Polls

How can you tell the difference between when it embarrasses a man vs he likes it and goes red because he’s turned on etc. ?

Yesterday i invited a guy I have a crush on to come over today and watch a series with me that we started last week. We kissed last week but decided to not proceed as we both want different things.
Yesterday he said he’s down to watching the show together and sounded kinda enthusiastic.

Today he texts me saying “sorry I’m not feeling well so I’ll stay in”
And when I said hope you feel better he said thanks and sorry again.

I’m wondering if this is an excuse to get out of hanging out with me or if he’s genuinely sick. Guys, do you think it’s a lie?

I never dated not even in highschool but I don't know how normal that is and I want to know

What's the corniest one you've heard? Have you ever used a pickup line? What's the best pickup line you've used that worked?

Do you think you could distinguish a snowbunnie by what vehicle she drives, maybe like a white SUV, or something?

There are different types of veggie, root veg such as carrots and potatoes, leafy veg such as cabbage and broccoli, and fruit veg such as aubergines and courgettes. I'd say I probably eat more root veg, closely followed by fruit veg.

Do you prefer girls who are more modest in their dress style or not?

I do, I think it makes a room so much more cheerful 🌹🌷🌻

I got my Bachelor’s in Psych back in 2018, since then I’ve worked in higher education. Was in academic advising for a little over 2 years & that job felt like a bad fit across the board. Then I was in career services for about 3 months at another school & combined with mgmt/having to talk in public settings made me quit, I then worked in financial aid at another school for a little less than 2 years. While that felt like kind of a better fit based off mgmt’s feedback & a bit more confidence in my job tasks, I was miserable. I just worked in FA again at another school for a little less than a month & decided working in this new school felt a bit off.

29F and I have never felt like such a failure, I have a bit of a savings after selling my condo a little less than 2 years ago & live with family again so there’s that “cushion” but it’s not ideal obviously. I completed a form to schedule a meeting with alumni career services where I got my degree & waiting to hear back, I’m scared to apply for work bc I really don’t know what I want to do with my life. My mom said maybe higher education isn’t a good fit for me b/c of this pattern I’ve had, thinks I should work temp jobs since there’s no commitment & I can pay my way to go back to school. But I don’t want any more student loans since pell is maxed out & again I DON’T KNOW what I want to do.

I’m kind of stumped in the sense that I don’t know what I want to do, I feel like I enjoy the higher ed field but it may not be the best fit as I keep ending up in a position where I’m back to looking for work again regardless if most of the time it’s been voluntary it seems. Advice appreciated, any resources or suggestions you have from experience leave in the comments.

*I asked for wispy bangs just an FYI. I've had straight across bangs and I don't like how they look on me personally, anymore.*

I'm back with another non-important question.😁

I was at an all girls party recently and one of them started crying about something which made others tear up too. I am not a crier, and I just kind of sat there looking out of place. In that moment, I thought to myself that I could never picture guys doing this. Lol. So I got to ask, does this ever happen with the guys?

I’ve noticed you guys date non metal girls who dress feminine.

Are you a big fan of the amazing sunrise/sunset or do you prefer the warm afternoons, perhaps the cool evenings?

A recent study showed that a person's egg preference indicates a few things about their personality. I'm still thinking about how valid that claim is, but I thought it would be a fun question for a Friday! Don't forget to take the poll!

While book-smarts or street-smarts help a person in specific ways, Emotional Intelligence is what we use most in the real world -- it's the mindfulness, awareness and processing ability we have for both our feelings and the feelings of others.

Current research indicates that those with higher levels of EI draw others towards them... They're people who others genuinely want to be around for the long haul -- at work/school/relationships. Their kindness and compassion towards others shine through their EI, as does their ability to own up to their own decisions (instead of blaming them on others) and to treat others with respect and dignity.

Here 's a quick 20-point quiz for you guys and gals -- the most common signs of EI

(+1 for each point you "sort of understand" and +2 for each point you're really good at):

• Being able to know and accept yourself for who you are (with all your quirks and experiences)...
• Being able to accept responsibility for your actions and decisions...
• Being able to accept change as a standard part of life...
• Being able to control emotions rather than raging and lashing out and flying off the handle with verbal/physical outbursts...
• Being able to forgive yourself -- to show yourself some grace -- by leaving past mistakes in the past...
• Being able to talk through problems and challenges with others...
• Being aware of your own strengths -- and being able to admit to them...
• Being aware of your own weaknesses -- and being able to admit to them...
• Being modestly confident and poised -- and keeping your cool in challenging situations...
• Showing empathy and compassion -- putting yourself in another person’s shoes and seeing things from their perspective...

The scoring goes by 5s (see the poll, which keeps answers anonymous). Don't share your score in comments if you don't want to.

(Those with a low score wondering how to raise EI can search Google for free materials that are very helpful.)

I talked to a new guy on this app, but we ended up not meeting as he’s wanting marriage & babies until 5 years IF it works out. And that’s honestly a waste of time for me. If I was younger & met this guy when I was 18 then I could of been married by now but no. I’m 26 still no husband. So I want marriage & baby in 1-2 years.
A guy I dated that never met my family wasted many years of my life. So I have no time to waste. if it’s 5 years and living together than that’s fine , or else it’s pointless date& have sex 5 years and no ring.