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Due to cancer surgery I’m unable to wax under my armpits. I’m afraid of the stitches opening. I shave but it still leaves stubble and black dots. I never used to be conscious of this, til my sister before my surgery said wow your armpits need shaving when I had shaved on that day. Its black dots it leaves but not a hairy bush. So are guys ok with this definition of shaving? Please be honest I won’t be offended if you say your honest opinion nicely

I've also found myself struggling to reconcile his assurances that I am the best thing and that he's never cheated with certain behaviors that have given me cause for concern. The recent discovery of a text where he communicated with an escort has left me feeling deeply unsettled and uncertain about the foundation of trust in our relationship.

I value the honesty and transparency that are essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. His statement that he loves me contrasts with the conflicting signals I've encountered, and it has left me feeling conflicted and unsure about the future of our relationship.

I believe that addressing these concerns openly and honestly can help us gain clarity and determine the best path forward. I care deeply about our relationship and want to work through any challenges together, provided that we can establish mutual trust and understanding. It's important to me that we can have an open and genuine conversation about these matters.

we talked about having a kid together - with his involvement or not

Hate or like it?

This guy & I got set up by his mom. We've been consistently talking, and suddenly, he ghosts my guts for 2 weeks- I deleted his number a week later- and then that happens:
What do you say guys? Should I add him back?
Is this genuine?

He recently deleted his call logs which he hasn’t done before. In the past he would delete messages with this girl and the only reason I saw the one is because she messaged him back while he was with me and he was driving so he didn’t have the chance to delete it. He has her blocked on everything but I find it suspicious he is deleting his calls and texts unless he has something to hide.

If so what might be the reason?

Flirt around or ask a special question?

Feels like a lot of blue users already do this sometimes 😉.

A couple worst birthdays I can think of:

- The same day as the mother or father; sharing your b-day with your baby

- September 11

- Christmas Day

- Jan 1 or Dec 31st

What do you think? Is there just a bad day for a baby to be born on?

I was on a Christian dating app, and I found a guy who lived close to me to hang out with in person. We both desire to be married. During the 1st date, we talked about our pasts, like dating/sexual history, family life, and the basics. We briefly talked about our faiths and encounters/revelations, but we didn't dive into that. He doesn't text super often when we are not together, so I started conversations a couple of times to get to know him more during our time apart. He wanted to see me 3 days ago, so we met and had a great time. I still don't fully understand some awkward moments, like him not feeling comfortable picking up a phone call from someone I didn't know while I was with him. I told him I can give him privacy, and he insisted it was okay, but his mood had changed drastically. Besides that, we spent 5 hours together and bonded a lot more, even though we didn't mention our faith at all during that time.

I told him I liked him while we were hanging out, and he said he liked me too. I asked if he wanted to go ahead and start a relationship with me since it was fair to consider how much we were attracted to each other during that time. He said he wanted to go on more dates before we reached that point, which I am fine with. He told me after the date that he had lots of fun, but the following day, I felt we weren't discussing the important things that should've been covered on the 1st date, like faith. I sent him a message asking him to pray about getting God's perspective about us before continuing to ensure that we are compatible. He left me on read, and I had to send a clarifying message the next day letting him know that I didn't mean harm with that last message and apologized for coming off strong. He said it was alright, he understood, but he had never heard someone praying for that. I thanked him and told him I had heard people receiving that information from God before, but I realized that people's experiences can differ. He left me on read again.

They are both well educated, 183cm tall and healthy.

Usually tax season is pretty exciting for me. This year I'm a bit worried about whether we've managed to offset additional income vs expenses properly. It's going to be a surprise whether good or bad... Plus, we won't get a tax return bonus for my daughter this year. So sad 😞

But, it's still fun to run all the numbers and see how we did. Almost like a report card!

Before I had children I wanted to have one biological child and adopt 7 more for a total of 8. After I had children I realized how unrealistic that was for my family and the quality of life I feel that needs to be offered to each child. Now, I think 2 children might be optimal.

What's the optimal number of children you feel the you or others should have?