Is drinking or smoking a turn off?

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Nikidoll17 · Accepted Answer

It kinda is for me because initially people find it attractive because people have a weird idea about what's 'cool'. Along the way he/she has just drastically decreased his/her life span and I don't think that's very considerate of them. It's obvious they wouldn't know that you were gonna come into their life before you did but I thought you're supposed to take care of yourself for your partner. Try to be the best version of yourself for them, it's not right to put them through what they'll go through later and have them try to change you and deal with all of that. They're not there to fix you, they're there to be cherished with the years you have left together which clearly won't be enough if you plan to smoke/drink even in small amounts occasionally.

I would have never dated someone like that because I felt my partner would think the same way but I finally gave up and gave in thinking there isn't a single person who has never and won't ever do it or feel the same. I started drinking and smoking, it wasn't a habit so it wasn't hard to let go off.
I met my ex a year ago who doesn't drink and smoke and never had. And after he got upset and told me that he didn't want me to ruin our future, I stopped because he was right. I was an idiot who gave in but I didn't really want those things, I guess I was just lonely although people will mock and deny, that's the reason most people hold on to those temporary and shallow things that number us and get us a bit closer to death cause they've already accepted that its okay to do so because there's nothing worth living that long for so might as well shorten the torture!

yoshi_wanna_ask · Accepted Answer

Yes, both. I really hope to find a guy who doesn't drink. I mean, every now and then I guess but there's so many other drinks to choose from these days anyway, there's sure to be something good.

ItsTheNephilim · Accepted Answer

Yes they both are huge turn offs.

Hawky_ · Accepted Answer

Yes and yes

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Very big one, at least for me. I don't drink or smoke and would prefer a partner that's the same.

I dated a guy that smoked once, I figured I'd try to give him a chance- ugh, it was like kissing an ashtray! Never again

MrOracle · Answer

Smoking definitely is a deal breaker. So are drugs or heavy/regular drinking. Occasionally having a drink or two socially is fine.

Logorithim · Answer

Smoking and excessive drinking definitely are.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Smoking yes... occasional drinker is fine.

little_bird1 · Answer

Why did you put those two together like they are similar?

Alcohol is an opium, people do dumb shit when drunk, so of course it's a turn off when someone is doing stupid stuff drunk.
But cigarettes are just cigarettes. A personal choice that has nothing to do with anybody else. The only way it could "affect" you is if they smell of it smoke in your presence. Then of course to be turned off, but then again poking nose slime out of it is also a disgusting, or eating garlic, and no one ask about that.
I am a smoker, but I don't smell and I take care of teeth and breath, and I also don't smoke in presence of non-smokers. I like to light up when I'm home alone. If someone would cold-hearthedly reject me ONLY because of that, I'd say I dodged the bullet because they closed-minded retard.

Lliam · Answer

The only reasons I can think of for not drinking occasionally are 1) recovering alcoholic or 2) religious issues. Either one of those would be a turn off for me. But I wouldn't want to be with someone who drank a lot or was a drunk, either.
Smoking is another question. I smoke tobacco in a pipe occasionally. My wife isn't happy about it but she puts up with it. In my dating years I dated some women who smoked cigarettes even though I didn't smoke tobacco back then. I didn't mind. The smell of tobacco smoke is better than halitosis. Haha I would be turned of by a chain smoker, though.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! Smoking is but I’m able to put up with it if it’s hookah and a guy smokes it here and there whereas other type of smoking is more addicting. I really prefer no smoking though. Drinking only if a guy gets sloppy and embarrassing and still doesn’t know his limits or if he drinks it too much or everyday otherwise I wouldn’t mind if he’s classy or fun with it within his limits and knowing himself and listens to his body. The reason why people usually view it as a turn off also is because both can be harmful to your health and organs and people want to live long with their partner and grow old together, maybe have a family.

syxibxni · Answer

Addiction to both is no. I'm a smoker as well but there are just some people who is too addicted that they get hot tempered when there's no cigarettes or go for a smoke almost every hour and I really don't like that. Drinking is fine, if you drink on occasion. I guess too much of each is a turn off.

hahahmm · Answer

I never smoked but it didn’t bother me when I was younger. The problem is even if someone quits they are prone to go back to it eventually. It rubs me the wrong way when someone blatantly disregards their health & your concern for them yet they also expect for you to care if they got cancer.

