Is there anybody here who believes a hard to get girl is more attractive than a girl that is easy to get?

[jennifer_bloom]

I can think of one example in my life and one example in a friend's life where a guy was interested in her and also another time where a guy was interested in me, when I resisted they pursued but when I pursued, they resisted. I did not date the guy cause he was turned off by the fact I initiated contact but when I avoided him he would sacrifice other events to chase after me, but this was years and years ago.

My cousin says the same thing to her friends that if you want a guy to like you, you should ignore him. I don't know if she still gives advice cause she is at the age where a lot of her friends have settled down and are no longer on dating sites.

I think hard to get is more attractive

I think hard to get is less attractive

I think its a question of context and dating behaviour has no impact at all

[zagor]

No, if someone doesn't seem to be interested in me I assume that is their true feeling and they're not playing some BS game. And I'm not interested in those who play BS games like that anyway.

[kinggeorge007]

This, yes, I believe the same. If she doesn't show an interest, I stop chasing.

[BonzoInBitburg]

That may have worked in the past but today I don't think the juice is worth the squeeze

[uncleBobbyb77]

Ok, I'm not satisfied with the 3 multiple choice answers. It is contextual, however behaviors have everything to do with it. I believe there has to be a balance between "aloof/hard to get", and "interested/easy peasy just don't be sleazy". A man who's looking for something more than a one nighter doesn't want a woman that's too easy and promiscuous. Trust people to be who they are and do what they do even after they get to know you. If they are easy now they will be easy later too. On the other hand if a woman plays too uptight, stiff, and insultingly disinterested then she comes off as a cold fish, a cold hearted ice queen that will not bring a man peace nor be a good, giving partner in most areas. Just like women will get disinterested if the man is too eager to please and falls all over himself to do as she asks placing him in the dreaded friend zone (a zone that completely benefits her only where he does all the work of a boyfriend but he doesn't get the same rewards as a boyfriend for his efforts) men want some challenge in the courtship of a woman to make it interesting but also needs some positive feedback that his efforts are appreciated and also being reciprocated in kind. It is a two way street. You have to be willing to try and once your both in it to win it be willing to put the relationship before everything else

[Howdy13]

Honestly, the very moment I suspect that this girl may not be interested, I remove myself from her. No talking, no texting, no setting up anything, no hanging out, no flirting, nothing. It’s probably the main reason why I can’t get any women but I’m standing on that. I need to be shown interest too, I’m not into the 1 sided relationship thing. And i especially hate being made a fool of myself. If you don’t like me just say it and If you do then fucking say it.

[RedInnocent69]

She can be, but it’s all contextual. Like, why she’s hard to get.

[ChiTown33]

No! I ask once. She says no, I'm done!

[dudeinohio]

I don't play those games. I see it and I move on.