Would you lend your boyfriend 500 dollars?

[Anonymous]

would you lend your boyfriend 500 dollars to pay for his rent? he mentioned he will pay it back...

[diosadelanoche]

Ditto what everyone else said. It depends how long you've been dating and how good your relationship has been. Also, why can't he pay the rent? If it's because he doesn't have a job - what's he going to do next month? I'm not going to pay someone else's rent. If I had the ability, I would let him crash at my place for a while until he gets on his feet, but a $500/month loan seems hefty. If he has a job but just isn't good with money management, I wouldn't lend it to him. For starters, people who aren't good with money aren't good at paying back debts either. Second, he'll probably start to rely on you as a backup plan anytime he'd rather get a new video game than make sure he has enough to pay rent that month.

If I'd been dating someone for 2+ years and I knew they were responsible and hardworking, I'd do it if I had it to spare.

[Asker]

He knows my family is financially stable.. he knows about my brothers petrol station and two bay mechanical work shop... he knows I have a good paying job...when we first met, his birthday was in a couple of days so I stupidly went overboard and bought him a thick silver bracelet, perfume and spend over 200 dollars in the first week of meeting him...

[diosadelanoche]

To be honest, this guy might be taking advantage of you. Two months into the relationship is way too soon to ask someone for that much money, especially because you've already been so financially generous in the relationship. If I was tight on money, I would have a hard enough time accepting lavish gifts from a new partner, let alone begging to borrow hundreds of dollars.

[Asker]

I think you're right...i have heard a few things about him last night from his room mate he had been in jail for manslaughter and was previously married and has 2 kids with her and it scared me to death as I was raised in a very conservative upper class background..

[TheoryOfAvarice]

Depends on our relationship and and stuff.

I lent a previous boyfriend about $300 that he needed as part of an application thing to grad school... but he's one of the few people I would have done that for. We're very open and honest with each other and I have seen that he always pays people back the money they lend him.

[Claireluvskaren]

Being it is not a large sum of cash, it would depend on what he needs I for, I think in the long run he would ave the cash.

[DanAG]

Only if you've been with him a long time and trust him to pay it back. And only if he has a good reason for not being able to pay it himself. In other words, why can't he pay it himself? If it's just because he's too lazy to work or is irresponsible with his money, then don't do it. Also, even if he is willing to pay it back, he has to have the ability to.

That's a lot of money. It's not like loaning someone 20 bucks until they can get to the ATM. Unless you guys have a good long term relationship and he has a good reason, I think it's pretty bold to ask in the first place.

I hate going in debt for any reason. It's a really bad habit to get into.

[Asker]

i have been seeing him 2 months.. he's practically begging for it..

[DanAG]

That's not nearly long enough. I wouldn't do it. If it was two years instead of two months that might be different.

[Asker]

he was practically begging for it... I'm the sort of person I can't say no... I have also bought him 50 dollars credit this week already

[gonyr]

You said 2 months in a comment. I wouldn't ask a girl I've only been dating that long for that much money. Y don't really know him.

Des he have a job? Any good income?

The fact that he's begging seems weird. Seems like a druggie looking for a fix. Where did his rent money go?

[Asker]

he works full time, he said he's uncle passed away and had to miss out on work...so he only had money for the shared food bill and transport money to get to work...

[gonyr]

Ah. That's different I guess.

Up to you then. D you trust him enough?

[Asker]

I have also bought him 50 dollars credit for his phone as well this week, I'm going to give it to him but then call it quits... in my culture the guy needs to be able to support himself financially and have savings...

[gonyr]

So he didn't pay you back for that? Honestly I wouldn't give him this 500. He keeps coincidently needing the same amount. Don't get used. Get out

[Asker]

He never asked for credit for his phone, I bought it for him cause he mentioned he couldn't reply to my messages cause he doesn't have credit... I went and bought him 50 dollars worth of credit...

[prettyhotsexy90]

Here's what you do, since this is your first time giving him a large sum of money, give him 1/2 and he gets the rest from another source. If he returns that money, the next time he ask for money, you can give him a full loan.

[Asker]

i have already told him I will give it to him... but I'm planing on calling it quits after this... I don't care if I don't get the money back... in my culture, the guy should be able to look after himself financially..

[myspacemybroke]

I would say it depends on the stage of your relationship. Being that it's his rent, I would assume you're not even living together. That early on I would say don't do it.

[Asker]

no its only been two months in the relationship... no we aren't living together...

[myspacemybroke]

Yeah, I wouldn't

[Anonymous]

I literally couldn't because I don't have enough money, but if I did... it has to be a looong relationship. It also depends on how financially responsible he is and how likely it seems that he actually WILL be able to pay it back...

[raineydaygurl]

of course. we often support each other for larger amounts but we live together so we look at it as our money

[snowangle]

We would have to have been together a long, long time. I would have to really trust him. Also, I would have to have 500 extra dollars to give. :P

[sa230e]

You want 500 dolla?

https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=2buteHswvBA

[Anonymous]

Not a new boyfriend, no. If I'd been with him for a while, yes.

[Lj237]

i guess it would depend on how long you two have been together and how much you trust him

[Anonymous]

I'd only do it if I was in a long term relationship with him.

[desidoll]

Depends on my relationship and my trust on him.