Was dumped by an ex a while back now. He was being an egotistical prick and trying to model me into some trophy hoare girlfriend for him to show off and look good to other men. I'd actually liken it to having to date Hugh Hefner but without the mansion and piles of cash. Makes it worse that I actually did a lot for him - paying for many dates, inviting him over to dinner, standing by him still when he told me he had an STD from a previous relationship (many people would have ran a mile at been told that!) and he had the nerve to make me feel that I wasn't doing enough for him. Basically made me feel that nothing I did was right and I actually felt guilty and worthless for a long time afterward :-(
On the plus side I can now wear whatever the hell I like plus I can sell up my house - in the suburb he didn't approve of - and take advantage of an opportunity to start a business overseas whilst he still lives at home in his 30s because he just couldn't afford his celebrity wannabe lifestyle if he moved out. Also he might have the perfect girlfriend now - as he insists on bragging to everyone - but I'd wager she'll eventually see through his controlling and manipulative ways just like the rest of us. So whilst he's not a bit sorry neither am I because now I'm free to be me :-)
Guys sometimes treat you badly or say not so nice things when they aren't interested in you, like they just want you to disappear from their lives.. At least that's what it looks like.
It sounds like they forget about it the next day too.
i think a lot of guys on the site are the 'nice' guys so they don't treat girls bad, its the players and jerks out there who don't use GAG (dont need advice) they're the ones that will grow up to regret the good girls they lost.
I regretted both ways :)
I'm an asocial guy without natural skills for flirting. My only advantage is that I don't look bad. If I'm simply me I'm that nice guy who everybody loves him but no girl/woman is attracted to him. I heard so many times form a girl: "you are a perfect man and a girl will be very lucky to have you but I'm not attracted to you".
Maybe my greatest skill is that I can learn very fast. So what did I do? I observed the "bad" guys and I've learned from them. You have no idea how fast you can take a girl in bed if you are using manipulation, how easy is to get girls when you are dating 2 or 3 in the same time, how you can get everything when you don't offer anything. And what is strange: she simply stays there no matter how big an ASS I am. If I feel bad? I fell like sh*t. I did it, I'm not proud of it but until now it's the only way of getting girls.
It happened once that a friend (girl) of a girl I was dating asked me why am I such a jerk with someone who really love me - and she was right -. From that moment I started to be myself again and after 2 weeks I lost her.
PS: I know it's something wrong with me, I'm a person of extremes and if I do something (being good or bad) I'm doing it way to good.
Looking back, I regret how well I treated some girls.
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I feel like I've never treated a girl bad, too... but I have to be realistic.
Some of them felt bad and didn't say a damned thing until they blew up at me (like the Vietnamese girl who turned off the hot water one night so I'd end up screaming in shock in the shower, then the next day told me she did it because I "didn't deserve hot water," - I took the plate with the most bok choy on it without asking if she wanted it first. This literally happened).
I treated a girl bad after the break up when she'd manipulated me out of my entire life - cost me my job, my car, my apartment, my credit, my relationship with my son's mom - all because she was trying to get back at parents who'd disowned her. I'd still treat any passive-aggressive narcissist-personality-disorder having woman the same.
We'd all be better off if we could learn to be more assertive, less aggressive or passive in our interactions with the opposite sex (or simply the people we're attracted to, regardless of sexual persuasion).
IMO it's really about how we treat other humans we are desirous of. What goes into that psychological state, that perspective? That's the real question. Are we givers, takers, or balanced in our interaction - do we have someone we can be in harmony with. Are we people who can be in harmony with anyone?
I've always felt bad if I knew there was something more I could have done. A better way to handle things so that neither of us felt used or abused afterward. So I've tried mending bridges or fences. So far, I've only been successful at keeping a few friends that way.
I once had a girlfriend who cheated on me about 7x's over the course of nearly two years of dating. When I found out we broke up... Later on we tried to be friends and one night she was just being a real b*tch to me, telling me how sappy I was for falling for her and that I was lame for being screwed by her... This was while she was dating a guy who had given her a false name and false job (he said he was in a band but in fact worked at a bowling alley and I was trying to explain that I knew he was lying since some friends and sniffed out his con)... So I guess she was feeling insecure finding out the dude was essentially a fraud and taking it out on me.
So I finally got mad and called her a cumslut.
It was true and probably somewhat warranted considering how she had treated me when I had been nothing but nice to her even when she was screwing me over, BUT I still regret sinking to that level and acting immature
No because I've treated every girl I've dated like a queen. The only time I've lashed out at a girl I dated, was after she had already cheated on me or done something else like that where it was perfectly acceptable for me to b angry. So in my eyes as well as everyone elses at the time, I was simple sticking up for myself and teaching them a lesson.
And no, we're not lying. Stop buying into the feminist idea that all men are abusive to women. Most aren't, we're just not tugging at your panties.
