My boyfriend said he wants to see me get angry, why?

[Anonymous]

I am a really easy-going person. I very rarely get upset or angry. I had a lot of bad things happen to me in the past, so I think I just learned to cope really well with little things and don't let them get to me. I always thought that if I was dating someone, they would find that as a GOOD thing, but my boyfriend of 5 months keeps saying how he wants to see me angry. He said something like "If you don't get angry at me, that means you are holding back. I want this to be real and for us to be able to get through anything, but I can't do that if I never see you angry." He keeps saying this once in a while. I explained to him before that I just don't easily get angry, that I don't like drama and to cause issues just for the sake of it, and if I ever really get angry he won't like it cause that will mean he did something REALLY wrong. He keeps bringing this up though, it's like he thinks I am holding back by not getting angry, when in fact I really am NOT angry lol. I am a very cheerful person. I don't know how else to explain that to him, without him thinking that I am just not being completely honest. Why does he want so much to see me angry? Wouldn't a boyfriend want a girlfriend NOT to get angry? Lol I don't get it! I mean I know they say in order to be sure you can get through anything when married you have to get through fights, but I don't get the point of creating problems or fights when you are not actually angry? Can someone explain to me why he is so hung up on this? lol

[Menelin]

I can see his reasoning. He knows that a strong relationship needs to be able to survive rough waters and that hiding problems from each other can break that strength. His only flaw here is his belief of you hiding anger. Tell him the kind of things that actually anger you. He'll see how long your fuse is rather than him trying to guess its length or you showing him a shorter false fuse.

[madhatters4]

he probably means it rather jokingly but ultimately I think it means that he wants to see that you can have that side of you. to show you as human as he and everyone else is.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Because anger is passion. Maybe to some people it's how their family communicates, so he's expecting his partner to reply the same way.

[Asker]

But why would he want me to show anger? How is expressing yourself with anger a good thing, when you are not really angry? I am supposed to pretend I am angry? He has a very loving and caring family, and I have never seen them communicate with anger. And my boyfriend and I had some disagreements too, but he seems to think that in order to know that I really love him, he must get me super angry and then have me forgive him? I feel that's weird lol.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

He wants angry makeup sex ;)

[Asker]

LOL maybe that's it... maybe I should try to get "fake angry" and see if it turns him on ha ha :)

[yaddayaddayadda02]

atta girl.

[Menelin]

Bad idea. Faking emotions leads to breakup. Trust me.

[artfullyliving]

maybe you're repressed