Girls that drink, is it a turnoff if a guy doesn't drink?

Question

Just curious because I don't drink, so I'm wondering if its a turn off for girls who do drink?List your age too.

whatson · Accepted Answer

I am 21 and I don't drink so I can't really answer your question but figured I can share my experience. It seems to bother other people sometimes. I'm not anti-alcohol or preaching the 12 steps or anything but I had a really terrible thing happen that probably would have been avoided had I not had anything to drink so I don't drink anymore (my friends don't know this, I've given them other reasons for my abstinence). I'm not uncomfortable around alcohol or drunk people but it seems that some people are uncomfortable FOR me. It's like they assume that since I am sober and everyone is drinking I am unhappy and therefore they feel bad for me. This only happens with some people though.

I think that so long as you have a good and upbeat attitude they won't care. If you are having a good time without alcohol, then I don't see why it would be a problem. Personally, I wouldn't want to spend my energy on a guy that judged me for not drinking. There are surely girls out there who may but I'm sure there are plenty who don't care.

lunzi · Accepted Answer

Well, not much! but yes. It is kind of, because then the girl feels like:

- she is a wreck a slut, he's too good for her. Then again sometimes it might turn her on.

- He's going to use her. Also might turn her on.

And most girls who really like to drink meet their guys and get threw their relations at parties or events with alcohol.

But if you know how to play your game, you can make the girl feel like she is safe with you. she is going to have fun, even though you are not going to drink. your not boring her! you are spontaneous and hilarious. if your fun and loose I don't think you need to worry.

goodluck! xx

haleyyyyy · Accepted Answer

i do like to drink every weekend, but I wouldn't be turned off by a guy that did not drink as long as he can have fun and won't preach to me about my drinking, it's fine i'm 20

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it depends how much the girl drinks.

If she's a light drinker, she probably won't mind too much. But if she's a crazy party girl who keeps drinking until she blacks out, then she'll probably think you're weird and won't be able to relate to you very well.

And unfortunately, it seems that in American society, it's socially acceptable for a guy to be more irresponsible than the woman he is with, but not vice-versa.

Phoenix52 · Accepted Answer

Most girls who are 18-25 would be turned off if you never drank. Alcohol can make people have 'fun' and have a good time since it lets guards down and girls/guys get more confident and expressive.

People tend to look down upon it because the types of people who don't drink are probably boring and too serious with their physical well being.

ZenQueen · Answer

I drink very rarely and hardly every get to the point where I'm drunk. I don't like drinking often and I don't like partying. Everything in moderation is the way I like to live. I have considered quitting all together but sometimes I like to treat myself to a little buzz with friends or family. I would totally respect a man's decision not to drink, actually It's pretty admirable considering all the pressures, he must have a lot of inner strength to resist that temptation. Maybe if I dated a guy like that I would be motivated to quit drinking myself. I am 19, I partied a lot in high school, but now I am living a cleaner, healthier lifestyle.

XhollyXroseX · Answer

I drink occasionally, and I wouldn't care AT ALL if a guy I was seeing didn't drink. It'd probably give me second thoughts about drinking, especially if he's interesting and smart, because I wouldn't want to make a fool of myself by being tipsy, or have him judge me for drinking. Anddd him not drinking might help with that adorable innocent thing that can be so cute in guys :)

Oh and I'm 17 (please don't judge me :/, where I live, social drinking is normal from 13, and I only started a few months ago so it's not that bad).

throwit · Answer

im 18, I'll drink at parties but only if there are guys I don't know lol. I'm pretty shy and when I drink I'm super friendly so its just a way from me to meet people. but there is this guy I like right now who NEVER drank before, and if we were at a party together I wouldn't drink so I could talk to him :)

Standingpretty · Answer

In every relationship, there are sacrifices that you must make. You must be willing to compromise in order to make a relationship work. Yes, I would and am currently compromising my drinking and partying in my current relationship because I care about the person I am with. If someone is not willing to compromise on anything, it means they don't care about you. A person who is not willing to compromise is also not ready for the real world, and needs to grow up.

