Is it a turn off if a guy drinks a lot?

[Anonymous]

Is it a turn off if a guy drinks a lot?

[ironeddie]

Yes.

I've been clean coming up 14 years. I wasn't a mean drunk, but even still. I know the last couple of years of drinking, I didn't even want to be around myself. Why would someone else? Drinking feels good for a while. After many years you feel nothing. Then you drink just because. It will only get worse from there.

Blacking out for 2 or 3 days, coming to then seeing various receipts or items so you know you were driving. Panicking about what could have or did happen that you don't know about yet. The helplessness of not being able to stop. Getting arrested (when you get to a certain point arrests are inevitable). And this is just the tip of the iceberg. The cost of the booze. It's not a pretty sight.

[Asker]

Lol, I can keep a leveled head while I drink, I'm already a bottle down... some people can hold their shit some cant..

[ironeddie]

So could I at that point.

At my worst I was drinking at least 2 sometimes 3, 40 ounce of bourbon a day.

I would never tell a person not to drink, that's a personal choice for the drinker. Been there done that. But I'm not going to condone it either. I and every alcoholic at one point were just like you. 6'4" and bulletproof.

Trust me it will eventually catch up with you, if you keep it up. It may be a couple years away. But a fall is inevitable.

[Asker]

I welcome the pit..., anything to feel

[ironeddie]

Unfortunately you won't like what you feel by then. Empty, alone, worthless. By your writing I get the impression you are already at those "feelings". The pit is bottomless. But only you will know when/if you want to grab the rope and start climbing out.

Good Luck I hope you wake up sooner than later.

[Scoopie]

Generally, girls don't like a guy that drinks a lot. They may still like the guy, but they do not like that he's drinking a lot. Especially if during a night out the girl has to rely on the guy to get home and he gets drunk, she won't appreciate that. Or when his drinking is standing in the way of a lot of more important things, so he has his priorities all wrong.

[Anonymous]

Drinking all the time and getting drunk all the time is a big turn off, yes. I'm not much of a drinker, but I'm not a prude about it either... but doing it ALL the time will get old VERY fast and I'd be annoyed that I couldn't do anything with my boyfriend without him having to drink/get drunk. That relationship wouldn't last long at all.

[523206720]

If he's not an alcoholic and capable of drinking without getting drunk, I wouldn't care. The only problem with alcohol (unless you get drunk or have the potential to become an alcoholic) is that alcohol costs a lot of money.

[Asker]

Whats the problem with drinking to get drunk ?

[523206720]

It's bad for the health and makes people act foolish.

[Asker]

Health is no concern of mine, what if it makes me feel like myself ?

[Enideqa]

Agreed with the anonymous user below, it is most definitely not a turn on. If he is an alcoholic, that is a turn off, and black out drunk and vomiting is a turn off.

[Asker]

Why is it a turn off ?

[Enideqa]

Well being an alcoholic, I have grown up with a couple around me, fighting addiction is 9 out of 10 times a losing battle. Black out drunk and vomiting is nothing but a hassle, its just someone you have to take care of, and most of the time are completely embarrassing themselves.

[Asker]

I never get blackout drunk.., I can't even lol..., I'm already 3/4 of a bottle down right now.. would that change anything ?

[Enideqa]

So do you have to drink everyday, can you truly stop, do you ever drink first thing in the morning, have you ever really tried to quit?

[Asker]

I drink on my days off, usually a bottle or so. Some days I drink somedays I don't depends on how I feel or if I have things to do , but when I do I get drunk, I can never just have one.

[Enideqa]

So maybe you are just a binge drinker. I had a friend that was like that, he is a father and husband now, and when he gets time alone he still binge drinks.

[Asker]

I guess lol, I don't know how to respond

[Stacyzee]

Yes.

I often wonder, who is this person without the alcohol?

If I've never seen you sober then you definitely have a problem.

[Asker]

The person with the alcohol is the real me,the sober me is just a shell.

[Stacyzee]

Well if you're drinking alcohol to bring out "you" you're drinking for all of the wrong reasons.

Alcohol isn't supposed to be used as a way of bringing out your personality.

Doing so and frequently will be harmful to your health. This will all catch up with you in due time.

[Asker]

Life means nothing to me, death would be welcomed

[Stacyzee]

Why do you feel like that?

I hope this is a joke.

[ironeddie]

Unfortunately I don't think this is a joke at all. Judging by his comments he is in a very dark place, about something that is wrong or missing in his life.

I use to feel that way when I was drinking too.

[Asker]

I don't know why I feel like this, the booze and pills help though. Its makes me feel like the real me, I feel nothing without them.. I'm a empty shell, alone and looking for something for this all to end.

[SeraphenaAngel]

If they are drinking all the time, then yes-total turn off. If it is occasionally like once a month they get a buzz, then it is alright. However the smell of beer on a guy is disgusting. I hate beer and I really hate the smell.

[Dannie0613]

How do you define"a lot"?

Personally,I don't mind guys drinking IF THEY CAN CONTROL THEMSELVES AFTERWARDS.

[Anonymous]

Not really. Half the time I could make sure you don't pull a Jimi Hendrix - and the other half, well, you could hold MY hair back.

Teamwork. :)

[63murphy92]

Yes, my mother was an alcoholic and died of a drug over dose...I hate people who drink a lot.

[lananoel]

yes

[Asker]

Why ?

[lananoel]

I don't like alcohol. It usually causes people to act like idiots and causes men to lose their ability to maintain an erection. I prefer to do things sober with others mostly because I like to remember the moments.

[Asker]

You can be drunk and remember things, and most guys can get hard with booze in their system. I'm drunk right now lol.

[lananoel]

Yea see no. I don't like a drunks because the smell nauseates me. I much prefer a man in his sobriety.

[Asker]

Gotcha

[kellsmitheroons]

Yes.

[Asker]

Why ?

[kellsmitheroons]

Guys that get piss drunk and lose control of their faculties are beyond pathetic in my opinion. It shows a lack of control and discipline. Both extremely unattractive qualities for me..personally. On the other hand there's nothing more attractive than a guy that can down a few drinks and retain enough control to know when he's had enough

[Anonymous]

It's certainly not a turn on

[Asker]

You never know..

[Opinion Owner]

If she's a drunk then I suppose then maybe I would be a turn on

[Asker]

Drunks usually don't like drunks

[chocolateismylover]

Yes, huge turn off.