Is it normal to want sex but not necessarily a relationship?

[simon]

I don't want to hurt the person I've been dating but is it wrong for me to tell her that I just want sex not a relationship?

[bornangel]

Absolutely, it's totally normal! Sexuality and emotional needs are complex and vary greatly from one person to another. Wanting sex without the commitment of a relationship is a common feeling many people experience at different points in their lives. It could be about exploring physical desires, focusing on personal growth, or simply not feeling ready for the emotional investment that relationships often require.

Just be honest to the person. Communication is super important here. It helps ensure that everyone involved has a clear understanding of the situation and consents to the nature of the relationship, whether it's casual, a friends-with-benefits scenario, or just a one-time thing.

Society has a lot of scripts about how relationships and sexuality "should" work, but the reality is much more diverse. As long as everything is consensual, safe, and respectful, there's a wide range of "normal." People have different needs and desires at different stages of their lives, and it's okay to explore what feels right for you.

Just prioritize safety, consent, and open communication. And always respect the feelings and boundaries of others involved.

[Pinay_ako]

Honesty is admirable to me. I’d appreciate that. So no it’s not wrong and it’s normal to just want the benefits with no strings attached. Relationships are not for everyone.

[Tstrbrainer]

So will you have sex with a guy who is upfront about his intentions?

[Purpleronnie]

Putting myself in her position there is no easy way to hear that you don’t want a relationship with her , and oh by the way but I’m happy for us to have sex kinda just makes it worse. It’s because of the dynamics of how relationships vs sex work in the traditional sense. If I were you I’d say that you’re not looking for a relationship and just leave it there. Then if she feels that she wants to be physical with you regardless or in the hope of a relationship down the line then it’s her choice. It’s a smack in the face for her to hear I don’t like you enough to want to see If we can make this work but oh by the way I will happily get naked with you and bump uglies !

[Finchie40]

Being honest is the right thing to do , most girls’ love when a guy can be honest with her , it gives her a choice on what she chooses to do , instead of just being blind sided and strung along and not knowing what your true intentions are. We aren’t mind readers , so it’s always best to be honest with someone that you have interests in. I value honesty when it comes to girls’ I meet, if she is honest with me , her chances of getting me closer to her increases tremendously.

[OlderAndWiser]

Being honest with her would be the right thing to do.

[laurlaur101]

I’m sorry but I feel like that is all wrong. That just means these guys are out running around with people like an animal not caring about anyone’s feelings if they feel the need to do that just go with some hoe and stripper that’s up for that stuff don’t hurt anyone’s feelings that way it’s disgusting to just go around everywhere. Girls are more on the emotional side then men and them they will catch feelings and will crave that closeness. Best bet if you’re after just that and a girl is not than just don’t even try things will messy and weird

[darkforcebooty]

@laurlaur101 can I ask you for some advice and support?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I would say it is yes (normal to want sex but not a relationship). But just be careful when you tell them. It's better to be honest with her about the type of relationship you want and that you're not looking for a romantic one at the moment. I can't tell you what will happen next, of course. They'll either stay with you or look elsewhere. But as long as it's healthy, there shouldn't be a problem.

[Mr_twoface]

Telling someone how you feel and what you want is the true essence of dating them. It's so much more rewarding to be honest than build a relationship based on a lie. With that said, be also mentally ready that they may not reprosicate the same way you are hoping for.

Good luck!

[Quogha]

As long as you express your intentions, and don’t lead somebody on, there’s nothing wrong with it. You can start a conversation by asking the person what kind of relationship they are looking for? When it’s your turn to answer, you could tell her you’re not looking for a romantic relationship, but that you’re looking for someone to connect with on a physical level. She may or may not be interested, but at least you’ve been honest and you’re not going to lead someone on.

[thatshydork]

Everybody’s different. Some are relationship types and others are hookup types. In other words, some are more fitted to the bachelor/bachelorette life than others. Better to sort that out when you guys start dating rather then when you’re like a year in.

[lightbulb27]

Its good to be honest. Also worthy to evaluate why you want that and resolve differences.


Generally speaking it be avoidance of some sort rooted in emotional fear.


Reality is… tgis is a reproductive activity and there are no guarantees. Its also potential to be emotional. Thus can create more complex issues.

