Is smoking a turn off?

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EpicDweeb · Accepted Answer

Yes. It's unattractive in the same way obesity is unattractive, but in some ways worse. There is no benefit to it, it's addicting, it's expensive, it smells disgusting to everyone around you (unless they're also smokers), it's unhealthy, and it kills you over time. If I care about a person then I'm gonna do what I can to get them to stop smoking. People can make the argument "it's my body, if anyone is hurt it's just gonna be me," but not only is second hand smoke damage a thing, but if you do die from it or get terribly sick, someone else is probably gonna have to pay your hospital bills and deal with the grief from losing you. It's not something that just affects you, it affects everyone around you.

I've heard the excuse that it helps people focus or it calms them down. Usually though that's because they're addicted to nicotine or some other chemical and they can't handle life without it anymore, and that in and of itself is a horrible way to live life. I know that's a very long and drawn out way of saying it's a turn off but... it's just not good for you or anyone else. I try not to judge people for it, but I also try not to accept it as a perfectly fine thing to do. It's not fine and if it's an addiction that can be conquered any given person NEEDS to strive to conquer it because it WILL lead to an early death and that's not okay.

(For anyone who thinks I'm just being a judgmental prick, my grandfather died of lung cancer caused by a smoking addiction. Even after he got over the addiction, it was too late and too much damage had been done to his lungs and he died.)

holograph · Accepted Answer

Cigarettes, major turnoff like I wouldn't even date someone who smokes them. The smoker's cough is disgusting. The way it ruins your voice over time is disgusting. They smell disgusting. They get corrosive dust on everything. I don't know a smoker who doesn't have holes in their car seats. I see cigarette butts on the ground all the time; I see people throw them out the window while driving. Not everyone does that so to those smokers who don't litter, cheers.

E-cigarettes, generally no problem. Nicotine is still bad, but these are less unhealthy, sometimes don't smell awful, don't ruin my electronics, don't ruin your/my car. I'll even use my friends e-cigs sometimes even though I've never smoked a cigarette. I'd prefer you not use an e-cig too often and I'd appreciate it if you didn't use the high-strength liquids for health reasons.

Cannabis I also have no issue with, though I'd prefer if you use a vaporizer for it because smoking it can also give you a smoker's cough and mess with your voice. And it can still give you lung cancer even though not as likely as with a cigarette.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No... I grew up around smokers so it's never really bothered me... I don't smoke... but my guy does... he smokes cigarettes, cigars, a little weed here and there... he also vapes using CBD oil... he is considerate of others tho... he never smokes indoors... he doesn't smoke around others... if I'm outside with him when he smokes he does not stand next to me and he makes sure that the smoke doesn't get blown in my face... he also never smokes weed around me because the smell of marijuana smoke makes me nauseous... so no I don't consider smoking a turn off :-)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I had to drive with my son to Las Vegas from New Orleans , and though he used his e-cigarette, I still got headaches from the nicotine. It has to do with self esteem, anxiety, relaxation. Then, ultimately, people do it because they're addicted and the addiction is tough to cure. I have compassion for them, but I wouldn't want my house or car permeated with cigarette smoke. I know of one couple where one person smokes and the other doesn't. The failure rates of non smoking/smoking couples is said to be 90 percent.

sejla · Answer

It's a deal breaker for me now. I was married to a smoker who smoked outside. The smell was in our apartment. I didn't realize how really bad it was until after we separated. Now I sneeze when I'm around cigarette smoke. I, also, found out that scientists are starting to study the effects of third hand smoke which is the smoke that clings to the skin. They think that residue can cause cancer too.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Well... I actually thought about posting this question.

Then I thought: what am I some sort of masochist?

I don't need to to read all those female answers, all with the same depressing answer. That would just be terrible. I can't believe I even thought about doing that to myself.

I obviously had to read through this...

I just wanted to thank you, in the most sarcastic possible way, for asking this question.

👏👏👏 (these are the slow-clapping hands of sarcasm) 😉

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Absolutely! I refuse to date a smoker.

tenukitanuki · Answer

meh, I don't care so much unless we're talking kids; kill yourself however you like. It does usually present a strong change to body chemistry that I suppose I'm immune toward. I think it can alter your weed high in a decent way if used properly; I think of it as slamming the remaining "good time charlies" floating in your system to reset it for Round 2. Another is being high versus gettin fuckin stoooned. A blunt wrap will get you fuckin stooooned.

personally, can't take more than a few drags seriously but I understand the self destructive impulse and some of the best people are trying their best to do just that so, meh.

IroncladCat7599 · Answer

Sorry if you do, but yes. Definitely a deal breaker because imagine kissing someone with black tar in their mouth. Kissing someone with a dirty mouth. Smokers are fine with each other, but some or quite a bit of guys choose not to and that'll be a deal breaker. I used to date a girl who smoked. Rather than breaking her heart and leaving her; I got her off smoking instead, so she wouldn't ruin herself even tho she's a bit suicidal. (Yep, dated one of those) Not bad at all, just a bit more work to make them happy.

Yetiinathong · Answer

My partner smokes and I hate it with a passion, had I known when we first started dating her I probably wouldn't be here with her.

