some old feelings in him when I see him?

[easyzombie]

Just do everything I told you above. Be happy all the time. What I think works best is a little change such as wearing something you didn't wear in front of him (Obviously, it has to be really nice!) Having a different haircut so on. If you did anything new since you broke up such as started to learn new language, doing some kind of sport or anything, tell him about it but don't rub it in his face, just mention it in a conversation. When did you to broke up any who broke up with who anyway?

[helpha]

Well one night HE said he wanted to, or something subtle like that.. He told me "Lets give it a week and if I miss you in a week then we will stay together, if not we wont." He basically was a jackass the last week of the relationship and I went up to him and told him I had too much self respect to wait for my own boyfriend to miss me. So I didn't want it at all, I just sort of made myself do it to keep my respect for myself.

[Jonny_]

As in how would you get them to feel the same as they did or how would you get to feel the same way you did? Either way, you have to look into it and find what it was you/they liked about the relationship and indeed the other person. Physical attraction clearly existed otherwise you would never have dated. So in a way, people always say you have to be the way you were at the start of the relationship. Personally I go about it differently, but my way works for me... I don't actually think it's a practical way for anyone else.

[cavmanier]

You can be nice to them and hope they notice this, and if there are enough feelings there it could start the relationship again. I don't really think you can bring feelings back that well though. The lust part of a relationship is what makes love feel exciting and passionate. Just like a drug your body will build up a tolerance to that chemical so it won't feel as gratifying after a while, unless they change drugs or chemicals.

[Anonymous]

You can't make someone care about you.