Guys, have you ever treated a girl mean, and in the process then lost her?

[Daniela1982]

Have you lost a girl you really cared for because of the way you treated her?

[exitseven]

No I have never done that. I have had it done to me.

[Daniela1982]

Why that ignorant so and so.

[exitseven]

Life is a journey and sometimes you get the shaft.

[Daniela1982]

And other times she gets the shaft, and the head.

[exitseven]

hahaha I see what you just did.

[motownplayer2000]

I put it like this.. I don’t lose anyone in my life that I believe is meant to be there.. if I’m mean to anyone.. but I this case a girl, it means she doesn’t need to be in my life.

[Daniela1982]

If you are mean I don't think she would want to be in your life either.

[Daniela1982]

So in a way you both win.

[007kingifrit]

oh yes. i think we were too young to treat eachother with kindness. i had a lot of resentment for her because she kept us a secret. and she read my resentment as disrespect.

but i also tried to make her do things she didn't want to do because it hurt me to see her pretend she didn't want to do them because she was scared or peer pressured out of it. but i see now one can't force a flower to bloom by prying its petals open.

[Daniela1982]

I hope the "i also tried to make her do things she didn't want to" didn't refer to sex. But it's true, sometimes a person has to force themselves to have a good time.

[007kingifrit]

it was mostly social stuff more than anything sexual. she was a totally different person in private.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope, but the inverse happened multiple times. where she lost me because she was being a jerk.

[Jerre]

No, I never have. I treat all girls with great respect.

[Likes2drive]

Not really, it’s not my nature

[Jamie05rhs]

I think I probably have.

[Daniela1982]

You think or know?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Daniela1982 I don't know for sure. But I admit that it may be a possibility.

[roy_ricky09]

Yes. If she deserved it

[Daniela1982]

Wait, YOU treated a girl mean and she deserved it? So then you didn't mind losing her.

[roy_ricky09]

People just don't trun mean without a reason. The only important person in this world for anyone is themselves. There is always a limit for tolerance.

[Daniela1982]

You didn't say why she deserved it.

[Massageman]

Not that I ever knew about.

[msc545]

Yes, I have, sadly.

[Daniela1982]

I hope you learned your lesson.

[msc545]

I did.