To me it's the purest form of stupidity, it has no benefits , it releases just as much stress as hugging somone you care for (releases the same chemicals in the brain) it's only does harm too your body and others around you.

Causes wrinkles to appear early, can cause infertility, cause your fingers to go yellow makes you stink. And this is not even mentioning the cancers it causes, the blood clot issues the heart issues and so many more.

There is 0 benifit to smoking and if it didn't makes so much money in taxes it probably be on the drug ban list.

Swat_ · Answer

The desperateness towards a sigarette is such a turn off. It shows that you can't controll yourself. The constant absence because you have to smoke or constantly bothering people with your smell gives off a selfish vibe. Not my thing. Plenty of people who do find it attractive though.

JustAnotherSoul · Answer

I used to not care... But i have been in a very toxic relationship some time ago, and one of the things i hated the most it was that every time we had sex, my partener would go smoke as soon as he finished... No hug, no kisses no cuddles, he wouldn't even look at me, just pick up his pants and go smoking on the balcony, leaving me feeling used... And pretty miserable... He would come back smelling heavy like smoke... Now i can't stand the tabaco smell

NineBreaker · Answer

I'm a dentist. In NY line of work, I run into bad breath everyday; up, close, and personal. Generally, bad breath doesn't bother me much.

Smoker's breath particularly, however, is is just the worst! I don't know why, but sometimes, it's so bad, it makes my eyes water a bit.

Suffice to say, any kind of smoking or tobacco use is a massive turnoff for me. The very thought of it, I get grossed out so much, it's horrible.

Kay_Swiftie1989 · Answer

Yep. People just assume that you smoke as well (I've seen this all of my life with my parents; my dad smokes and my mum doesn't. But my dad is cutting down and is close to giving up 😊) I also have mild asthma, so some people think I'm being a drama queen when I'm coughing around people who smoke or even use a vape thingy, but it really does trigger a bad coughing session for me

Shafaq_Mahnoor96 · Answer

In all honesty, yes. It's a BIG turn off, for me at least. I don't think I would be able to stand being near that person nevermind dating them. If both parties smoke then it wouldn't matter to both of them, and it wouldn't be a turn off because they both do it. But if one smokes and the other doesn't then there's going to be Issues between them both.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Let's see...9 toxins in each and every cigarette, of which one drop of any of them in concentrated form would kill you within a few minutes... would that be a turn off?

Why do you think the first puff of smoke nearly sends every person that has done it into near convulsions, or at minimum coughing and hacking like they are going to die?

GreenPenguin · Answer

The smell is bad, and it sticks to you and all the people around you. At the same time is it bad for you.

I have never even considered dating someone who smells like cigarettes...

Remember that it's the nose that decides when we fall in love. Smell is important in relationships. Imagine dating someone with a really strong body odor... No fun.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

To me it is for who wants to kiss someone who breath smells like smoke ( yukk ) ? I was in church and asked the preachers wife , Diane - did John ever smoke - and Diane said - yes he did and I said to Diane - what did you do about it - and Diane said that she told John - if you want to keep kissing me then stop the smoking , for I do not want to kiss someone who smells like an ashtray or kiss an ashtray - ! Thanks

menina · Answer

Absolutely! Smoking is disgusting and it shows that you have no respect for your body and your health. And it's one of the reasons why I'm still single...

CreativeMumble · Answer

Yes, extremely so. Apart from the obvious ones (an asshole etc.), it's one of my biggest turn-offs. The guy could be perfect, but if he's smoking, it's down to 0.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

I hate smoking, I think it’s vile and I always said I’d never date a smoker. However when I met my boyfriend I didn’t know he smoked and I fell for him before I found out about his smoking habits. I don’t think something that small should stop you from pursuing someone.

Logorithim · Answer

It's a complete dealbreaker

SonOfLucifer · Answer

Not at all. My SO used to smoke and i rather saw it as a addiction and tried to help her.  by the way, weed after the age 25 has been found to be ok, when younger, it just slows brain development.

bolverk · Answer

Without a doubt, even to the extent that I walked away from a blind date when she lit up, my friend who arranged the date and the woman could not understand why I did it, but I've seen the effects on the heath of family members due to smoking. Besides it just plain stinks, how anyone can get 'pleasure' from the is beyond me.

StephenCF · Answer

No, for me it’s been a turn-ON ever since I first watched Audrey Hepburn in “Breakfast at Tiffany’s” with that long cigarette-holder 😍👒👗💋🚬 I smoke cigars and cigarettes myself whenever I’m socializing in my suits, simply because it SUITS the look (excuse the pun) 🤣🚬👔

foriWish · Answer

In my opinion, yes and I am a pretty open-minded person but I just can't do the cig breath

Paul09 · Answer

Yes! I hate cigarettes. And I use to smoke social for 10 years.. But I live, I learn. Apparently a lot do not learn and keep smoking cigarettes. Zero good things come out of it, not 1 good reason to smoking cigarettes. Smells bad, bad for you, smokers usually pollute too. The list goes on.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

All smoking and drug use is a turn off. Exception being cigars and tobacco pipes because they are vastly different than smoking cigarettes or drugs. Typically smoked less, much healthier, smoke doesn't leave stench or yellowing and often can smell good.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Yes. most definitely. I don't do 2nd hand smoke well.

knurd · Answer

I do smoke, but not cigarettes. Well, not anymore. The smell can sometimes make me nauseous. I hear it's a fetish. Are you having sexual feelings towards people smoking? I once had a man ask me to use his mouth an ashtray. That was interesting

VikingWarLord · Answer

I've noticed that bitches who smoke, tend to love the hot bad boys like me the most. So when I find out she smokes, I target her and easily get her in the sack.