Amorina · Answer

I'm 18 and it is not a turn-off at all.  I'd rather a guy who doesn't drink than one who gets fall down, puke all over the place drunk, anyway.  I don't drink a lot, though.  I just get a little buzzed and I find drunk people amazingly stupid.  So, for me, it is more of a turn-off when a guy drinks... especially if he doesn't do it responsibly...

Anonymous · Answer

I know you said you wouldn't ask her to change, but that's what my boyfriend does. It makes me feel like a bad person, even though I only have like one drink at a party. I'm underage though. I don't mind that he doesn't though, just that he hates it when other people do.

Amillia1981 · Answer

I'm 30 and even when I was younger, I never wanted a guy who drank. I am not a heavy drinker and have a drink a couple times a month but it would never bother me if a guy didn't drink. I would have respect for him and think its pretty responsible of you not to. Unless your with a girl who's like a alcoholic, then you have nothing to worry about cause for me its a turn on.

vmw2008 · Answer

It's not a turn off, but I don't think we'd be good for each other. I drink, my friends drink, my roommates drink, and my family drinks. He probably wouldn't feel like he fit in with any part of my life. I'd prefer if my boyfriend drank. It's not a turn off that he doesn't, just more of a preference for how we get along socially.

Anonymous · Answer

It shouldn't be a problem as long you're not a bitch about it, meaning don't act prudish or proud of the fact that you don't drink.

Animal_Girl · Answer

I'm 21, don't drink a lot, and probably wouldn't care that you don't drink. Depends on your attitude though.

Anonymous · Answer

25 and  yes.  Not so much that he doesn't drink, but that he likely doesn't want me to drink or to go to events where everyone is drinking.

jax456 · Answer

I actually find it pretty respectable if a guy doesn't drink. Don't get me wrong, a beer or two at a party is normal and totally fine, but no one should be judged by the amount of alcohol they consume. It's actually better if I went out with someone that didn't drink because I'd be able to trust my date to drive me home (not that I'd get wasted or anything).

grnylw51 · Answer

I'm 21...I wouldn't care either way I mean if the guy didn't drink at all I can always look at it that I have a guaranteed DD

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all. But please don't judge me for wanting to grab a drink or two. nothing worse than a non drinking snob. not saying you are one, but I met plenty of people who thought they were all high and mightly because they don not drink while I do.

RedThread78 · Answer

nah they usually don't care I don't drink and girls don't seem to care.

somnambulated · Answer

I'm 20, and it's not a turn off. I think a guy who sticks to his beliefs and passions is sexy.

Tentacle_Therapist · Answer

Haha, no, not at all. I don't drink much, either. I'm 20.

blufrenzy93 · Answer

Not really...I wouldn't force anyone to do something they don't want to do. I'm not old enough to drink socially and if I did and had a boyfriend, then I would avoid bars or whatever. We could always do something while sober together(:

Vasillilaw · Answer

Idk.  I don't think it's that big of a deal.  Just don't go to parties with a girl if there is going to be drinking.  It's just a social thing and if you're out of the loop at a social thing, it's kinda awkward.

lala-193 · Answer

as long as they don't care that I drink I don't care that they dont. I'm not really  big drinker though. it can even bee amdmirable when  someone doesn't drink definitely not a turn off unless they get preachy about it.

Corrupt_Others · Answer

Nope, it's not a turnoff at all. I've dated guys that don't drink. No problem. I'm 20, and frequent drinker.

NickieLas101891 · Answer

im 20...im a drinker. like not rehab drinker but when I go out I typically get buzzed not wasted. but I wouldn't mind as long as you're not a stink in the mud. because we all know people that are B.U.T.s (boring unless twisted).

