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His personality! Is he shy and awkward? or is he obviously comfortable in his own skin and not mind telling a corny joke? For me that's the biggest thing. I really love a guy that can make me laugh
But still, don't go too overboard. Guys that are super full of themselves (or seemingly are) bug me like crazy. I may instantly dislike you if you act too cool or like you're better then other quieter guys...
Still I am in not way saying I don't fall for shyer quieter guys. A lot of guys are very shy around me and I honestly find it kinda cute...So if you're a shy guy or at least shy around me and I realize that, just you getting the guts to come up and talk to me is pretty attractive. I especially love when you take the time to ask how I am, because I feel like these days, at least as far as my life goes, a lot of my friends especially guys don't even think about asking that..I don't know I just find it cute.
Then after this, I may start to notice other things like “oh he has really blue eyes” or “a great smile” ….Haha physical attraction in secondary to me, but I still notice! So do, be well groomed and look nice. Maybe play up you best feature...Have great eyes? Make sure your hair is out of your eyes so I can clearly see those great eyes while I'm talking to you :)
Hope this helps good luck!
his beautiful or ugly smile, if he looks confident or arrogant or just nervous, if he has a cute nose (that just makes it or breakes it for me, personally** XD ) , if his voice is seductive, if he knows what he's talking about...
Usually, a guy has to start a simple conversation with me and if he's normal, and not "forcing himself to be something he's not", then that does it for me :) .
Later on, though, if he's annoying as sh!t, that cuts the deal XD . If my first impression was wrong and he is nothing like he appeared to be the first time we talked, that cuts it too. If he, with time, turns arrogant just because he's won my attention, that cuts it too.
I guess that more specific things change from girl to girl... but I hope I was helpful in some way!
If you want to get a girl interested, don't try to impress her: just act like you normally do with girls you already know :D , and that'll do it: she'll be impressed! .. Unless, of course, you're annoying XD ...!
**but most people aren't, so I bet you're safe too ;) ***
I never really thought about it.. I think their personality mostly, maybe a bit of how he dresses how hygenic he is, and how confident he is (if he's overconfident I don't wanna know, if he's too shy ill give him a boost in confidence like a compliment, if he's just right that's great), the conversation is small talk so I don't pay much attention, this is all at first glance, then I pay attention to if he's interesting, easy to talk to and how well he takes care of his body(normal and slightly muscly is nice but ultraskinny and overweight is a bit of a turn off but it won't scare me off, a really overly muscly steroid freak will though, crazy 80s muscle-heads), the height also maybe but it doesn't bother me much as long as he's not shorter than me and not tall like a basketball player (7ft omg o_o)
but I'm taken and I can't keep my eyes, heart and mind off him so I don't really ever think about it xD
The level and style of humor and with vary from girl to girl...but just about EVERY girl wants a level of CONFIDENCE in a guy that talks to her.
Confidence in the simplest form of self-comfort of who you are, is damn near a requirement to talk to girls with ANY level of success. He don't have to be too flashy or clever, but comfortable with him.
Or else, how the hell is SHE going to be comfortable with him if he's not comfortable with himself, right? :-P
Like OMG, I like a guy with confidence and humor and a cute smile and did I mention confidence?
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I love it when guys notice something about me (based on what I'm doing at the moment, what it seems I like etc- it implies that you're observant a detail oriented) and just strike up conversation in a non-flirty way. The thing is (in my case at least), I hate it when guys just come up to me and hit on me without me expecting it. It leaves me in a tight spot and fyi, it happenes to a lot of girls. In fact, if you go up to a girl and say she likes you back, you're going to want to leave her wanting interest in her from your end bthen end of the conversation. Personally, I think men kill it when they come up to me (without knowing) me just saying stuff that probably won't make me identify at all with him,
A guy who doesn't try to change me to his sick little fantasy world, who is patient, sensible, doesn't compare himself to others or tries to compete against other people and can actually just BE HIMSELF! without caring what others say or want him to do, he just does what makes him happy and can see past all the crap of this world. Most importantly he isn't selfish, a selfish guy is like the ultimate turn off, for me even in friendship selfishness is the ultimate no for me straight away too, I just want a guy I can be myself with without any worry that things are expected of me, things are cool, we can just sit down and watch a movie, eat some popcorn, laugh at all the funny moments and just get on you know... no stress or pressure.
