My girlfriend is rarely in the mood to have sex anymore and doesn't want to ever talk to about it, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

I love my girlfriend and I would do anything for her but for the past 3 to 4 months she just never want to have sex amymore and I feel like im doing something wrong and it also makes me feel like she is not attracted to me anymore. Everytime I try to talk to her about it she always gets really defensive and mad and tells me she doesn't want to talk about it or tells me she doesn't know what to say or doesn't know what to tell me and then it turns into a big fight. I just want to know what the problem is so me and her can try to fix it. I want to be with her but I can't if she never want to talk about our problems and try to fix them together. I just need help with what I should do.

[Anonymous]

It's frustrating not to be able to bond on a sexual level with your loved one, and emotionally hurtful that she doesn't seem to care.
However, she's told you a reason - she doesn't know why. Assuming she's being honest with herself and with you.
She may have an emotional or physical reason why she's gone off sex. Or she may just be whimsical.
But assuming you are truly being reasonable with her in and out of the bedroom, it may just be something she's going through so don't make it a big thing.
And be thankful you're not locked into a marriage.

[Asker]

Yeah but her say she doesn't know is her answer to everything that we argue about or talk about not just about this

[Not_Average]

It’s not all negative possibilities like everyone is suggesting. She could be insecure about herself. She could be depressed. She could be lacking an emotional connection in particular areas of your relationship. She also could be losing attraction. Just communicate and don’t accept that she won’t talk about it. This does need to be discussed.

[PinkGiraffee]

This pandemic could be putting her into depression. I would have a talk with her to see what is going on. Two things could be happening:
1 it’s her, but she doesn’t feel comfortable talking to you about her feelings
2. She isn’t attracted to you anymore.

[SandandWaves]

It's you at all. It's her. She is avoiding it and not talking about it with you for a "reason". It is not for a good reason either. . .

[SandandWaves]

I meant, it is not (you).

She shouldn't be avoiding to talk about it either, need to be communication. something is going on on her end

[SandandWaves]

do you guys do other non sexual things together? is there anything else going on?

[Asker]

Yeah we do other non sexual things, this is really the only problem we have going on right now.

[Asker]

She really only gives me 2 reasons why she doesn't want to have sex, one is that she is to tired to and thats ok but there is not one day she is not tired and then she tells me that she only gets a little free time from work so she doesn't want to fuck all her free time away

[SandandWaves]

sounds like a lies

[SandandWaves]

;) thanks for my MHO

[Cataphractarii]

You are on the right track. Tell her that if she can't talk with you there's no point in you being with her anymore. And i'm assuming it's a long, serious-ish relationship (or at least on the road to being serious).

[Anonymous]

I really hate to say it but like you mentioned, it’s very possible that she is not attracted to you anymore sexually.


I’ve been in your girlfriend position where I just didn’t want to have sex with my ex anymore and would get mad every time he’d initiate it and I’m not feeling it. My reasons were:
- I wasn’t attracted to him sexually anymore
- My attention and attraction was somewhere else, meaning I was attracted to someone else.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

She is hidding something from you. Confront her and if she doesn't want to answer you leave her.

[Gedaria]

Talk to her, she can listen and tell her how you feel. But don't get upset with her...

[Avicenna]

It doesn’t sound like it’s going to work out

[KrakenAttackin]

She is fucking someone else.

[Anonymous]

i bet you had to ask her out first

[Iron_Man]

Let it go

[InferiorElegy]

Move on