Polls

Creating this poll to show my husband.

Backstory: we just got evicted. Our landlord sold the property and the new owners gave us a 7 day notice to quit. We have until Friday to be out of here and we have absolutely nowhere to go. This came out of left field, as the landlord said we still had at least 6 months. So yes, we had been searching but we were only just told about him trying to sell not even 2 weeks ago so we haven't found shit.

We currently have one vehicle. A caravan with stow and go seating. We have 3 kids and almost $8k to spend on either a down payment for a new home OR a camper, which at this point seems more likely (we already have family who told us we can park a camper there and run electric until we find permanent housing).

My husband however, thinks that buying a truck right now that he found online for $2500 would be better because then we could "move all our shit in one go versus multiple trips" and has claimed that it would help us in the long run because then we would have two vehicles. We don't currently need two vehicles. We need a place to stay and I believe if he pays that much on a freaking truck that would cost $130 to fill right now is an absolutely stupid decision. School starts in 3 days. We need to figure out where we are going to enroll the kids in school, not worry about a truck.

If you like someone do you prefer to express feelings face to face or through messaging?

I’m gonna make this simple or try to do you can understand the entire situation.

-When they moved in I called cops cause their music was disturbing the peace at night.

- On a later date I explained why I called cops instead of going to their door cause I’m a single mom. They invited me in for breakfast and we talked for an hour.

- Days later loud noises started to happen which was disturbing the peace in my house. I went to their door nicely and they said it’s their 2 year old.

- A week or two later I went to their door complaining about noise again, this time the husband was alone. He said it’s his kid which sounded like bullshit to me. He then offers me in his house (cause my toddler was playing with his toddler) and then he says “maybe we can go to the park together” we meaning as in him, me and our toddlers as his wife is at work and his teen is at home. He also says “I cook sometimes and you are free to stop by to get food”

- I didn’t take him up on any of his offers and the noise has increased now I noticed. Like after I went to his door when he was home alone the noise stopped because he had MY attention (I’m assuming my attention is what he wants) and now that I’m just kinda minding my business it’s an issue. He’s mentally ill I’m convinced. What do you think?

The guy I’m into , hangout with, talk to a lot always likes this other girls photos all of the time that he works with , he never likes mine !!!
he did before we ever slept together , but not now 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m not important at work. Not a manager. My colleagues just moan about everything and I’m entitled to take holiday

Bought to you by my evening sitting alone in a bar watching two trans women… wondering why on earth you’d choose to be a woman 😂

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If the ONLY info you have is how the person is dressed & based on this you have to decide if you are likely to get along, personality hobby ethics music discussion wise— which would you choose?

I think most people make assumptions about people on site based on how they are dressed. I try not to but it happens fast then I try to ignore any conclusions until further data presents itself. Really annoys me. Now DONT take this too seriously, it’s just for fun 🤩

How soon would you ask to be friends?

Do they just not care at all that their kids will look like them?

Assuming you do not yourself adhere to gender roles. if you do then this question would seem unnecessary and odd 🙏🏼

This is not judgement against anyone’s preferred style of dating. And this is not about trying to change anyone. This would be someone who thinks they want a “fluid roles based on situation & competency not gender, egalitarian relationship’. As apposed to ‘hierarchal or strictly gender role based relationship’

So for example. They do not think they care about gender risks it’s not something something they say or think they are looking for but they have I become I explicably bothered if you’re a girl and you initiate a date or you are a boy and you ask her to take care of the plans.

personally I do not care who does what, I don’t want to control the situation and I do not want to be controlled. In dating like in a relationship I would want a team effort with people playing their strengths which will be unique to each person and hopefully comparable with their partner. I woke it get along with someone who disturbed if there is not behavioral segregation…

However, if someone had unconscious expectations of rigid gender roles, but did not consciously require it, I guess whether I stayed would depend on if they really were ok with things being fluid or only thought they were but deep down they wanted the gender role situation. I guess that’s take a bit of talking and some time to sort out.

I recognize certain traits may be more pronounced in each sex respectively, and I have nothing against anyone doing what they have natural feel for. I’m just not comfortable making an issue out of it and forcing anyone to perform in ways that they don’t gravitate towards naturally just to fulfill the idea that it “should” come naturally.

also I understand my example was heavily cliche’ — this is hypothetical and initiating is a fairly ubiquitous occurrence in dating so it seemed universally comprehensive & relatable. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Just a quick poll, you dont have to comment.

If you do, why? Is it because of your actual gender or because of the implications (high standards, gender roles, society, etc)?

Assuming they knew you liked her/him

Don't mention a house right now. Yes, I want a house but I am very particular when it comes to that. So im moving around to see what areas suit me best. For example, I wanted to buy a house in my current neighborhood when I initially moved here but now the neighborhood has changed and I'm glad I didn't.

Certain areas don't change for the worse their value remains high.

If a couple is in an ldr and let just say it was toxic ig.

Can it change to a healthy relationship if them to were in the same state / city?