Not to mention the risks of second hand smoke. Bottom line I wouldn’t advise anyone to knowingly start a relationship with a smoker these days.

Browneye57 · Answer

Smoking for sure - it's a nasty stinky habit. Why in god's name would anybody take that up in today's world with what we now know about it? It shows a serious lack of cognizance, judgment.
Drinking? Or pot? As long as it's not excessive. Lots of people like to party and socialize, and that's just part of it.

Anonymous · Answer

Both are. Smoking damages the smoker's health and the people around him.
As it says in free-ebooks' "Are Men the Weaker Sex", too many guys try to get women drunk so the guys can have sex. If your date insists on you having a cocktail, a glass of wine, etc., maybe cut the date short. ;)

MannMitAntworten · Answer

No. Especially if she stokes a cigar. I just returned from a classy event where a lot of "10's" were enjoying cigars and knocking back top shelf booze. Met a damn funny and smokin' hot strawberry blonde at this event. Says to me, "give me a light..." We ltalked and laughed for two hours. Good times!

Anonymous · Answer

I can understand having a beer after work but smoking? What's the point? It makes your teeth yellow, gives you bad breath, you can't taste your food properly, other people have to breathe in your second hand smoke, etc. What good does it do?
I would never date someone who smokes.

angry_llama · Answer

Yuh huh. Plus the fact that it affects the person's heath and they're fully aware, but they still do it is not appealing at all. If they wanted to stop but needed help I'd definitely try to help them tho!

elissa23Trans · Answer

Drinking is less of a turn off to me than smoking. I hate the smell of cigarettes. That stays in your clothes and on the fingertips for ages. Eventually your fingertips turn yellow because of that trash.

Konabeana · Answer

Complete turn off. I can’t date someone who smokes or is a heavy drinker because I respect myself too much to go through that type of relationship. Hopefully I don’t get trapped in a relationship like that 🤮

BeMuse · Answer

I drink alcohol here and there. So long as a women isn’t drinking every day and getting sloppy with it I’d be fine with it. When it comes to smoking, I use to smoke cigarettes a long time ago and quit. I don’t like to be around it anymore.

evm987 · Answer

Smoking is a huge turnoff because the smell makes me feel like I can't breathe.
Drinking is only an issue if the person gets really drunk. Drinking is fine as long as it doesn't go past being a little tipsy

CubsterShura · Answer

Absolutely. Drinking is the worse of the two though.

thegirlfromthething · Answer

Smoking is disgusting and a dealbreaker. Drinking occasionally and not to the point of extreme drunkenness is okay, but drinking often and heavily are dealbreakers.

G-Daz · Answer

Deal breaker. Drinking occasional is ok but for smoking... fuck no. If she doesn't care about her health then why should i

Clo917 · Answer

Occasional drinking, that's fine. Excessive drinking and any smoking, turn off and likely a deal breaker.

morimeme1 · Answer

Excessive frequent drinking is a turn-off and smoking is kind of a turn-off, I would not prefer to date a smoker but I wouldn't turn someone down just because of that.

Lauren-green · Answer

Not a turn off. Just depends on how they act once they've had a few drinks in them, it can reveal a lot about a person. "Drunk words are sober thoughts"

LawrenceKen · Answer

Drinking no, smoking yes.  When I see a girl i like smoke it instantly lowers my attraction to her by like 80%.  It just screams.. SSSLLLLLLUUUUTTTT!

