Why is a guy so offended after pointing out his flaws (he started first)?

[Anonymous]

He started with the suddenly comparing me to hourglass frame models and other girls on TV and youtube that eat much less and are constantly checking their weight because it's important for fertility, etc. I can't do nothing about being an apple shape and average-medium frame. Neither of my family members are that skinny nor chubby either and none of us are short either. You can't expect an 5'8 apple-shaped woman to be 120 Ibs. I don't get full by tiny portions either nor 2-3 crackers at night. I have to eat normal breakfast, lunch and regular dinner.

I tend to let the person talk all they want to, then analyze it all and the next day or two say my stance.

So yes I did replied back on the following day. In a rather gentle manner, I pointed about his awful fiancial status for a man in his mid 30's, the times I've helped him with the bill several times and indicated how that's unfavorable if he wants to one day provide for a family since he's struggling so much and he's the one mentioning about wanting kids one day. I added that all my male relatives and several guys on youtube younger than him can already provide for a family. Then I ended with an ''One more thing, no offense but it might be a good idea to have a dental work on the abnormal alignment of the upper teeth (he has buck teeth) and some cleaning might help out for hygienic reasons. It might be important for an interview one day or some presentation don't you think?

Needless to say all this ended up in a break-up. He got hurt badly and pretty much had no actually reply back to that. Isn't that hypocritical? He can mention a flaw but I can't say his?

Updates

1 y

If I was him and had more flaws than the person I'm insulting and doing stupid comparisons, I would shut up.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. You both sound very childish and unlovable. "he started first..." what is this preschool? Stop worrying about superficial things and focus on improving yourself and being a better communicator.

If you want a good relationship, then this guy should not have been your focus. You made a mistake being with him because you were just free-floating in emotion and fell in love. You caught yourself in a lie when you told yourself this guy would help benefit me emotionally.

It was a learning experience, and now you understand your mistake. You were ignoring red flags. You were not being assertive when talking to your lover. If you had told him how you felt from the beginning, you would have saved more time.

If you all you got out of this experience was some silly argument and "I am right and he is wrong," then your future relationships will be no different. Please take it as a learning experience and move on.

[Anonymous]

that's fucked up. look i like my woman with curves sexy thick thighs no ugly thigh gap nice shaped tits and a nice sexy shaped ass. as for the dental teeth thing. my teeth aren't exactly the greatest because i have a small sized mouth and when i was a teen i had braces which messed up my teeth bad when i had them removed the dentist used pliers to remove the cemented brackets off my teeth which left my mouth covered in a pool of blood. then a few years ago i had my right bottom wisdom teeth removed which almost broke my jaw. the quack surgeon removed my teeth before the novacaine set it resulting in some fucked up damage to my bottom right jaw.

[Asker]

Sorry to hear about the bad work they did on your teeth. If I'm not mistaken I think you can sue them for that.
If my now ex boyfriend wouldn't have made those remarks nor compare me to models with a frame I never had and never will have, I wouldn't have said anything about his flaws. I only insult when I get insulted first.

[Opinion Owner]

so he thought you were to skinny? or overweight?

[Asker]

He thought I was too overweight and expected me to be the perfect, ideal hourglass shape. There are several factors he wasn't aware of. The women he was pointing too seemed shorter and little breasts. I'm 5'8, 146 Ibs, bigger breasts (that adds to my weight) and I'm not an hourglass, I'm an apple shaped frame... I can't do nothing about my structure no matter how much I exercise and eat healthy. I still eat healthy but I don't eat tiny portions.

[Asker]

I don't think that's overweight considering the frame, height and weight distribution. If I were 120 Ibs (I believe it's suppose to be more for an 5'8 woman), it would probably not be a healthy weight either.

[Opinion Owner]

He's bitching because you're 148 at 5'8 dump him. I'm being fucking serious when i say that dump the shit for brains jackass. His mouth is bigger then his iq and his little pecker

[Opinion Owner]

His ideas are completely unrealistic. At 5'8 148 is fine for a woman especially when you got big knockers big juggs like you say you do. Get rid of the immature little cretin seriously

[Asker]

Yeah if someone is going to mention a flaw, 1st they have to make sure is at least accurate (get it right) and make sure they themselves don't have more, bigger flaws than the other person.

[Serve86]

It seems he is secretly and in some way openly extremly insecure about himself and feeds off/feels better by making others feel insecure in some way feeling like he has a upper hand. Therefore it’s normal for him to get triggered when you mention his flaws as it probably reminds him of reasons he hates himself it definitely is a personal issue with him and himself do not see it as anything personal to you or feel insecure when you act confident around these kind of guys generally they hate it and try to be little you to feel better about theirselves

[Berethor]

Guy want looks, girl want money, how typical, he might expected you to be submissive.

[Asker]

I find it unrealistic that he expected an ideal weight of hourglass frame out of a natural apple frame, taller woman. He was like asking for an orange to transform into another fruit, impossible.
But he could've easily improved his buck teeth, cleaning his teeth and save money to improve his financial status.

[Berethor]

If you say so, how tall are you? and how tall is he? girls tend to care about height.

[Asker]

I'm 5'8 (apple shape and naturally bigger breasts, which adds weigh too) and he's exactly 6ft

[Berethor]

Yea you both tall, and you right being tall and having big breasts add to girl's weight.

[Asker]

so what he was requesting from me wasn't realistic. Perhaps 120 Ibs would have to be a much short girl, smaller breasts and another body shape. I can't ever be an hourglass if I'm apple shape. Each of us is structured differently.

[KerriH]

It's how people are. They don't want to hear ot