I am Ready for second/third base, but my girlfriend is not. Help?

[Anonymous]

I'm very confused on what to do, I am semi agnostic and my girlfriend is pretty heavily Christian. I've made it to second base and I asked her if it was okay later so I could not invade her privacy or go past anything that she doesn't want to do, and she said that it felt like a bad weird to her. I really really want to try new things like that but she is resistant. Do I just accept that I will never get where I want and accept her wishes? I have the highest level of affection and respect for her

[Darkfairie17]

Well, if she is heavily Christian and wants to wait until marriage, chances are you won't be getting any with her. Not that that is a bad thing, but obviously you two have different ideas about what is important in relationships.



You have to accept the fact that she may not want to have sex until marriage, or maybe isn't comfortable doing certain things. I'm not sure how old you two are, but seems like you both are still quite young. She may just not be ready in general. I know people who were Christian, who as they got older changed and did eventually have premarital sex.

But it has to be her choice. You can't force heour to do anything. And I wouldn't try to convince her to either. It has to be her idea. Because the worst thing you can do is cause a girl to go against her morals.

So you need to make a decision whether you want to stay with her or not.

[Asker]

I will live. It's not a necessity just something that I would be interested in. Everything you said makes perfect sense, thank you.

[Darkfairie17]

You're welcome! Thanks for BA! :D

[snowangle]

Is she waiting until marriage? Or is she just uncomfortable with sexuality in general? And have you been dating very long?

Either way, you really can't push her past her boundaries. You just have to decide if it's something you can live with or not.

[JanJan]

That doesn't mean that you will NEVER get to third base, but there isn't really anything you can do right now. If you love and respect her, just wait.