R4vedave · Answer

Not unless the drinking is excessive/a problem, or they're smoking cigarettes. Otherwise I have absolutely no issue with either, in fact I'd find the smoking a positive since I smoke as well

saeyamazaki · Answer

Drinking no, it’s important to my culture. Smoking yes and no. My boyfriend smokes sometimes and my dad is a smoker :( I hate it but I can live with it

Anonymous · Answer

Smoking is a turn off definietely. Drinking is only a turn off if it's done to the extreme and often. I don't find people who get wasted every single weekend as mature, responsible or relationship-material.

amaranthblossom · Answer

Smoking, yes. Smells bad, kisses taste awful. But as for drinking, I drink, so I can't say anything about it

alohaahyes · Answer

Daily smoking and drinking is a turn off. Smoking is especially a turn off.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Both is to me but I can live with someone who drinks rarely when they go out with friends or don't smoke X packs.

Saarr · Answer

I really hate smoking, but having a drink once in a while is fine by me (as long as it's not excessive)

cassandraa · Answer

Drinking if it's a problem then yes and smoking is too

AnimeMan205 · Answer

Only if done in excess! Occasional beer and pipe tobacco is what I do. (Some people smoke so much that they look 15 years older than they are, and loose their teeth!)

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Drinking in excess is a turn off. Smoking anything be it: cigarettes, weed, e-cig, juul, vape pens, cigars, pipes, hookahs etc are a turn off. Even chewing tobacco is a turn off.

jgokgotit · Answer

Drinking socially is not an issue. Alcoholism or smoking is an instant no for me.

Hurlyburly · Answer

Smoking yes, definetely. Drinking is one if it happens too often/becomes an addiction.

GirlChick · Answer

Smoking cigarettes is gross. I don’t care about weed, cause I smoke. Drinking, not a turn off.

daydreammarie · Answer

Smoking cigarettes yes, pot no, drinking no. As long as its not excessive.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Smoking, yes. Drinking, no unless the person has become addicted.

wat3rfallz · Answer

Casual drinking is fine, don't over do it. Smoking is a huge turn off for me. Not even 1 cigarettes.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

Yes. I think its gross I quit both and am a better person. And I do judge people who drink routinely or smoke routinely

Daisy007 · Answer

Smoking YESS!! cannot stand it Drinking if it's every once in a while for parties then it's fine 😅

naijagurl · Answer

I can tolerate casual controlled drinking. Smoking is an absolute turn off.

Wemix · Answer

Smoking is definitely a turnoff. Drinking is fine as long as it doesn't turn into an addiction.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

If she has a very occasional drink or two, like, once or twice a year, I can deal with. Smoking is right out!!

wankiam · Answer

i do both... not bothered if others do or they dont

Aidelwaish · Answer

Drinking? Depends. Occasionally = ofc, no prob Alcoholic = NO, avoid. Smoking = NO

B_rad3057 · Answer

Smoking is definitely a turn off for me. You could be the prettiest girl in the world and as soon as I see you light up a cigarette I have no desire in you.

Shuri · Answer

Smoking is absolutely a turn off. I don't care often you do it. Drinking is only a turn if it's constant. I drink maybe once or twice a month if that. I never get tipsy or wasted, either.

Alex_andrine · Answer

I don't care because i do drink and sometimes smoke.

Kayla45 · Answer

Yep, smoking is one of the most replusive things anybody can do, that and hardcore drugs.

ShadowofRegret · Answer

Smoking, yes. Drinking, only if she does it in excess, otherwise, I do not mind it.

slatyb · Answer

Smoking is a total deal breaker for me. Drinking in moderation is ok, intoxication is not.

Twat_Twig · Answer

Drinking isn't a problem as long as it isn't excessive. Cigarettes are a no. Pot is a yes. 👍

BluesheepOwl · Answer

Drinking excessive amounts and just smoking in general, yes.

BigDill16 · Answer

Depends on how heavily they're doing so. I don't drink so being around intoxicated people is not much fun. I smoke so cigarettes aren't an issue

needadvice1245 · Answer

I don't mind either just no alcoholics I wouldn't like to be with a pot head really I would but I would still but rather not

JamesBoradil03 · Answer

smoking is (even though i do it sometimes) and drinking only is if they get drunk and make a fool of themselves

Torari · Answer

Drinking is fine as long as its not excessive. I think an absolutist is more unattractive than a social drinker. But smoking is a hard no, even drunk smoking. Always no. Its gross.

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