I've been struggling to understand some behaviors in my relationship. Why do you think a guy would claim to love someone, yet exhibit these bvrs?

[Anonymous]

I've also found myself struggling to reconcile his assurances that I am the best thing and that he's never cheated with certain behaviors that have given me cause for concern. The recent discovery of a text where he communicated with an escort has left me feeling deeply unsettled and uncertain about the foundation of trust in our relationship.

I value the honesty and transparency that are essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. His statement that he loves me contrasts with the conflicting signals I've encountered, and it has left me feeling conflicted and unsure about the future of our relationship.

I believe that addressing these concerns openly and honestly can help us gain clarity and determine the best path forward. I care deeply about our relationship and want to work through any challenges together, provided that we can establish mutual trust and understanding. It's important to me that we can have an open and genuine conversation about these matters.

we talked about having a kid together - with his involvement or not

Ghost him

Give him reasons why

Take his donation and don’t include him in kids life

Include him in baby’s life

[SueShe]

Obviously, he does not place the same emphasis on a relationship as you do.

He has stabbed you in the back by talking with an escort and that is the very first step towards a plethora of new situations that will arise in the future between you and him. What he did is simply put, emotional cheating; the very first step towards physical cheating. In his mind, he actually already has cheating you physically because when you look up for an escort, you keep in mind that you will eventually need the services. One does not simply look up for an escort like one checks the weather forecast.

You seem to be living with pink glasses on and fail to see the danger lurking. Because you are so focused on having a family, you fail to realize that his behavior is something that will void this plan, at least with him.

Come back to reason and realize that your romance has a big scar in it that will not heal the way you expect. It will get infected...

[Anonymous]

he is talking to an escort behind your back without your knowledge. There is a lack of respect toward you. In any relationship, nobody should endure that type of pain. Trust loyalty and respect is important to begin with. As far as having a child together. I would not consider it for a long time. Or either at all

[Avicenna]

Well, talk to him, but you have to be completely sure you trust him and that he's reliable if you're going to expect him to be a parent. That requires time.

[Iron_Man]

Go to family counseling