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I just read a real life case about just that. In 2011, a 99 year-old Italian man filed for divorced upon discovering hidden letter from an old affair his wife had way back in 1940. Even though he shared 77 years of marriage and already had kids, grandchildren and great-grandchildren by then, he still filed for divorced. This is the story:

https://extra.ie/2026/06/27/lifestyle/99-year-old-man-divorces-his-wife

Obviously your time has long been wasted but you're already close to dying. Would you still file for divorce by then? That little remaining time left you have on earth isn't going to make up for the lies built during practically the entire long decades of marriage.

In 2011, a 99-year-old Italian man named Antonio C. filed for divorce from his 96-year-old wife, Rosa C., after 77 years of marriage because he discovered love letters detailing an affair she had in the 1940s.

The Discovery and Split
The Marriage: The couple married in 1934 after meeting in Naples while Antonio served as a police officer and member of the Italian Carabinieri. Together, they had five children, 12 grandchildren, and one great-grandchild.
The Evidence: Days before Christmas in 2011, Antonio found a hidden stash of old love letters in an old chest of drawers. The letters were exchanged between Rosa and her former lover during World War II.
The Confrontation: Antonio confronted Rosa, who confessed to the affair. Though she begged him to forgive her and move past a betrayal that happened more than 60 years prior, Antonio decided to move forward with the divorce due to deep resentment and emotional distress