BreathMe · Answer

i wouldn't mind it at all and to me it is not a turn off. but if its ever just the 2 of us and I felt like a drink it would kind of suck to drink alone but id probably drink anyways haha

EverythingReal · Answer

Nope, my mom will have the occasional social drink, but my father refuses to even touch alcohol. I grew up in that type of setting so I do not find it to be a turn off.

moloz · Answer

It's fun when somebody is a little dizzy and the other person is completely sober.

Icky123 · Answer

no I might feel a bit weird at first tho if I'm totally pajamad and he's sobour.  18. :)

Anonymous · Answer

Well I drink very very very rarely, but when I do I only drink for one reason, to get totally wasted. and its fun to get totally wasted with the guy you adore. So, no it wouldn't be a turn off, but I would miss you when going out, sometimes.

Destinee7 · Answer

I'm 19, drink every once in a while & I don't think it's a turn off if a guy doesn't drinks. That's totally fine with me.

bel42 · Answer

i prefer guys that don't drink.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as you're not condescending about it and are willing to have fun and go out anyway, it's fine! I'm 19.

greyline24 · Answer

Really I like a girl that drinks with me! It would not be fun if I was drinking by myself and she standing there bored not doing nothing lol! Is it a turn off or on neither really.

justlilly · Answer

I would rather a guy that I date drink. It would be more fun to drink together. Also, drunk people can be annoying to sober people sometimes and I don't want that to be the case.

cassandra-zim · Answer

i would respect it, but it would be a turn off. I don't drink that much, only socially, so its ideal for me to have that kind of relationship with someone who does the same.

sharra · Answer

not at all. it shows that you are responsible, and take care of yourself.

heavenonearth · Answer

No, it's fine. Odds are I'm not going to be a big drinker when I'm of age, so it wouldn't be a problem if my partner doesn't drink. I'm 17.

Anonymous · Answer

No its not a turn off. I don't like guys who get drunk but I don't mind them drinking. However the guy doesn't have to drink. As long as the he isn't bothered that I'm drinking I don't see how it would be a problem. I'm 21.

brunettebelle · Answer

Can you still have fun sober, be in the party scene but still enjoy everything?

Anonymous · Answer

i smoke and I once went out with this guy who didn't and couldn't stand the smell of it  but he liked to drink , we never went on a second date because the bond just wasn't there in the first place

curiouschica · Answer

I don't drink so no.  And even if I did the answer would still be no.  I'd admire him more actually!

aggiipaggii · Answer

No it's not! (ok, I don't smoke of drink, but in my opinion it wouldn't be any turn off)

rory520 · Answer

No it's like if they guy smokes...as long as I'm not forced to join in I don't care.

AmberChick · Answer

It's not really a turn off but if I am drinking, he'd be pretty bored.

CindiluvsFriends · Answer

Yes.  I think its odd when a guy doesn't drink(unless he's a recovering alcoholic).

max4u · Answer

The answer may be..It depends.. yeah its very subjective.. I can c most of the gals don't think its a turn off.. and it shouldn't b as long as you don have an issue with her drinking.. :)

Tirebouchon · Answer

uh, not realy. Not a turn off but sometime it is fun to not be drunkalone

slipslender · Answer

no, not a turn off. 21

nickydrakeluva · Answer

no if he doesn't he doesn't cnt b mad at him an 2 me if a guy drinks a lot its a turn off like a beer or two is kool but if you keep going till your drunk its not cute

Anonymous · Answer

I would want him to drink too. If he didn't then I wouldn't drink either.

soberish · Answer

no it's not! I would respect a guy that doesn't drink as he is very valuable. I'm 19

LuvBiddy · Answer

No, it would actually be refreshing if he didn't.

SweetFace28 · Answer

I'm 27 & don't drink at all...so...nope. ;-)

rallz93 · Answer

No , that won't be a problem at all.

Rita593 · Answer

Definitely not... I'm 17

smexiliciousss · Answer

I don't mind at all.

Cailleach · Answer

Not at all.

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