Basic question first to get things going. Then a conversation that initiates both of us (I.e not an interrogation and not a conversation revolving around him, but has us both talking). But how to even get to this step with ease is to have well-tuned body language. Body language is very important! It's obviously going to vary per person, but what I tend to like is someone who has a sexy smile accompanied by ever so slightly squinted eyes (not retarded like they're looking quizzically at me or like I did something wrong but like I'm the most interesting, beautiful, and amusing jewel in the room). Having your body at an angle to someone is actually fairly important, apparently it's a turn off to stand square to them (<idk). Also, apparently staring occasionally at a girls lips is a "turn on" (hints that you want to kiss them). Want some scientifically correct tips? Read up on social psychology.
A guy who listens and in some way gets me.
People like to feel like someone is understanding where they come from.
I have yet to meet a person that does this one thing that I really crave...and that's taking one little word or phrase and from that sparking a whole conversation...a deep conversation.
I think a guy that makes a girl think has a lot of potential with her and of course making her laugh is good too.
I think if you find someone you relate to that spark might just come instantaneously.
Dear if you want to dazzle a girl first you got to observe her is she an introvert or a extrovert, is she outgoing or opinionated just look at her and mold yourself in her exact mood and go straight to her with force and empathy always raise that particular vibration by making her an offer/request with a cocky catch something like "I would tell you you're beautiful but I haven't seen your smile so far, I guess it must be behind me looking at my great butt cheeks", " I don't usually drink with strangers but since I've been looking at you for the past hour I feel like I already know you", "Can you help me?It seems I've lost track of time being around you. and I think I should do it more often." Compliment one of her average assets and let them out shine her top qualities.
Well honestly the things that get me are sweetness, kindness, being a gentleman.. GENUINELY listening :) and I don't mind a cute blond guy coming my way lol or whatever hair color he has as long as he's cute and my type :)
But honestly what attracts me and makes me want a guy is.. knowing that he is listening to me.. knowing that he will be there for me.. I like having a sense of security and a feeling that he loves/likes/cares or is willing to listen to me and that's what I appreciate in men when they seem to care about you lol
So I think if you want the girl of your dreams you would have to be a gentleman, treat her right, get a bit spiffy and make some moves lol
First and foremost, the guy has to look like my type. I can't explain this but there are just some guys that I am not physically attracted to and that is not because they are uglier than someone else. They are just not my type. So if you are physically not attractive to a girl, then sorry. She will never be interested.
Second, girls can smell desperation from miles away. Don't act desperate. Don't over compliment. Don't be wishy washy. And most importantly, DO NOT try to act cool or try to be someone you are NOT because girls are smart and we pick up on those types of behaviors VERY easily. And to be frank, it's really lame.
But in the end, it's just the chemistry. You can think of it this way. How come you are friends with certain people and not with others? Same thing. Same issue.
It's never some specific thing he says or a certain quality. It's just him overall as a person. The older I get, the more I realize how undefinable attraction is. The more I like a guy, the more things I'll like about him. It's not the things that make me like him, it's him that makes me like his traits if that makes sense.
However, I do tend to like smart guys, usually the more intelligent, the better. But that includes various types of intelligence like emotional intelligence, too. If a guy is a nuclear physicist, but a douche then I won't like him.
When talking to a girl, you should compliment her, find out what she's interested in and talk to her about it, look interested in what she says and actually listen to her, look directly in her eyes and flirt. Try as hard as you can to show her that you are interested in her and be a gentleman while talking to her but don't act like your going to die if you didn't get her and don't be childish or superficial
The rule of "you want what you can't have" applies to most girls. When it's completely obvious and apparent you like her, she won't think twice about giving you a chance, especially if she's hot. Most girls want something different as well. Also, ask her lots of questions about herself. nothing pisses a girl off more on a first impression than a guy who only talks about his life (boring stories at that) and doesn't show an interest about her life. Besides, what girl doesn't love talking about themselves?