Just_someone23 · Answer

Yes. Smoking is a big Mr. Yuk. Keep that away from me.

aaronbw · Answer

Let's say for example. A cigarette or cigar once in a blue moon, no that isn't a turn off. If it's a constant habit, then yes it is a turn off

PositiveNote · Answer

Yes. I never knew why until I was about 30 years old. Turned out I had asthma. I hated smoke but dealt with it. Now, it's the biggest turn off possible next to marijuana smoke.

sexphobe · Answer

as long as the person had good hygeine and didn't smoke inside their home i’d be okay with it. Would prefer if they smoked rollies than cigs tho cos they smell less bad

purplepoppy · Answer

I can understand how people in my grandparents day took it up because of advertising and peer pressure but for any one my generation it Just smacks of stupidly.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Nah it's not sometimes it's hot, but if i fell in love wih a girl who smokes i would want them to stop cause i don't want her to slowly kill herself with cigs.

JamesBoradil03 · Answer

very much so, unless its weed. if a woman/guy smokes cigs their mouths taste like cigs and they in general smell like cigs. its a huge turnoff

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Deal breaker.  Date one, good. Date two, found out he smoke... ended. I am allergic, headaches, coughing from... so. Deal breaker.

Crowferret · Answer

Yes, my mom always smoked around me and i hated it. They make you smell, it sounds like you're coughing up a lung, and even causes harm to others who don't smoke.

Anonymous · Answer

Constant smoking is a turn off for me. Like a person who smokes more than one cigarette per day is a huge turn off for me.

If a person smokes like 1 cigarette per week or less often I would be fine with them.

WintersDaughter · Answer

It is for me, for many reasons but the main one is I have really bad asthma and any kind of smoke can easily give me a bad attack and I could die

bro25 · Answer

Not to me cuz I vape so if she vapes it's cool or smoked a black and mild every now and then. But cigarettes are more unattractive and stinky. And if I'm with someone and we thinking about a kid she gotta cut it ASAP

Gavyn · Answer

Smoking killed my grandmother in her 50's and my grandfather in his 60's. My mother smoked while she was pregnant with me. My relatives have smoked consistently practically my whole life. To sum it up, it's a turn-off to say the least.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, massively. Pretty much a deal breaker actually

PrincessGrail · Answer

God yes!

Rocky_Jocky57 · Answer

For me yes. I hate it because its a bad habit, I, less medical, and it makes everything smell like smoke.

CubsterShura · Answer

Absolutely. If a smoker showed interest in me I'd tell him straight in his face that I won't be with him until he quits smoking.

Sensmind · Answer

I find it a huge turn off - Its unhealthy and the smoker stinks has yellow fingers/nails - Also they stink up rooms

Maraneva · Answer

Yup, definitely a turn off. Especially since the smell and smoke follow around like an uninvited guest. Nothing good out of it at all. Shrugs

Edanurus · Answer

Doesn't matter how many times this is asked the answer is always the same, yes unless the person smokes.

idgetyou · Answer

Well, to me, as a smoker, no. But even though I didn't smoke, I don't think it would be a problem for me dating a smoker.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

A complete deal breaker and the hugest turn off there is

niyia · Answer

Cigarettes on vaping is a big turn off but weed I don't mind about that

SarahsSummer · Answer

Huge, gigantic turn off. As are most other forms of stupidity.

Apple1996 · Answer

No it is acutally a turn on for me. I looove the smell💋

ThisDudeHere · Answer

You should have probably made this into a poll. And yes, it is for a lot of if not most people.

Smiley_face101 · Answer

Yes its unhealthy, unattractive, smells really bad and its an addiction

TonyMetal_86 · Answer

Yes especially for a girl... Girls shouldn't smoke at all and keep their lungs clean and healthy 😊

Dchrls78104 · Answer

More than a turnoff, smoking is a dealbreaker for me.

Valnac · Answer

Yes, when you inhale, your body starts to get rid of the poison first by using the Endocrine (your wetworks) your tear ducts, your saliva, your sweat glands, your pee, and when you get sexually wet. That is a big turnoff.

MM442 · Answer

Girls smoking is absolutely turn off, deal breaker! Smoking is absolutely deal breaker, smoking is disgusting! I have better things to spend my money on, instead of the tobacco industry making them billionaires! Ruining people's health and lives!

ggaannaa · Answer

Well i think it’s sexy in some way... not a heavy smoker of course

Tracey426 · Answer

Major turn off. Unhealthy, waste of money, smells...

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