Should I let boyfriend be my slave?

[aglaia]

Well, recently, I kind of defated my bf---physically. He's not a total weakling, but, well, I somehow had him at my mercy and he couldn't get out. Now he kinda uses this as a reason to totally submit to me (I'm pretty sure he digs that). He says he's not worthy of me and that I now have the right to keep him as my bond-slave forever.

Well at first it bugged me a little that he almost insisted on this, but then, it's pretty convenient to have him at my beck and call, to be honest. Somehow our relationship is really cool since he found his place ;) So, should I just let him get what he wants? Maybe I could make him sign a contract or so :) The idea of "owning" my boyfriend appeals to me more and more ;)

[dizmuhjam]

You dont look that strong in your picture. Or he's really weak. But okay lets move on and accept this for now.

Have you thought about what you do if he's your slave but you need a "real man" again who has his way with you? Cheat? Because he won't be like this anymore I think. Or will you simply live that life forever, and be a "Queen" or "Mistress" that still stays loyal to her slave and won't sleep around?

Think carefully the "What if I need a man?" part before you start playing with the idea of turning him into a slave completely.

[aglaia]

Uhm yea, it's a while ago, actually, and I wouldn't be able to do it again or at all on purpose. And maybe, just maybe, he would've been able to get out if he tried even harder. He was pretty drained from helping a friend to burrow a hole for his ridiculously huge pond. Anyway, he laid on the back, on his stomach, and I teased him a little. (Actually, I'm a nice person ;)) He tried to get "wave" me away, so I straddled his back and grabbed his hands so he couldn't give me the slip. He struggled to get his hands free, and I struggled to keep them under control. I grabbed and twisted and bended his arms, hands, and fingers, until he suddenly couldn't do much anymore. I think I was holding one arm with both hands and had his fingers or wrist locked in a way that hurt him when he tried to move it.
Actually, I think he was so worn out that he didn't really feel like fighting. Maybe he was happy he could just surrender and let his stressed body be teased a little lol

[dizmuhjam]

Yah.. true..

[aglaia]

And with the "real man" and "live that life forever" and "a slave completely"... Well, it's not 24/7, it couldn't be. That would be ridiculous. He has a job, friends to meet, and like anyone needs some time on his own, leisure, recreation.
It's more like that he's just super submissive to me and cannot do anything about it, because it turns him on so much. I need not do much to arouse him, and then I'm in control, end of story. He gave up on pretending a "real man" must be calling the shots or have his way. Of course he's a person with an independent mind. He's not hypnotized, drugged, brain washed or something. So yea, he can do things without me telling him when and how. And he can do it sexually.
And still, when I say "jump", he asks "how high?"...

[dizmuhjam]

Yeah, I got that it gets HIM going. And I got that he's a normal dude outside of the bedroom. But what about YOU? Does it get you going if he's submissive when aroused? Sometimes it may be fun for you, but dont you want to be the submissive one sometimes and get fucked as if you're the prey of some predator? If not thats fine, if you are happy with only being the dominant part and if he loves to be the submissive part, thats fine.

[aglaia]

Sometimes I don't want to be dominant, that's true. But I never really want to be submissive. Don't know why. Guess some people have their theories, but I don't mind. Sometimes it starts as if I was the submissive one, or as if he was in charge somehow, but that never lasts to the end. It's like we take a small sip from the "other" bottle, but that's just a tease and we both cannot wait to be back. And yea, when I finally turn the tables, he cannot do anything about it cause he craves it even more than me.

[dizmuhjam]

I see. Well then he must be a lucky guy. You're gorgeous by the way. Have a nice evening.

[aglaia]

Thanks

[Theguyoverthere]

Just go with it. Some people just have submissive personalities and enjoy it. I have had jokes with girls where they want to beat me up and someone will say "He'd enjoy it." I say go with it. Kinda like a roleplay thing.

[aglaia]

"He'd enjoy it." :)

I find it really encouraging that so many people seem to be cool with a girl being dominant. Esp. when he even does whatever I say when we are in public. It's not that I'd demand humiliating stuff, but I just wonder whether it seems strange to others that he just silently obeys me ;)

[Theguyoverthere]

Times have changed. A lot of guys have sensitive egos and try to be "manly" but other guys like it also because(while this may turn girls off) it allows the guy to feel "mothered" in a way(if that is a word).

Some guys are into weird stuff too. Look on craigslist and you'll see some crazy ads!

[8495eddie]

He sounds like a lucky guy to of found his place with the right gal you should definitely own him if both of you are into that, you won't ever have to do the dishes or clean anymore and when you are watching TV use him as a foot stool he will feel very lucky your very own slave at your Beck and call some guys only dream of that he's lucky let us know how it's going.

[bratbunny]

Whatever contract you would sign would not be enforceable in court.

This kind of relationship only exists between both people consent to it, more importantly, because the "slave" consents to giving this kind of power and control over to the "master" or "mistress"

Some guys are into that. Sounds like he clearly is. It's not such a bad thing. I just wouldn't be able to do it. Are you still turned on when it comes time to have sex?

[linesoflightning]

If he's into it, then go for it, but that kind of power comes with a lot of responsibility. You should probably think about the long term consequences before you do anything like draw up a contract. Not saying you shouldn't do it, just that it can get really complicated and emotionally charged, really fast.

[xzinax2]

a dominatrix-slave relationship is fine as long as it's consensual,establish a safe word,and sensitive areas,there are guides,and classes to help you,there are some things you can't do,like stepping on certain areas in heels,it can be dangerous to just start doing it without information

[RomeoMontagu]

That is suspicious he was not able to escape you, and then so eagerly used that he could not to make a case for his being your slave. Maybe he really could not escape your hold on him, or maybe he could not only because he did not want to.

