You have been dating someone for less than 6 months and they ask to borrow $500. Do you give it to them?

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Guy13 · Accepted Answer

Such a decision is based upon how deep the woman has allowed me to get in her life. And if a criminal, credit, and medical record exchange does not freak her out and has begun. And a Family that I know well and one that appreciates the self and partner revelation-openness from such an act. I have a woman now of this sort and she actually wants a prenuptial. She's far from rich but simply wants the things she shares to ultimately still be hers. Such a woman is also likely middle name her last- his last name. Committed but not stupid to the nature of a fallen world.

I have given this individual a no strings attached, don't need to be on the title, 20% down payment on a car. She voluntarily said one day, "I will be paying you the difference of the interest rate savings monthly", asked me to open a secondary account so that she can automatic electronically transfer that money into the account... I never asked for that.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I assume after six months, we are dating exclusively, and that means I see her as a prospect for forever. I wold certainly be cautious of the possibility that I am being used, and I would want to know how the need arose and she was unprepared for it, but I wold probably give it to her.

If time reveals that she used me, and we break up, I probably won't ever get the $500 repaid, but that's a cheap price to pay for learning who she really is and avoiding an even larger mistake.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I don't loan anyone money, that is what banks are for. I'd tell them that, go get a signature loan from a bank, I'm not your bank.

If you can't get a loan, tell me now so we can end our relationship and move on, as I don't want to be dating anyone with bad credit. I expect them to have at least a good of score as I have.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Hahaha,  NO . I barely loan my family money, much less someone I barely know! He can get a loan like everyone else. Sorry, but six months dating someone doesn't mean I trust them with money.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

No way. I'm no chump. That's crazy.

SaoirseS · Answer

If he has something worth at least 5x that for collateral (his car title, if there's no lien on it would work) and is willing to sign up to pay my interest rates, then sure. As long as he understands that if he fails to agree to the terms, my collection methods are going to be pretty sketchy. Treat me like a bank or lender, I treat him the way a lender would treat him.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yea if i have it, thats fine. Usually i’d have spent at least $300 on their Christmas gift so ig Christmas came early. But i dont do the whole “can i borrow”. 90% of the time, fam and friends who borrower didn't pay me back so i just don’t expect it. I give it if i have it and don’t require to be paid back but if its offered back to me, i’ll take half

Anonymous · Answer

I have a general guideline to not give any more than I would be upset with just "losing." For some friends, I'm more pissed at lending $20 and not being paid back reasonably than I'd be with other friends at losing $50 because they were better friends and better people.

I think for a relationship, it would depend on how serious we were, what she needs the money for, whether it was being borrowed, and if I thought she really will pay it back or not. And by then, she probably would have needed to "borrow" a lot, and paid it back for me to trust someone with that amount. But some things are different than others. A simple early surgery to see if something is cancerous, probably. A dental procedure? Probably. A $500 purse that she just really wants right away? No.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

If you're the man she either is independent and thus she needs to pay her own shit. Or she lives with you and she's dependent and then there's no lending. She's your "property" or responsibility and therefore you just pay for her necessities. (If it's to borrow for nonsense we shouldn't even be entertaining such a request because it best be a joke.)

If it's a man asking for that from a woman dump his ass he's a loser. Better get rid of him now because it will end later over his bullshit.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah If I already let him stay in my life for 6 months, then it means I'm serious and he is a good trustful men lol

Leopard23 · Answer

Depends. After 6 months you know the kind of girl she is.

CheeseMonster · Answer

I couldn't afford that even if I wanted to. Otherwise it would come down to how well I know them. If we just met 6 months ago, no. If we knew each other for longer but just started dating 6 months ago, maybe. But only if I could afford it if they don't pay me back (as in, still pay bills, not go broke).

