I know she has scoliosis & something wrong with her uterus &/or ovaries. I know do to the possibility of her not being able to have children.
Sex has been a big issue in our relationship & has caused a lot of distress on both sides. For me it's clearly the lack of it or anything that sexual. For her it's my pestering & the pain that intercourse causes her, I'm her first partner & I'm not exactly easy for her to take (size). For half a year I stopped asking for sex & only occasionally attempted other things mainly on her. This was to ease the pressure of me wanting to have sex off her.
But now I feel she doesn't see the importance of it without me being the asshole.
I've asked her about her feelings of sex/esc. & she says she doesn't care for it.
When we do get something going sexualy she is selfish & doesn't reciprocate until the mood has been lost/the end. I've mentioned this to her but nothings changed. Oral is out of the question for me & when I do it for her it's not appreciated.
I think she can't let go when we're intimate & coupled with her not wanting to go there in the first place I don't know what to f*cking do.
Sorry for the rant, any advice would help. I'm lost