He was looking forwards to being single, plus summer holidays are soon. We won't see each other for 8 weeks. He said he'll come back to this matter in the near future.
We still talk. A little awkward sometimes.
What do I do from here?
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Yeaaaah, I wouldn't go there. It sounds like he is not sure enough at all. If you want to be friends-with-benefits then by all means go for it. However, you have to decide if it's worth the risk of ruining your great friendship. If you want a real relationship out of the deal this probably isn't the best way to go about it. And he does have an idea about whether or not he likes you. My guess is that if he was allowed to be 100% honest he would say he loves having you as a friend and it's a huge perk that he can get some action out of it but that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you (right now). I seriously caution you in risking the friendship over this. Just doesn't sound sturdy enough. For now, go back to being friends and when the timing is better maybe something else may come about. And I'm not judging when I say this because I drink all the time but maybe cool it with the alcohol and getting physical with him. For now, go have your own fun, don't stay caught up on him. Not worth ruining the friendship over it. (TRUST me; been there.)
Yeah, that's what Ill do, keep this friendship going, cause its too special to ruin it. Thanks (:
This is SO similar to what happened to me last summer! Honestly, from the advice I've gotten (from this site!) he's not really interested in having a long term relationship. I would say stop while your at it (yes it's REALLY hard) but maybe later in life when he's more mature he'll be ready for a relationship. I wouldn't count on it. It looks like he's just so comfortable with you he's willing to do anything. However, it doesn't sound like he's looking for a gf... just someone to hook up with. I'm sorry. I completely have your sympathies. This is a really sucky position to be in. My best friend and I haven't even entirely fixed our relationship after this all happened. Time will tell though
Carry on as you guys did BEFORE you knew he liked you :) Juast be yourself because that's who he really likes, avoid ebing awakwad..He probably thinks that he's "Got You" because now you know, and he's thinking that you'll wait for him to comeback..Since you guys are still talking and if you guys are that CLOSE, than I suggest you carry on with your life...This will make him want you more, and if you should mention, any OTHER guy that's had an interest in you, or mention that you've been getting "hit on" or meeting up with some new interesting friends, That may make him Move Faster for you, in fear that someone will take you before he actually makes you his :)
Just curious
Are you actually 11?
I am not asking in a rude way it has just been a while since I heard the term second base
do you like like him?
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Have you tried spin the bottle or 7 minutes in heaven?
Is "the guard" you referred to, his daddy and he came in his room to take away the flashlights and turn off the sultry justin beiber?
Can one of the girls from this site please make her one of those paper foldy things to see how many kids they will have? Please
Next time you two go out, ease up on the capri suns to try things more sober..
I'm in limbo...
I want to mark you up for your sarcasm, humour and clear view
I want to mark you down for your harshness...
I'm remaining neutral... you made me smile
Maybe its just sexual tension? I have 2 very close attractive female friends and sometimes they look pretty damn sexy but we would never be a good couple. It's also a good thing I don't drunk anymore. Who knows what kind of stupid stuff I might try...
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He's keeping his options open so that when he needs a booty call, he knows exactly who to go to. And you're allowing it by playing along.
Fact - you ONLY hook up when you're drunk. If he was really into you, he'd have more respect for you than that. He's just trying to get his tool wet.
On top of that, if he had a girlfriend and you were making out with him...that's kinda disrespectful and you're letting him act like that. If he cheated on her with you, what makes you think he wouldn't cheat on you with someone else ?
He's being immature and only thinking of himself. No girl needs that.
Sounds like he's just keeping you on tap so that the next time he gets the urge, you'll be ready to go all the way. If he really wanted you as a serious relationship, he would make the effort especially now that he's single. I wouldn't count on anything serious - he's just pursuing you because he knows your feelings and he's comfortable with you. The fact that he had to wait to make out with you the first time until you were drunk says a lot.
Sorry if this made things confusing, but yeah, I didn't mention the times we got together when we were both sober. We can really relate to each other and talk about anything. But right now yeah I'm pretty damn confused.
A lot of other people have given you the same or a similar answer to mine, so that tells me based on what you said here I'm not too far off. Drunk or sober, I wouldn't expect a serious relationship out of this guy. What is there to be confused about? If he wanted to get serious he would have as soon as he was single. Don't fall in love with this guy, he doesn't sound like he's going to commit anytime soon.
Sounds like you're his safety net. He wants to be single to screw around and get as much as he can over holidays, but he wants to keep you just interested enough so that when he gets home he's got you as well.
Also, about that first party: When you were both in the cab, if you were drunk and he wasn't then he was def. just looking to score. If he really is you "best friend" he wouldn't have made a move while you were drunk. Just be careful around him, I hope it works out.
Oh sorry, I just mentioned the times we were drunk...No, we had a lot of times, when we were both sober too. The thing is I'm the kinda girl who hooks up a lot, but when it comes to a serious relationship, I'm pretty loyal. He knows a lot about my private life since we're best friends, that's why he thinks we need time to think twice over summer...but yeah, I'm pretty damn confused. Tho I do not think its just plain sexual, cause we can truly relate to each other and we have many deep conversation
He likes you. things will be a little awkward at first. sometimes a guy can't express him self the way that he would like to. so you might have to read between the lines.
How are your convos awkward? What do you talk about? What makes them awkward?
Killer questions
Well, we talk about everything. We can really relate to each other, since we have similar family cinditions and other things in life. He's really funny, and we joke around. He says I'm the only person he can truly open upto...
But the week after the last hook up, we didn't say anything to each otherm just kinda stared and smiled, then walk off. Recently it got better.
Are you both shy people? Seems like it
Especially since it took a few drinks for him to tell you he wanted a piece :)
Well, we are kinda shy. But then when alone, we really do have a lot and a lot to talk about. Its just that we're both scared to seem vulnerable?
A stand off between you both :)
Have you considered confronting him about this cautiousness in a comical way, make it seem less awkward eg
''I think we both need to relax, take some lessons from the booze :) Booze gave us a voice and now the voice has gone... where's the drinks?!?!?!''
''Thinks are a lot easier after a drink'' etc
You've been open before, no shame... drunk :)
It's hard but sometimes you just need to take a chance and summon the courage, take action otherwise nothing happens
What's after second base? Third. Grab that todger of his and get it done.
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