Is lacking passion and any type of sex in a 9 month old relationship weird?

[Anonymous]

I'm 35 and he's 43. We've been dating for nearly 9 months. My mother thinks we sound more like innocent 14-15 year-olds holding hands and kissing but no one initiates anything, there isn't any passion nor sparks at all. We haven't even seen each other naked either. We had done nothing sexual. Honestly, I don't care too much about the sexual part. I'm more worried about the forming a family part.

We had a woman-to-woman talk and she believes that at some point, it all comes naturally and the man eventually leads (or it comes naturally from me) unless there is something about him I don't know. She thinks the fact that he's waiting that long and ok in a relationship he's not getting anything is rare because very few men will wait that long. She thinks that's part of the reason things are taking longer. She believes some passion will help things, will progress things and form a family.

My father on the other hand is more worried about when we'll form a family already. I'll be honest, I'm with him on this one. I'm worried about that part too.

Be honest, do you find our relationship weird?

yes

no

Updates

+1 y

Needless to say both of my parents are worried for me, worried that things are taking longer. Yes I like him, yes he is cute, serious, I enjoy his company and want to form a family with him but ''Am I crazy madly in love with him that I want sex every day (passionate love type)''? Nope

[LazerBean]

Literally just ask him. Ask him how he feels about sex, how often he likes it, and if he's planning on waiting for marriage or something. Personally, I respect a man who isn't trying to get into someone's pants. I don't think at all that 9 months is too long to not have had sex, but if y'all are thinking of getting married and having a family then it is certainly too long to have not had these important conversations.

[spg12212122]

Its a good sign that means when your older you can enjoy a platonic relationship as sex is not holding you together. But also a bad thing maybe he likes you to much and is nervous so I suggest seducing him.

[Asker]

I guess so. I want to have a child with him. That's what I want the most. I suppose there needs to be more passion for things to progress?

[Noodle_fan]

not weird , not everyone obsessed with sex

pretty sure there are many other couple like you , mostly who waiting for marriage

[Anonymous]

Well yeah, that is not a good sign.

[Asker]

I posted an update about how I actually feel. I love him in a different way, not in the passionated wild way where I want sex a lot from him.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm guessing that means you only see him as a friend?

[Asker]

He would be a great faithful life companion that I can have a child with. I don't care too much about sex either way. Having him would my life companion would be good enough for me.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you talked to him about this? I think that would be important.