Is drinking or smoking a turn off?

[Anonymous]

Is drinking or smoking a turn off?

[Nikidoll17]

It kinda is for me because initially people find it attractive because people have a weird idea about what's 'cool'. Along the way he/she has just drastically decreased his/her life span and I don't think that's very considerate of them. It's obvious they wouldn't know that you were gonna come into their life before you did but I thought you're supposed to take care of yourself for your partner. Try to be the best version of yourself for them, it's not right to put them through what they'll go through later and have them try to change you and deal with all of that. They're not there to fix you, they're there to be cherished with the years you have left together which clearly won't be enough if you plan to smoke/drink even in small amounts occasionally.

I would have never dated someone like that because I felt my partner would think the same way but I finally gave up and gave in thinking there isn't a single person who has never and won't ever do it or feel the same. I started drinking and smoking, it wasn't a habit so it wasn't hard to let go off.
I met my ex a year ago who doesn't drink and smoke and never had. And after he got upset and told me that he didn't want me to ruin our future, I stopped because he was right. I was an idiot who gave in but I didn't really want those things, I guess I was just lonely although people will mock and deny, that's the reason most people hold on to those temporary and shallow things that number us and get us a bit closer to death cause they've already accepted that its okay to do so because there's nothing worth living that long for so might as well shorten the torture!

[Nikidoll17]

Also I meant my boyfriend sheesh. Never to be ex hopefully. (my ex encouraged me to smoke).

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

Yes, both. I really hope to find a guy who doesn't drink. I mean, every now and then I guess but there's so many other drinks to choose from these days anyway, there's sure to be something good.

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

Thanks for the MHO

[Harmseygrace]

Yeah but those other drinks don't get you drunk

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

@Harmseygrace That's the point

[ItsTheNephilim]

Yes they both are huge turn offs.

[Hawky_]

Yes and yes

[Hawky_]

Tyvm for the MHO 😊

[Cynicaldreamer]

Very big one, at least for me. I don't drink or smoke and would prefer a partner that's the same.

I dated a guy that smoked once, I figured I'd try to give him a chance- ugh, it was like kissing an ashtray! Never again

[MrOracle]

Smoking definitely is a deal breaker. So are drugs or heavy/regular drinking. Occasionally having a drink or two socially is fine.

[Logorithim]

Smoking and excessive drinking definitely are.

[Pinay_ako]

Smoking yes... occasional drinker is fine.

[little_bird1]

Why did you put those two together like they are similar?

Alcohol is an opium, people do dumb shit when drunk, so of course it's a turn off when someone is doing stupid stuff drunk.
But cigarettes are just cigarettes. A personal choice that has nothing to do with anybody else. The only way it could "affect" you is if they smell of it smoke in your presence. Then of course to be turned off, but then again poking nose slime out of it is also a disgusting, or eating garlic, and no one ask about that.
I am a smoker, but I don't smell and I take care of teeth and breath, and I also don't smoke in presence of non-smokers. I like to light up when I'm home alone. If someone would cold-hearthedly reject me ONLY because of that, I'd say I dodged the bullet because they closed-minded retard.

[Dchrls78104]

Nicotine is a highly addictive drug. So is alcohol. Lung cancer and liver cirrhosis are unpleasant illnesses. Each of these has a high body count.

[Lliam]

The only reasons I can think of for not drinking occasionally are 1) recovering alcoholic or 2) religious issues. Either one of those would be a turn off for me. But I wouldn't want to be with someone who drank a lot or was a drunk, either.
Smoking is another question. I smoke tobacco in a pipe occasionally. My wife isn't happy about it but she puts up with it. In my dating years I dated some women who smoked cigarettes even though I didn't smoke tobacco back then. I didn't mind. The smell of tobacco smoke is better than halitosis. Haha I would be turned of by a chain smoker, though.

[Anonymous]

Yes! Smoking is but I’m able to put up with it if it’s hookah and a guy smokes it here and there whereas other type of smoking is more addicting. I really prefer no smoking though. Drinking only if a guy gets sloppy and embarrassing and still doesn’t know his limits or if he drinks it too much or everyday otherwise I wouldn’t mind if he’s classy or fun with it within his limits and knowing himself and listens to his body. The reason why people usually view it as a turn off also is because both can be harmful to your health and organs and people want to live long with their partner and grow old together, maybe have a family.

[syxibxni]

Addiction to both is no. I'm a smoker as well but there are just some people who is too addicted that they get hot tempered when there's no cigarettes or go for a smoke almost every hour and I really don't like that. Drinking is fine, if you drink on occasion. I guess too much of each is a turn off.

[hahahmm]

I never smoked but it didn’t bother me when I was younger. The problem is even if someone quits they are prone to go back to it eventually. It rubs me the wrong way when someone blatantly disregards their health & your concern for them yet they also expect for you to care if they got cancer.

Not to mention the risks of second hand smoke. Bottom line I wouldn’t advise anyone to knowingly start a relationship with a smoker these days.

[Browneye57]

Smoking for sure - it's a nasty stinky habit. Why in god's name would anybody take that up in today's world with what we now know about it? It shows a serious lack of cognizance, judgment.
Drinking? Or pot? As long as it's not excessive. Lots of people like to party and socialize, and that's just part of it.

[Anonymous]

Both are. Smoking damages the smoker's health and the people around him.
As it says in free-ebooks' "Are Men the Weaker Sex", too many guys try to get women drunk so the guys can have sex. If your date insists on you having a cocktail, a glass of wine, etc., maybe cut the date short. ;)

[MannMitAntworten]

No. Especially if she stokes a cigar. I just returned from a classy event where a lot of "10's" were enjoying cigars and knocking back top shelf booze. Met a damn funny and smokin' hot strawberry blonde at this event. Says to me, "give me a light..." We ltalked and laughed for two hours. Good times!

[Anonymous]

I can understand having a beer after work but smoking? What's the point? It makes your teeth yellow, gives you bad breath, you can't taste your food properly, other people have to breathe in your second hand smoke, etc. What good does it do?
I would never date someone who smokes.

[angry_llama]

Yuh huh. Plus the fact that it affects the person's heath and they're fully aware, but they still do it is not appealing at all. If they wanted to stop but needed help I'd definitely try to help them tho!

[elissa23Trans]

Drinking is less of a turn off to me than smoking. I hate the smell of cigarettes. That stays in your clothes and on the fingertips for ages. Eventually your fingertips turn yellow because of that trash.

[Konabeana]

Complete turn off. I can’t date someone who smokes or is a heavy drinker because I respect myself too much to go through that type of relationship. Hopefully I don’t get trapped in a relationship like that 🤮

[BeMuse]

I drink alcohol here and there. So long as a women isn’t drinking every day and getting sloppy with it I’d be fine with it. When it comes to smoking, I use to smoke cigarettes a long time ago and quit. I don’t like to be around it anymore.

[evm987]

Smoking is a huge turnoff because the smell makes me feel like I can't breathe.
Drinking is only an issue if the person gets really drunk. Drinking is fine as long as it doesn't go past being a little tipsy

[bailey11]

I don't want to breathe in second-hand smoke so I find I can't breathe, either, when someone around me is smoking.

[CubsterShura]

Absolutely. Drinking is the worse of the two though.

[thegirlfromthething]

Smoking is disgusting and a dealbreaker. Drinking occasionally and not to the point of extreme drunkenness is okay, but drinking often and heavily are dealbreakers.