Not every female can dominate a male. Your contemplation of doing so is a sign you are one that could. Consider yourself fortunate that you have the opportunity to never again have to do the laundry, set the table, wash the dishes, clean house etc. You would own a slave who would eagerly do such things to serve you.

We are beings who are controlled by the dopamine pleasure hormone. Evidently he gets a dopamine high on even the prospect of his servitude to you. Your part in this would be to enhance this by forming a Pavlovian association between service, and dopamine release. When he serves give him a verbal, or better yet, sensuous reward, that is proportional to how well he serves.

A chastity device on his cock assures fidelity, and enhances control once he realizes he is dependent upon you for his relief.

There is a broad range of D/s relationships. It can range from occasional roleplay, to very a real full time one with real discipline. On the far end of the spectrum where very few go so far the BDSM discipline can be quite brutal.

If you decide to this here is recommended reading:

Join a BDSM group near you - they are everywhere, to get training in how to do this.

[nella_bmar]

It sounds like you don't have much of a say, I read the replies you said to most postings, and it sounds like he already accepts he's less masculine/social and gives you authority over him. Can you accept that he's only pretending to be "normal" around others merely to keep his income and status quo? This is called masking and I know it only too well. I took 3 months off to live in my mistress's basement, and I must say, I wish I could have lived there permanently. His mother/sister? may know of the triggers and issues that may help you solidify the contract and become more trusting of the position requested. wish you two the best and would luv to hear an update.

[MtnDewMan]

sounds like it could be super kinky I love that. I have yet to find a freak that can match what I am interested in. I would do it for the thrill if that is what you are both into. there are limits and boundaries that need to be set in place before you go all out, just make sure you cover all grounds so you are safe with it.

[RomeMontaview]

The old saying is: "Be careful what you ask for, you might get it." In this case you most certainly will. If that is what you really want there are various degrees you can take this. It can go from occasional role play, to a 24 hour a day 7 days a week slave who will worship you like a Goddess, obey you, and grovel before you.

Women tend to be attracted to real masculine alpha men. (And no, not all masculinity is toxic.)

There are always exceptions. If you are sure you are one of the exceptions, here you go:

[socklint]

you would be a fool not to at least try it maam, give him a taste and see how he acts, get up after dinner and tell him to do the dishes and clean the kitchen and when he is done he can come rub your feet while you watch tv, you will know right then how he acts,

[Gawesome]

hear that? that's the sound of a guy LITERALLY being whipped!

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...WOOPSH! lol XD

[adamfk1]

it might be a fetish , doesn't mean he is whipped , just a sexual desire

[Gawesome]

it was my chance to make a whip crack sound...the jokester inside me just HAD to do it :P

[sexyasianboi26]

0.o, "Whatever floats on your boat"

If your boyfriend like his balls smashed with a hammer...hey go ahead.

[aglaia]

Lol. Maybe I'm mean to seize his balls, but I won't smash them, but keep them warm and safe ;)

[lauramor]

well if you two are up for it then you should do it. do it while both of you are comfortable with it.

[blackkid2]

If you intend to do this make sure to lay out some serious groundrules. These games get out of hand really quickly esp. if only one person is playing at any given time.

[kalimavictor12]

Hear that? You are turning into a total dominatrix. Pretty soon it's gonna grow into a full-out obsession. Nothing good will come of this in the long run.

[gotc147]

No reason not to, seems both of you are into it. Let me know if you need any tips.

[aglaia]

Hm, I'd appreciate any tip on how to tell him that I'm going to take him at his words now and that I'll be serious about that.

[6Paul11]

Whatever floats your boat. Not my thing but have fun.

[Anonymous]

The contract would mean nothing, but if you're both into it, go for it.

Just don't delude yourself into believing that he couldn't turn the tables and take full physical control of you any time he pleases. ;)

[abundantlyrich]

lol. Yeah write up a contract to officially seal this new found bond.

[Anonymous]

Wow, you're a bitch. Good luck finding someone to love you with your nasty ass attiude.

[linesoflightning]

How is she a bitch if HE was the one to introduce the new aspect of the relationship? Enjoying a dom/sub relationship doesn't make someone a bitch as long as everyone else involved enjoys it too.

[Opinion Owner]

linesoflighting because she's basically taking advantage of her man's passitivity. Not cool.

[linesoflightning]

Consensual domination/submission is not the same thing as a strong person taking advantage of a weak person, and being submissive is not the same thing as being passive. From what I can tell, this man knows and has made it clear the relationship he wants, and she is finding out she enjoys it too. You're right, taking advantage of people is terrible, but I really don't see where your getting that impression from in this situation.

[Opinion Owner]

lineoflightening, okay well my opinion is that whole theory is bullsh*t. It sounds absiolutely f***ing ridiculous and sooner or later, the relationship will fall apart. Either she get bored will feel like she wants more of a man then her eyes will wander. Or he will get tired of being treated like a doormat.

[WantSoulmate]

I think you lost your mind. I really need a doctor and I feel pity for the poor guy. The word poor describe about his personality. If you need slave make it officially but this guy is like a child who will give you a pain in your ass babes.

[Anonymous]

You should let him be your slave. After all, it's just a bed room action

[Nifrayu]

I really like the idea of having my own personal slave. I would take full advantage of this.

[dsrice]

If he enjoyed it then have him be your slave. I think you would be stronger then me also.

[Eternallylucky]

lol.. it might be an interesting role play

[aglaia]

It is ;)
We have up and downs, but all in all it seems we're cementing our positions lol