My boyfriend always points out my flaws...

[Anonymous]

I have brought it upto him to stop but he doesn't. Every time I'm with him he points out my mole on my face which is small and skin colored and it bothers me because I didn't even know it was noticeable and I can't do anything about it. When I have the rare zit he always stares and points it out, I have a lot of veins on my eyelids and he constantly points that out too. He says I have long arms and then he says I have white skin. He's only called me beautiful once. I mean its not every time I'm with him he does this but then he will go on a spree and point out like 3 things in 5 minutes. I'm not even insecure it just is annoying and I always want to look perfect. He has scars and birth marks and I never point those out because I find that rude. How do I make him stop! I get all ready and think I look good and then he says nothing but oh you have a zit or something stupid.

[ilovelegs]

Every girl I know wants to think she looks beautiful, at least, to someone, but especially to a guy that's her boyfriend. If fact, a girl should be able to take that for granted that he thinks she's beautiful or he wouldn't have her for a girlfriend. So to point out what he considers imperfections in the way his girlfriend looks is extremely rude, improper and just plain mean and hurtful. Who in heck does he think he is - Mr. Perfect!?! No human being is created with an absolutely perfect body. We all have, at least, little imperfections on our bodies in one form or another. I feel for you and think you should be more than annoyed. To get all ready for some nice event and being all positive and think you look cute and good to yourself and your boyfriend only to have him not only ignore how good you look but to actually insult you by pointing out one of your tiny little skin imperfections is the mark of a very uncaring, unkind non- respectful jerk of a boyfriend that doesn't deserve you. You didn't actually ask a question for suggestions of what to tell him or ask for advice but I will say this. The very next time he does that you NEED to ask him WHY he does this. There's always a reason a person does things so he does have a reason so you need to ask him. You could point out all his imperfections but that would be fighting fire with fire so I wouldn't suggest that. Just get right down to business and ask him and demand an answer. You may be surprised to learn a few things about your boyfriend you never knew or realized. One of them is that he's very insecure so he's taking it out on you. By how he answers you, you'll be able to address this issue that will cause him to stop hurting you this way. You need to get to the bottom of this picky habit of his right now so that it stops. If it comes right down to it just tell him he's not all perfect either. GOOD LUCK!

[snowangle]

If he's doing anything to try to knock down your self confidence, he's not a good guy. It's not that hard to not point out someone's physical flaws. If he doesn't know that's not okay, then you probably don't need to be dating him.

[Asker]

I don't think he's intentionally trying to knock me down, he just speaks his mind I guess. But it still is very annoying and hurtful.

[why-makoto-kun]

He's trying to knock you down and lower your self-esteem to control you and make you more eager to please him. Dump him ASAP.

[Anonymous]

your boyfriends should not do it, I would dump him if I were you

[RosaliaVanderbilt]

What an a**hole! You deserve so much better. Nobody is physically perfect. We're human! He needs to get over that.

[Anonymous]

if I were you I would dump his ass