I have treated most girls with respect and kindness during the relationship. After however I have been ruthless as in dating their sisters or friends. I have also sent pretty mean text and blown girls off after dating them even when they were nice and trying to be my friend. I only regret this one time where I was rude to this girl all the time. The thing was she was perfect had her whole life planned came from money etc. I treated her like crap and it got pretty ugly sometimes when I would drink. However years later she still speaks highly of me and tried to get things going. I felt so bad for how I treated her that I couldn't even look her in the eye so nothing ever happened. I do regret that happening but the other times no way. Most girls like to move out of a relationship right into another one and kick the last boyfriend in the teeth every time.
I have ONE major regret when it comes to a relationship I have been in --
She was literally the best girl ever but to my ever lasting shame, I allowed stupid people who are no longer a part of my life influence me way more than I ever should have allowed them to...
I ignorantly ended things... when I finally got my head out of my ass she had met someone she fell in love with and got married about a year ago...
Yeah, once -- I said some things that were really quite inappropriate and cruel and it's one of my few regrets in life..
I talked to her about it after the fact, but it took her some time to heal. :( I'm now super cautious about hurting others because of this incident.
I've treated lots of girls bad in my lifetime, and I sorely regret my actions. To make up for it, I sought a few of them and apologized. Though sometimes that isn't enough. It's something I'll have to live with, but also made me a better person. I hope to raise a son with more respect and let that be my own way of learning from my mistakes.
The only reason I've ever treated a girl bad is if she deserved it. This obviously seems like the wrong thing to do in any situation but I'm someone whose not going to be stepped on and undermined simply because the other person happens to be a girl. It's no something I'm particularly proud of but I am happy that I stand up for myself. The one girl that comes to mind was an old girlfriend, she was very insecure and very clingy, always wanted my attention and didn't let me enjoy my life despite my clean record with her. However she did not have a clean record with me, in the past she had broken up with me for another guy twice so if I decided to go and have some fun with my friends once in a while (drinking or whatever) I believe I was not only entitled to that as a human being in a healthy relationship, but also because she had no room to be throwing around suspicions that I was cheating on her.
I have never treated a girl badly, just for the sake of treating her badly. Sometimes we might argue, but I really hate fighting so if we fight it is because I get pulled into it against my will. Sometimes through ignorance I would hurt her feelings, and regretted it, but I don't think that is what you are talking about. But I have never purposely mistreated a girl. The girl might think differently, but like I said it would be out of ignorance, not a deliberate attempt.
When they act really hurt I am normally certain I didn't do anything wrong. Like when I started gaining weight and got really self conscious, so I started worrying about how I was dressed and stuff hoping to off set the weight I had gained. My ex swore it was because of a new girl at work. I didn't even know the girls name, but my ex acted like I was the worst most cruel man that ever lived. It didn't have anything to do with that girl. I was just embarrassed about being fat.
I treated a girl poorly and I had just met her off a dating site after talking for a while. I kinda liked her vibe, she was chill, we had similar music tastes and was nice to me.
I did end up apologising to her and she accepted my apology but still has me blocked on everything. I guess that's her way of forcing herself to move on. I dont mean to be hurtful, I just too brutally honest at times and it really does dig into people.
I told her I still wanted to see her but I told her that there was a good chance I wouldn't change, too bad, I didn't mean to be such a shit person but I can't help it sometimes. I dont want to blame it on my past but I have a lot of unresolved issues I need to mend before I start looking for something serious.
I dont want to hurt others and I also dont want to be hurt again, so I stopped dating and I've tried meditation and other things to change my mindset.
I have never treated a woman like a jerk that I didn't regret it. Guys are pig headed and do not want to admit the short comings. I am proud of when I treat a lady like a lady and it is my goal to be a nice guy to every woman I some across even if there is no dating involved.
I always try to be the better person. That being said, I had an ex-wife who really tested that. And there were times I was less than nice to her, but only because I was stooping to her low level. Did I ever feel horrible for anything I did? No. No regrets for any of it. In fact, some times I wish I would have been a little bit meaner.
I do know there are guys out there though who are horrible to their significant others, or at least it seems that way from an outsiders perspective.
Yes... but this was, like, waaay back when I was 11. It's that phase boys go through when we "dislike" girls, and I put that in quotes due to bullsh*t since I had PLENTY of crushes at the time.
Anyway, I remember this one girl by name---Stephanie. She appeared to have a crush on me and I treated her like complete garbage. I didn't feel horrible until I was an adult, by then we were already countries apart. I'd give quite a shiny penny to have a chance to apologize... -.-
im with kheserthorpe I regret treating some women to nicely but I do regret one incident with a girlfriend, I still would have dumped her but I should have been nicer about it
yes I have and ireally tried to ammend things and it didn't work so I made sure in the future that I don't repeat the same mistake.
I've never treated anyone badly in a way that I regret later. Bad behavior reflects on that person, not on me so why should I waste the energy?
Yes, I have, but it was either in response to her doing the same or to a bad break up. And no, I never really felt bad about it nor did I try to mend things. I've never taken an ex back and I'm not going to start now.
nope, maybe online I have, but not in real life. Didn't regret it though
No not when dating but I have an intimacy problem because of something that happened to me in the past. Once I feel like a girl is interested in me I try to screw it up so they won't like me.
Yes, a bit, but I keep saying myself it was for her own good.
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