Is too soon to tell him I miss him?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to a guy for a couple months on text and phone, but we’ve only hung out a select few times; once when we met and one weekend recently. He’s Army and doesn’t live near me. I went to see him a little over a week ago and we spent 2 days together. We both had fun and agreed we want to see each other again. Two days after I visited him, he was deployed and will be in Afghanistan for 5-6 months. We didn’t really get a chance to talk about whether we wanted to officially date beyond wanting to see each other again. I don’t mind traveling to see him and he explained he has some leave he can take when he gets home. I have his email and we discussed keeping in contact. We talked on the phone briefly before he left. I have not heard from him, but I did send him a cheery email just saying Hello since he’s been gone—which I don’t think he’s gotten yet.

I’ve noticed in the past week that I really do miss him. Even just sending him funny texts. We had a great time together and I find myself reminded of our weekend a lot. Is it too soon for me to tell him I miss him in an email? It’s the truth, but I don’t want him to feel awkward that I said it. I think spending 2 full days together brought us closer together as well as revealed some of our “flaws” By design, there is also a little less mystery and intrigue.

Do I need to wait to say something like that, or might he appreciate me telling him that I miss him?

[pixytoo]

I think that he miss you too, men just appreciate sweet girls and obviously you'r one. I think that you should test his feelings to you first before telling him you miss him. say something like : "hey, hope you'r doing well, I really want you to take care of yourself and stay safe.. we had great time together and I would love to do it again.. keep in touch" and believe me, since he is an Army guy, he will appreciate it too much, he will appreciate that you care about him and think about him too.. they need to have this feeling that he are loved and cared for.. It is their weakness point I can tell you, play on this if you really want to get the guy.. and oh, always make him feel that you care about him but you can live by your own too, men are just attracted to independent wemon.

[Asker]

Thanks! I've definitely told him a few times to "stay safe" before he left. I'm definitely independent, I'm just not sure if he's spent enough time with me to know that. I've told him. But I've also never missed someone I just met this much. I don't want to smother him (for lack of a better world lol). What I'm trying to do is just send him messages that will make him smile without an expectation of getting a response back---not the easiest thing to do.

[pixytoo]

Ok then, if you expecting nothing, just follow your heart and tell him that you miss him. it is so sweet to know that someone is missing you. Actually am in the same trouble thinking should I text my guy that I miss him after we broke up ? he texed me that he didn't forget about me and I don't know what to do now... best of luck dear

[Asker]

Saying I'm expecting nothing is a lot harder than actually doing it! Lol! But for you, I guess I would say the same thing. If you are prepared to not get the response you want from your ex, or get no response at all, then go for it. Why are you telling him you miss him? Is it to get him to say the same thing back and maybe get back together, or is it to make him feel like someone cares about him despite your history? Will saying it make him feel better or worse?

[pixytoo]

the truth is I truly miss him a lot and always think about him. it was my fault that we broke up and now he said that "he didn't forget about me despite everything, and he is sorry" I don't know what does he mean by this? is it a move by his side to make up again ? I have no answer for this right now... hope I helped you.. kisses