Confidence. that confident, flirty half smile, and when they say stuff that I'm interested in like if they say something about something that's important to me, like sports, my favorite team, my favorite singer, etc. Oh and his smell. Also, dressing well and good looks and an athletic body help. basically smell, smile, and similarities. The three S's :)
If you approach me after evaluating me on face value then I will do the same for you. Immediate attraction grabs my interest, but it's his personality that'll keep me interested for more that a few moments. I try to make myself pretty easy to talk to, forgive the stumbling of words or blandness of conversation. If the guy can make me smile or laugh that's always a good thing even if I'm not immedietly interested.
He has to be interested in what I say. Often I act just like the person who approaches me (to try and feel them out a bit). So if you approach me stressed or bored, I'll react the same way. If you act enthusiastic and very interested, I'm more likely to take an interest in you too.
Looks do matter though, and if you think you're not as good looking as the guy who did get the girl interested.. then maybe she wasn't attracted to your looks.
I like a guy's humor and his attention to detail. Talking about interests is a good way to engage me in a conversation, but I guess I can't say the same for others. Try talking about something you think you can both identify with.
I like a guy who is real and is comfortable with being himself. That's what normally catches my attention. I'm really good at figuring out if someone is acting like someone they're not, and I usually don't bother with those kinds of people. Just be yourself and everything will work out fine :)
it has everything to do with his personality. if you have nothing in common then its hard to havea conversation. Recently this guy started talking to me but it's really awkward cause all he wants to do is try to impress me with all of the cool parties he's been to. This does nothing for me. You need to know how to have a CONVERSATION, its give and take, not just one sided
confident, respectful, intelligent, and I have to at least be a attracted to the guy. Physical appearance nice eyes, smile, and nicely dress (don't have to be in the most expensive clothes but clean up well a nice basic t-shirt with jeans/sweat to a nice suit) and fit)
Its definitely not appearance because I'm tall, fit, dress nicely or at least with style, and I'm very respectful so it's something I'm not doing or doing when I talk to the girl.
someone I can relate to and makes me feel like a girlie girl while he's a gentleman, him just being himself open and honest...someone who makes me feel protected and secure about myself...
i don't like guys who pose a challenge or play games or jump right into flirting and act like players...i wanna be with a real man who appreciates women
The "naturalness" of the conversation matters a lot, meaning it doesn't seem like he's trying too hard, that we're just having a casual chat. If your idea of finding common interests is asking her, "What's your favorite ____, what do you do, what's your major," then it usually comes off as really unnatural.
The other big thing is humor, because talking to strangers is usually pretty boring if it's not amusing (small talk sucks, to me personally).
I like when a guy says something original. It can be simple, It can be silly. If a guy approaches me with lines I have heard before- Lines that some jerk previously said to me, It makes me think he is no different.
So what a guy can say to get my attention: Say something different. Be Yourself
Witty banter. That's what it takes. If you can engage in witty banter, you'll spark my interest without me knowing your name or hobbies. In fact, I won't care about your name and hobbies unless and until you've sparked my interest
Ahh. For me personally, it's intelligence. I'd probably be really intimidated if a guy I deemed more intelligent than myself approached me, but I'd also be really interested in his opinions and what he had to say.
Damn. This came across a little more narcissistic than I intended.
I don't think that much of myself. I'm far from brilliant. I just like people who are smart. They are fascinating and I feel like I can learn from them, like it'd take longer to figure out how they work, how they tick.
its not what you say its more or less your demeanor and your personality if you are intellectually equiped then you when us over plus if you look good and happen to not be conceited or cocky with how you approach us that's a plus
I won't lie, first it is physical attraction. You honestly can't be with someone if you don't find them attractive. Then after that, personality will win over all. If the guy is attractive but a complete d**k then I'll wave goodbye!
Nice smile, cute laugh, complimentary, almost possessive? like not afraid to show jealousy because another guy is looking my way, makes me smile, etc, I'm sure you've heard it all
nothing perverted is good...cut the oh God your so beautiful! keep that for later...:) I personally love a mysterious man nothing I can figure out too quickly
His SMELL! OMG I love good fresh smelling men! I love it when guys look at you as if they're staring deep within your soul. His confidence, smile, charm... Smell really draws me in though
The way he's dressed is very important. I love blazers. I think guys can never go wrong with blazers and shoes (not sneakers).
