Is drinking a turn off?

[Anonymous]

[GoodManDave]

Drinking isn't, in and of itself. Getting drunk is. Getting drunk all the time (even "just" buzzed) is. Getting drunk and driving home (and thinking it's ok) is a problem. Getting violent while being drunk is a problem. Having a beer a few times a week, knowing your limits is not an issue for me.

I drink maybe four times a year. I usually hate the taste of alcohol personally, and if it's disguised, the drink usually has to be REALLY strong with something else in order to mask it. So I'm a lightweight, which is fine. But if a woman is obsessed with me not drinking, and can't handle it with respect, then it's a turn-off, and if she has such a huge issue with it, the relationship probably won't last long.

I'm not my girlfriend's dad. I'm not going to get up her case about it unless it's becoming an obsession (like the stuff I mentioned before), or she's so busy going out drinking that she's neglecting "us" or she's always late coming home or something like that.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is

[BrittBratt2416]

No, you need to drink in order to survive. Joke aside, there's a boundary. There's nothing wrong with having a drink from time to time, however, nobody wants a drunk. Nobody wants or should want to have an alcohol problem. So if someone does, then yes that can be a turn to many people cause they don't want to have to tackle that problem. They want somebody who is sober and can handle their alcohol limits.

[jennifer_bloom]

I prefer somebody who spends their money on more beneficial things like salads or gym memberships or trips to parks and gardens but if a guy doesn't go broke buying alcohol and doesn't drink all the time - its not a big deal.

[kreamykraemez]

Salads aren't real food

[Exterminatore]

And you. You forgot to list that under beneficial things.

[Exterminatore]

Salads aren’t real food. Vegetables are garnishing for real food... meat.

[XRabbitHeartX]

In moderation? No definitely not. I enjoy alchoholic drinks on occassion. However getting drunk and drinking a lot is a turn off.

[Logorithim]

If it's too much. I don't drink myself, but it's OK if she does as long as it's moderate.

[Iron_Man]

I don't drink either

[Cynicaldreamer]

Depends. As long as he does so in moderation, it's fine.

But I don't drink at all so I don't tend to date guys that drink.

[OlderAndWiser]

Only when it is excessive or cannot be controlled.

[ak667]

It's kind of a requirement in my case to date a girl. Otherwise I don't think we'd get along very well. That said, most Japanese girls drink over here. They usually drink soft drinks like beer or wine but also harder ones sometimes like whiskey or shochu.

I can't really imagine dating a girl who doesn't drink at all.

[ak667]

Maybe a girl from a more loud and forward culture like America might be okay if she doesn't drink. But Japanese girl who doesn't drink tends to be so reserved due to the social etiquette here. I don't want that kind of quiet and reserved housewife who never speaks her mind. I like the one who is loud and expressive and can laugh and have fun with the rest of us drinkers. So my wife is quite a drinker and I can't imagine marrying a Japanese woman who never drinks. :-D

[ak667]

So it is quite opposite for me. I prefer drinker... and not just girly drinker who has a cocktail or two and calls it quits without even getting tipsy. I mean a proper drunkard -- a happy and fun drunkard, of course, not someone who gets all dramatic when they get drunk.

[princessfromjupiter]

It’s only a turn off when it happens way too often and depending on the alcohol. I can’t stand someone who almost exclusively drinks beer — they tend to be the people who get fat as they age & have an excruciatingly boring taste in parties/clubs and actually most leisure activities for that matter..
I stay away from people who drink more than 3x a week too.

[JustTheTrue]

It is too me, I want a healthy girl not a girl who drink because she lacks confidence. Yeah it is a turn off and I won’t take you serious, I might act like it but deep down I’m already turned off.
Also I don’t drink that’s why I look younger than those 20 years old dudes. I’m fucking sexy

[therightheight]

If its too much its a turn off. Few years ago i was kind of seeing a co-worker and she showed up at a party of mine super hammered and was acting pretty sloppy going as far as to say 'you're gonna fuck me tonight.' That didn't happen cause while we were making out she ran to the bath room and started throwing up and i had to hold her hair back and clean that god damn mess and put her drunk ass to bed

[Maik567]

Apparently this is an unpopular opinion on this website but it's more of a turn off for me if she never drinks.

I drink on special occasions and party with my friends sometimes so I feel like she'd feel a little bit left out or out of place if she was completely sober.

[Miristheiss]

If she just has ONE drink from time to time and maybe in social situations she has one drink to relax or likes a glass of wine with dinner that is fine with me. If she drinks a lot and often gets drunk and gets to where guys can start taking advantage of her and she starts acting like a different person and drinking a lot is her goal when she goes out than she wouldn't be my type. I'd stay away from that type.

[Anonymous]

For me it's a turn on. I'm very liberal and it's even a turn on if she's a stoner. I know it sounds kind of dumb but I think it's attractive if someone demonstrates they can have an open mind and enjoy some things in life in a healthy manner. As long as they know what they are doing and aren't prejudicing anyone, I don't think people should not enjoy something because someone told them not to.

[chrisbigman]

Only if they have a problem. I'd rather not see someone drink to their early death. Drinking socially isn't a problem, but drinking heavily IS a problem. Why be with someone that no longer seems to want to live? I'm willing to help her get help, but SHE needs to be willing and wanting to help herself as well.

[DocilexElle]

No. I drink like 2x a week now... because I've been working more than I used to. I'd say my guy is a heavy drinker... but he managed to not drink this past weekend! I'm like the non-partier girl who drinks. It's odd.

[weasley8]

No. I'm neutral to it. I don't drink, but I don't mind if guys do. So long as he's not a violent drunk or anything problematic like that. Also, I would prefer if he didn't get completely wasted every weekend, just because I'm not his babysitter.

[James_R]

I had 2 uncles die from alcohol related incidents. I am 43 and have never been drunk in my life. I stay away from those who get drunk and certainly those who use alcohol as an escape mechanism or a method to 'unwind'.

It's a personal preference.

[Malita55]

Hahaha no wtf. Unless you drink all the time or can't handle yourself when you're drunk, i want to date someone who can enjoy a drink every now and then

[Lysander89]

Drinking in of it's self certainly is not a turn off, I would say that it is a matter of degrees. What would be the limit of alcoholic consumption by your partner be before you are turned off or leave them?

[animelover14]

If they excessively drink then yeah but occasionally, I don't mind. However, if my potential boyfriend were to drink even occasionally I will still worry either way in terms of his health.

[MlleCake]

I had to stop drinking alcohol many years ago. I don't mind if my friends or people I date drink modestly. It gets boring to be around drinks.

[MlleCake]

Around DRUNKS I meant to say.

[AbdKilani]

Well, for me yes I don't want a drinking woman or kids
Abd, Do you have Dislikes? YEAH ↗

[Massageman]

If I have a drink, it's only because I like the flavor of the drink, not to get drink. by the way - if anyone there likes sangria but not the alcohol, try "Senorial Sangria", a Mexican carbonated grape juice/citrus drink.