Redstang88 · Answer

Sure, $500 ain’t gonna hurt me. And if I don’t trust her enough by that point it’s probably time to reconsider things

loveslongnails · Answer

It would really depend on how close we'd become in that time Coach, and how serious we were about staying together.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

I've before. Yes I know many people advise against it. Purpose, Intention and plan is everything. Sometimes it can be an investment in the true sense of the word.

exitseven · Answer

I would say no but thinking back if my wife asked me for 500 bucks when we were 6 months into our relationship I would have given it to her no questions asked.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I tell people I’m your friend when I’m your friend but when it comes to money I’m not your friend.

purplepoppy · Answer

Why would I be dating anyone who didn't have $500. Time to upgrade me thinks.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Hell no. I don't loan money out much unless I know them for a year or more and know they're trustworthy.

Anemone978 · Answer

Yeah if I had it I would... I gave a dude I wasn't even dating $280... And I know I am never getting it back.. but I consider it a good deed supporting broke ass bitches lol

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

This happened to me after dating a guy for 7 months.  I said no. He wasn't happy about it but got over it quickly. We ended up breaking up 2 months later for different but tangential reasons.

douride2 · Answer

I won't even lend money to family let alone someone I have only known 6 months.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Fuck no. If she has less than a 1000, we cannot go further. The man meal plan has been discontinued.

scooogy · Answer

You have been dating someone for less than 60 minutes and they ask to "borrow" $50. True story.

Anonymous · Answer

That is a red flag and I will probably have to reconsider our relationship.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. If I did, it's under the strict understanding that you are never to ask me for money again and that I won't get repayment. It's a one time offer.

Anonymous · Answer

If I'm dating her she's going to be better with money than that guaranteed.

Likes2drive · Answer

Dating someone seriously for that long and they needed to borrow that much I probably would

CreatingWonders · Answer

Nope, I wouldn’t let anyone borrow money as I know I wouldn’t be getting it back.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

Possibly, depending on what it's for. $500 isn't really that much in my book, but I don't waste money.

bean2k21 · Answer

If I do decide to give them money, I'll make sure it's for something useful. Do they need a new cage to handcuff themselves inside? Do they need candles and a new altar to worship me?

ilikesnow · Answer

i would ask why they need to borrow the money first, but if it's for something useless i would say no

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry i have bad experiences with lending people my money. It makes me ‘stingy’ with my money now

sheenagwapa · Answer

datinh meaninh my boyfriend? romantic relationship is my weakness maybe even sellinh my kidney i would fo it

Alaskan_123 · Answer

NO. Never give anybody your dating free money. Unless you are married, I'd say free money needs to be earned aka it's still not "free"

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Who would give somebody that much money in a short time? I wouldn't.

RobT312 · Answer

An ask Never happened to me but at 6 moths I have never shared finances

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Hmmmm... would that mean her ass is mine? 🤔😜

alice55 · Answer

I wouldn't and anyway I don't even have them so XD

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes. I've gotten past that mark with exactly two women. If she endures me for that long she deserves the $500 as a gift.

WowwGirl · Answer

Depends what it's for

CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS · Answer

Yeah it’s just $500 lol

OddBeMe · Answer

Sure. At six months if I don’t know them by now, I will never never never know them. Oooohh ooohh ooh…

smashleyy · Answer

guess it would depend if i was dick whipped or not

Avicenna · Answer

Depends on the circumstances

Tom404 · Answer

Depends on what the money is for. With no questions asked? Hell no.

ArchiejoeDavies · Answer

Why would they need that money would be the first thing I would ask

Nikki1989 · Answer

Probably. It is only money.

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

Depends on what they need the money for.

HighValue · Answer

I don't loan money to people at all.

LovingJo · Answer

Yes, but I'd need to know what it was for

Anonymous · Answer

Are you really that rich? 😂

msc545 · Answer

No way in hell.

Guardian45 · Answer

Pffft! CATFISH! GOLDDIGGER!

malwins · Answer

I got 600€ from a man w no sex

JesseJayNeak · Answer

My money is mine.

HowardB · Answer

I would if I see a future with her

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Hell no.

LegendaryDater · Answer

No sir.

htmndg183 · Answer

Nope.

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