Would you lend money to your lover?

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Could he be testing you when you just met him?

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Depends on banking situation. I’d honestly always want to just help him buy what is a need, so I’d be there at the time he buys it (we buy it together), and if it’s for leisure or a want, I’d want to buy something to so we enjoy it together, and if it’s leisure then I’d hope we’d be there TOGETHER lol

Lending is foreign to me. It’s an entire trip together/ outing/ date.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I don't ever lend money unless it's less than $10. If it is beyond that, it's a gift and not a loan. Cause if you loan and they can't afford to pay you back, you lose your friend or relationship.

sawno · Accepted Answer

Judging my last relationship i'd actually say its less likely, not because I don't trust her but because I see us as a true couple. So if she really needs something I can outright afford I'd rather just buy it for her as long as the prices are reasonable of course.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

If I'm taking her seriously as long term partner and she asks me for money, I'm going to listen to her reason and probably give her what I can.

As long as she doesn't make me feel like she just threw away my cash, I'm going to be cool with whatever comes next

coachTanthony · Answer

Always a bad idea. If the person (lover) I was dating asked me for money I would say YES but it's over and you don't have to pay me back but it's over. See what they say.

FreyaRed · Answer

Depends how long we date and how much trust he gained. However it wouldn't be as much as I would be annoyed if I don't get it back. I'm not a bank but when he forgets his purse and needs a taxi home, I will be generous to lend him money for this taxi.

TenderFantasy · Answer

My husband/partner/boyfriend/fiance, yes I would. I would expect that if I was in need, they'd do the same. If we just met, even then, but maybe it would also depend on the amount. My parents give each other money all the time and they don't see a problem with it because they care about each other and they are a team.

wolfcat87 · Answer

No, that's what a bank is for. If they don't have the credit for it, then it's not in my best interests to lend to them either. 😤

Anyone who's borrowed money from me in the past never really paid it back. I've learned that the best people to have around you are generally the ones who give freely and don't ask for much in return. If I see them struggling, then I'm likely to just help them because I know they'd do the same for me. They don't have to ask.

jshm2 · Answer

Wooooo, she's not going to be sitting for a week... and she's still got to pay the cash back! Feel like a bank, by fucking them every which way!

Joking aside, it's never a good idea to "lend" to lovers, family or friends. Just give them it, or deny them it. It usually works out better than lending.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

My husband and I have always helped each other out when we need it. We always pay each other back.
I’ve never had to lend him a large amount but if he needed it, I trust him enough to do it. Also I know be would only ask to borrow money if he really needed to. He wouldn’t do it for some bullshit.

But no I would not do that for someone I recently met or recently started dating

laurieluvsit · Answer

Never lend money you don't intend on never getting back. I think Confucius said that... lol

Billlewis · Answer

No, not at all. I much prefer to simply give her whatever she wants without hesitation, regret and most of all, no strings attached whatsoever.

rachel776 · Answer

i would give it but not lend. if things fell apart the money would just be gone. i've never had to do it with anyone but i would if it were needed

Altheavas · Answer

Depends how far we’re in the relationship, my money is his money, as long it’s healthy spending, and for a good cause !

wHolLyGoTgodgods · Answer

If you just met a man you shouldn't love them so now you don't trust them, you're learning Truth for the trust.

Chevy1_kb · Answer

Me and my ex use to do it all the time lendceach other money then give it. Back just for things we needed

Anonymous · Answer

She probably wouldn't be my lover if I'd just met her.

But hypothetically... I'd lend them up to the amount I'd have willingly paid a hooker for the same sex. Then if she ghosts with the money, I've lost nothing except a whore.

Mado108 · Answer

If it’s my husband yes and it depends on the amount of money. If it’s a friend yes. A boyfriend no. I think it would be a major turn off for me.

Simslover92 · Answer

I have. But ofc we didn't just meet. We've known each other for a long time. I don't think I would lend money to someone I just met.

brightpapaya · Answer

If we just met, hell no. If we're in a relationship, it will depend on the situation, but generally we'll pay everything 50/50 anyway...

nawtee_me · Answer

Lend? no… Give? Yes… lending money only creates problems if they don’t pay it back when they say they will, or in payments instead of all at once like you gave it to them. Giving it to them takes all the problems out of the picture.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

If I trusted them enough to start being my lover, then yeah I Would give them some money.. As long as it wasn't regular thing..

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Depends how serious we are and how much money we're talking about.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

If we just met - no way. And he wouldn't be my lover. I don't sleep with strangers

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

context matters, but I probably would lend money to my person if she was caught in a pinch, we had established history, and I saw her in my future.

SolitarySolace · Answer

No because money is the only thing women care about they won't pay you back. They'll just keep asking for more

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Nope. I don't lend money to anyone I like. If I give you money, I assume it's a gift.

Phoenix98 · Answer

If she needed it and it didn't put me in the red and make me have finical issues then sure.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, if she did not pay up I could "take it out in trade"

Keith469 · Answer

Not without a secured note stating repayment terms and late penalties. However I might give her $$$ outright if she really needed it.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I do not lend money to friends or lovers. I give it to them. Others, I requires collateral.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Hell to the no! Bitch ain't gonna pay it back anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure--just depends on how much. I'd treat it the same way as I treat a loan to a friend: never lend any money you're not willing to never see again.

jaskin777 · Answer

I have several damn times tbh.  I do it out of love idgaf if he testing me or not

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

No. Cause I know her ass has money. She doesn’t need mine.

Anonymous · Answer

I've actually tried lending money to him, but he refuses to take it.

clampfan101 · Answer

I wouldn’t call a couple lovers if they’ve just met.

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

You're never supposed to lend money to friends or family.

Anonymous · Answer

He could be disrespecting you 🤪 No, really 🥲 speaking from experience

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Since I know that men steal, I decide not from now on

butterly248 · Answer

I just sent money to my boyfriend today lol

RedInnocent68 · Answer

I give them more than that. 🤔😉😂

Goodboy11 · Answer

Depends on time

HelpfulWoman · Answer

JUST MET? fuck nah.

kaangok · Answer

If I had a lover, yes

msc545 · Answer

No. My lover if I had one would not ask.

KralArthur · Answer

For the sake of her beauty yesss lol

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. I don't have a problem with that.

laly520 · Answer

if he needs, yes

Anonymous · Answer

hell no

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Nope

Minahh · Answer

Most likely no

Rosie1999 · Answer

Sure, why not

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