Is it wrong to be in a relationship but still want sexual interactions with other women?

[animan666]

I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 4 years and I love her to death. She was my 1st but as the story goes... I wasn't hers. We've talked about it and I'm truly not jealous by her past. She means the world to me but everytime I get flirtatious with a stranger... She gets super jealous and makes a scene. I know that she's probably confused and I guess maybe I am too. She claims that she's okay with it and that she wants me to enjoy life like she did but just don't leave her and hurt her. She's also 8 years older than me. I'm just wondering if it makes me the so called *bad guy*? That seems how most women view it however I feel that most women believe that it's okay for them to have a list of partners but not men so tell me your opinion. I could really use advice if anyone is interested. Thanks in advance

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

The difference is her list of partners was before you were dating, right?
But yours would be while you're dating? It's not the same having had prior relationships or partners before to trying to have partners other relationships if you're already in one.
Unless of course, it's an open relationship. You say she says she's okay with it but you also say she h gets jealous if you flirt with others... So that should be your answer, whether she "says" she's okay with it, her actions are saying otherwise...
Is sleeping with other people just to say you had more partners sorry more to you than your girlfriend? Because that's what you'll be risking

[animan666]

It's honestly not about the number. I just don't want to live my entire life feeling like I didn't get to do anything or even enjoy it. I can't even hang with friends half the time without her acting out and there's other information about her that I refuse to mention that may turn the table on my whole post. I don't get pissed when she talks to men that she slept with in the past or her friends. She has a few problems but I still love her for her. I feel that it's okay to be like that because (Why should I immediately be tied down and bound to one girl?) How is that right for her to live but not the guy. That's the question that most women don't ask or even consider. That's also why I feel that most are single or don't have anyone who wants to stay. I see your point. It's common sense and it's valid to an extent but it doesn't justify the fact that women are equally as bad as men and clearly can't take responsibility to owning up to it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If you want to live the single life, why be in a relationship? And not all women are like that. You can't base all women of the actions/Behavior of your girlfriend... I stayed with the save man for 20 years, and remained faithful as did he... I don't get why people get in a committed relationship if that's not what they want. If you wanna live it up why not stay single then 🤷🏼‍♀️

[animan666]

That's common sense too but I'm not doing it based on her. Even though I'm super young and have a lot to learn... I've also dealt with a lot of bs from how women perceive most men. Most women claim that they want a nice guy and it's not about how a guy looks... Okay, so why is it that you can be super nice and still get *friend zoned* by a woman or they simply take no interest in you at all and start judging appearance. That's called hypocrisy. It clearly doesn't make sense how society works. OR they clearly pick the men that they know will just bang and leave. Again... No sense at all. It is what it is though. I'm not too butt hurt. Thanks for the opinion 😊

[Pink6o6]

It's not okay if your girlfriend isn't okay with it and it looks like she isn't okay... okay

[animan666]

Thanks for the opinion

[Anonymous]

You sound like me. I'm a few years older than you, but my girlfriend turned 30 and she was also open to the idea of me experiencing life a bit. I think it's a reasonable idea honestly. She's at the age where she probably understands what she experienced vs what I have yet to try, and she just wants to even the field a bit. Your girlfriend seems the same.

Just make sure that she's comfortable with it immediately before it actually happens. My girlfriend suggested the idea herself, but debated it internally for a long time. I told her that no matter what she decided, I'd accept it.

[animan666]

Thanks for the opinion at least you understand how I feel. I just hate when women portray us as the bad guy when most have a long ass list of men and then bitch that we caused it. It is what it is though

[In_Trance]

ask your partner; she'll tell you if it's wrong.

would you be ok with her sucking other dick?

[animan666]

She clearly already has if she's had numerous partners. I don't find her past offensive so I feel that women should accept men the way we are if we have to accept them for their mistakes and fuck ups. It's common sense. As for her sucking other dick I honestly wouldn't have a problem. She already told me that she doesn't want any other man's dick so... I don't really have any other input on that question

[In_Trance]

So I think you need to have a conversation with her about this

[animan666]

That's a daily for me and it gets nowhere. I appreciate the advice though

[SamuraiDoge]

im this time nothing wrong... everything is fine even being an asshole

[animan666]

True to that. Especially when you be nice to a woman and they still end up treating most men like shit.

[SamuraiDoge]

love is respect.. if there's no respect between lovers and everyone looking to other girls/boys than that s not love