[mobiusforniner]

It is wrong if that is not what she wants. If she is hoping for some kind of relationship and you only want to smash and dump then yes, it is wrong. Most decent women value their self worth and to smash and dump, fire and forget, is taking advantage of another human being.

[Dargil]

If that is the arrangement you want and it is acceptable to her, yes. That is what a Friend With Benefits is. I had one. We truly were friends but it centered on common interests including sex and the academics we were involved in. There were no dating routines or social protocols. It was NOT emotion free but there was the fondness of both of us being a refuge from both "relationships" and our stressful schedules. But if you do this, you have to agree on and adhere to the rules.

[Fireguy17]

it would be best to see what her feelings are on where you are in your "relationship".
It is possible she wants the same thing as you do and is in the same place as you are, she just wants to get laid, or she has already picked out paint colors for your house and names for your grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

My best friend can answer that question. But depends on the individual. If you don’t want to be tied down to someone then sure go ahead. However, I’m not like that. I have to feel loved and wait a label on it or at least been seeing each other for a couple months. I don’t want to feel used, but again that’s just me.

[EmmaMary]

Providing you have made this very clear from the outset, then I see no problems whatsoever.

[moneymagnet24]

Absolutely I m very clear n told you that I had sex with you twice in a day everyday in my imagination 😜😜

[Nikki1989]

It is normal, and many people can carry on with a purely physical relationship. It is not hard to do.

[Lizzyme]

Yes, but please be upfront about your intentions. She might want the same thing too.

[Mishupishu]

Yes, it's normal for individuals to have different desires and priorities when it comes to relationships and intimacy. People vary in their preferences, and some may prioritize casual encounters or prefer not to pursue a committed relationship at certain points in their lives. It's crucial to communicate openly and honestly with potential partners about expectations and boundaries to ensure mutual understanding.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Probably about 20-25% of the women in D. C. are just looking for sex. "Normal" is relative and somewhat subjective, but it isn't uncommon.

[normalice]

It is normal for teenagers and boys in their 20s. At your age it's time to grow up unless you have a good reason women shouldn't want to be in a relationship with you.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

Just don't try to promise people things that you cannot live up to. Otherwise, it is okay as long as you are honest with that person.

[Billlewis]

I think that's an excellent concept -- she and I have the relationship, and she and the other guys she's dating enjoy the sex. 🤗

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't think it's weird to not want strings attached. If sex is all you are after it's pretty normal. Jist let the other person know beforehand.

[elizamichale1]

Its not wrong but u must tell her ur intentions

[Blessedme]

Tell them what you want. That being honest not rude.

[Peridot25]

To be honest, she’ll probably feel used. It’s not wrong to just want sex but let her know what you want. Also, be prepared for her to end things with you if she wants a relationship.

[spartan55]

I don't think I would word it that way. It's never wrong to express what you want in a relationship.

[Jonathan373]

Yes it is normal, sex is a medical need for men. Relationship are sometimes traumatic and overly expensive. Do what makes you feel comfortable and happy man. Life will test your limits

[sheikalana]

Apparently nowadays that's the most common thing ever.

[moneymagnet24]

Would you do if someone ask you for sex but not relationship?

[sheikalana]

@moneymagnet24 I'm married so my answer will always be no. Even if I was single I would still say no as I don't do casual relationships.

[SolitarySolace]

Is it possible to want a relationship but not necessarily sex?

[decoyduck]

Not wrong. She would want to know. Prob a lonely way to live after a while. It would get old.

[Anonymous]

yes, it may not be as common as people wanting a committed relationship, but it's not abnormal

[Sonorous]

Yeah I might be like that tbh

[Miristheiss]

It is debaucherous and degenerate.

[MikeTheBartender]

At our ages definitely

[dreamstar72]

Just as long as you play it safe.

[andreasderjuengere]

Not so much 'normal', but at least common.

[laly520]

u have to tell her that

[boobliker]

yes it fine to just sex

[serious_miss419]

How can you hurt them?

[foxsquirrell]

I think its very normal.

[noohair]

Normal? what is normal?

[NathanDavis]

yes, it is

[IloveWinters]

Being clear upfront is very important

[Anonymous]

Nah--it's pretty natural really.

[Anonymous]

You are 46 saying this? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[moneymagnet24]

🤣🤣🤣

[itsclearlynicholas]

Sure is to me 😊