Why does a guy blame you and not admit what he messed up with?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe at your age this might happen. Testosterone peaking young asshole guys might do that.

But I can tell after age 25 it is usually women who struggle to admit fault. They think admitting fault = admitting defeat. It’s a huge sign of emotional immaturity.

My mother has been like this her entire life. Even in her 60s she rarely apologizes when it’s obvious she’s in the wrong. I’ve encountered several women in their 30s who act this way. Women can actually get worse about this as they get older. I also politically leftist women are notoriously bad at this. They will self rationalize any shitty female behavior including cheating, false accusations and in extreme cases murder.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

people don't see their flaws. even with some empathy, they may not want to see their issues. and it's hard to be vulnerable. If he lacks empathy, forget it. he was trained for <20 years before you found him... examine that training + personality + traumas and you will find your answer as to why he does what he does.

Bethany22 · Accepted Answer

While women tend to initially blame themselves for things that went wrong, men tend to blame others initially. In the workforce, this helps men to not get distracted by self-loathing, whereby they are still able to concentrate on the work that needs to be done. Unfortunately, this attitude does not cary over so well into relationships.

Account · Accepted Answer

He is incompetent and has the emotional maturity of a 5 year old.

Anonymous · Answer

From reading your other post, he just wanted to have sex w you. He does like you but not enough to commit to you. So he wanted you to sit around waiting on him, on the back burner as they say while he screws other women. You’re supposed to wait on him for him to call then you’re supposed to go running to him lol that’s what he wanted

LadyKitty · Answer

If he is in the wrong and won't admit he did wrong.. He doesn't have accountability. I'd say walk away from that sorta relationship.

HawkPerception · Answer

For the same reason a woman would. Not mature enough to have a sense of accountability. Either that or you're actually the one to blame and he's right and YOU have no accountability. It goes by a case by case scenario.

TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff · Answer

For the same reason a woman blames you and does not admit what she messed up with. If people take responsibility for their contribution to a problem, then they have to do something to fix it BUT people sometimes don't want to fix things. . . they want to sabotage them because it is a form of both self-sabotage and self-punishment. They don't feel worthy, so they feel better by making out that is entirely other people who aren't worthy.

Todd9612 · Answer

Really?

I never blame her, instead I find myself apologizing even when I don’t know why or what I did. In my situation this one is definitely turned around. No matter what she does. It is always my fault, if I wouldn’t have done this then she wouldn’t have done what she did.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Why are you even communicating with him still?  Unless you’re carrying his baby, there’s no point in this chaos.  Good luck

bobalife · Answer

Emotionally immature and not respectful, he isn’t empathetic nor can he communicate and acknowledge his wrongdoings. It’s also called “gaslighting” and manipulation tactics. Overall, it’s toxic behaviors.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Is WHY an important question? If you understand WHY he does it, does that make it easier to tolerate? Does it make him a better candidate for a LTR? Or does it merely give you a reason to not move forward and start looking for someone else?

Anonymous · Answer

To the asker what if the girl or woman is visibly upset by what he says and he does take accountability and tries to apologize to her for a few days but blocks him…wouldn’t that prove that he is willing to accept what he did was wrong but now she’s acting immature and stubborn.

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

He don't sounds good.😅 Leave him, block him in an unexpected way and act like u don't have any interest in him anymore and also act like it's not your fault.👍✨

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

Same reason anyone else does. Admitting blame is always hard.

RavenDarkheart · Answer

I think my cousin told me the term was a “self serving bias.” He only sees you as negative.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

It's hard for anyone to take accountability of their own actions

Radiate143 · Answer

Big ego Immature Training you to take all the blame Afraid to grow and change  Not worth the energy.

Anonymous · Answer

Because he’s f—ing re—rded… If a guy does this to me. I’m gonna think he’s borderline Autistic. Can’t see your own faults , your own actions?  AUTISTIC!

sage2021 · Answer

I wonder if back in the cave days if cave woman and cave men had these problems? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

People that typically behave like that are narcissistic in natuelse's. In their pathetic minds, it's never their fault, it's always someone elses.

OddBeMe · Answer

Tactics. Like love bombing…. we shame bomb. Destroy your confidence and then scoop up the pieces.  Shhhh…. Shhhh we know what’s best. Lol

Jkgordon · Answer

It’s call gas lightning. Learn the new lengua for evil selfish people ~

Grizz96 · Answer

It's easier to forget little simple things that we might have caused For the actions that are caused it's easy for us to overlook them as not a big deal until we're reminded and actually think about our words or actions that started the issue

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Immaturity and pride. The same reason as when women do it.

nawtee_me · Answer

Because it is easier to point the finger somewhere else. Otherwise he would have to change something about himself.

ienjoylookingatgreen · Answer

Girls do it too not just guys, just depends how immature the person is

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Why do random anons post ambiguous questions?

hammeronfire · Answer

Without context to this question, it’s impossible to determine who’s actually in the wrong here

HouseMoat · Answer

Because women NEVERRRRRRR admit when they're wrong EVER

DreamLife7 · Answer

Because he doesn't like u ding dong yet u won't take a hint and leave

laly520 · Answer

cuz he is toxic n immature

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

He's more a child than a man.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Sounds like a gaslighting situation. Be careful.

Squatting_Slav · Answer

Not man enough to take responsibility

elaphe · Answer

Not all guys are alike.

Anonymous · Answer

Need more context

Anonymous · Answer

because

jahaims · Answer

He is immature

Anonymous · Answer

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