Struggling w sexual drive/attraction to my partner. HELP?

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Okay, so I have been with my partner for 4 years. I am struggling because I don't have any sexual attraction toward him at the moment, but I truly love him.

When we started dating, I was very attracted to him. However, over the past 2 years, he has gained about 35 kg. I like to stay in shape. Fitness is a huge part of my life and I'm struggling with attraction at the moment.

This is affecting our sex life. We have not had sex in 2 months. When we do have it, I am not really into it. I don't really enjoy it, I mainly do it for him and I hate it because I'm so in love with him, I'm just struggling with the physical side of things.

Does anyone here have any suggestions on how to approach the situation? I have mentioned things like, we should start taking care of our food together, we should go to the gym together etc and I mean he does it for a little bit but then goes back to the old ways.

I'd love some insight. If you're a guy, how would you like your girlfriend to approach the situation? I don't want to put him down.
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