A guy HAS TO BE MY TYPE. Point blank! NOTHING ELSE will spark my interest other than that! I like kind good looking white guys and believe in MUTUAL attractions. No games and no gimmicks. A guy CANNOT be the opposite of what a woman wants! We WILL NOT SETTLE! That's all.
Ask me about me, all women love to talk about themselves, and if they're one of those self deprecation types, tell them they're wrong and that they're gret.
They'd have to be pretty aggressive...okay..maybe not like scary/aggressive XD but persistent. If they are funny, nice, killer smile, awww dimples, and a nice laugh/voice.
^_^ well, someone else doesn't. lol XDBut thanks.
The guy didn't have intention of hitting on me cause dude, stop sweating and giving me the prey look. Second, it is not threaten. It was "Hi, how are you? What do you think?"
Charisma. Personally for me, it's always what he said that got me interested. I'm a sucker for guys with a wicked sense of humour and the confidence he exudes could easily charm me.
Humor is very important. Do we have the same sense for humor. Does he make me laugh. I hate meaningless convo. Though I guess you have to get those questions out of the way at some point. It's all about the way you come across. Are you trying to hook up with me or are you genuinely interested in me. Personally I'm a little skeptical of a lot of guys intentions. So maybe try keeping that in mid when you make your first impression.
Someone that I find attractive and hilarious. Any topics are easy topics if you have both of those characteristics.
His looks, smile, and the sound of his voice.
I don't care what topic he brings up - Attractive and makes me laugh.
There is one universal common interest: HER.
Also, don't forget you have to be funny (without being cheesy) and be confident.
Good luck!
The way the guy comports himself, the things he says, the gestures that accompany his words. Do his actions follow with what he's said? If so, then I am potentially interested in him. If not, I walk.
can you let me know what you mean by gestures that apply to the words?
You don't SAY one thing and then DO another.
When a guy has similar convictions as me.
If he dresses well and/or has a killer smile, he has my attention.
For me it's mainly the humor. If he can make me laugh and he understands my humor you've got a good start. Physical appearance yes to a certain extent, though the humor and confidence is most important ^^.
Humor. Any time a guy comes up to me and cracks a few jokes, I'm instantly interested. Being funny makes him entertaining and fun to be around. It takes the pressure off of getting to know each other. It makes me want to talk to him even more.
His vibe, personality, hygiene, intelligence...? Not sure, it's a cocktail of things.
When he's passionate about something I'm passionate about. That, and he's not an ass.
If I'm attracted to him first then he makes me laugh and is sweet
Is able to carry himself and is able to have an intellectual conversation.
Honestly? For me it's the smile, good personality, and good manors. Like, don't be a jerk, no more than you would want a woman to be a jerk to you. Be real, be sincere. I like that. Then, BOOM! I'm interested in you.
when he's funny and has a great smile. he must be charming and confident
First he has to be attractive to me and then just be funny and confident.
Personality: humor. and his interest in me. Also, looks to some degree. Looks that give off a sense of personality. Like if you look athletic and wearing athletic clothes...i'll find insterst.
Looks, charm, common interest. He has to be my type, someone I'd automatically be attracted to.if not then he better have charm and swag for days
Cofident but not up-himself, friendly, sense of humour, we have something in common.
When a guy is kind of badass, like when he knows what he's doing, and makes me laugh. Kind of hard to explain.
If he's funny. If he can make me laugh, it gives me a good vibe :-)
every girl wants a funny guy. he has to be sweet and I like a guy who flirts. also a guy who understands and listens !
well when a guy talks to be I like them to be cute and funny and a bit random! they also have to be confident and are not too serious
For me it would have to be a man that would come over and talk to me and not sound nervous.
Funny, confident, mutual interests
He can carry a conversation!
A nice smile alwats starts a great convo
Smile. Nice teeth. Nice smooth voice.
ask me questions about myself. show me you care
Confidence and has to charm me somehow.
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