How to deal with family that hates me?

[Anonymous]

They won’t care if I don’t exist because they think that I can’t do anything successful in my life and this makes me depressed because they suppose to love me that way I am but they treat me like I’m a vegetable. How can I deal with this? This leads me to make bad decisions.

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It’s like they don’t want me a family functions and act fake towards me because I’m “different”. What is wrong with them?

[lightbulb27]

Wow, that's a tough one. Best thing to do is be successful in your own right, not by their measuring stick but by your own. If you can turn your uniqueness into success, it's best you can do.

You can ask them to accept you as you are that you will do the best you can.

Some of the most odd and eccentric people are often the most successful, once they find their niche.

What's wrong with them, I cannot say. I think the've got some pride going and it's unfortunate. Some families love unconditionally, yours needs to find Christ. Chris is at the core of the families that I've seen love unconditionally... because that is taught.

[Asker]

Yeah they won’t talk to me and have regular convos because of my disabilities and say that I will never be in a relationship and have kids and think I could never care for myself! They are dumb for saying that what do you think?

[lightbulb27]

I don't know the real situation. If you are able to function on your own or with the right person that is not abusing you, you are fine. I think some people have a hard time on their own.
I've seen quite a few people I saw as "odd" find love, find people they like and get along with.
I used to know a guy that had a soft spot for the wounded women and he dated several, he had his reasons. he was a very nice guy. Some people have a lot of compassion and it appears your family may not, or is very defeatest in mentality. Even in the Bible as an example Jesus said something about "going elsewhere" because it's hard to impress people at home. Common human problem.

Love is kinda blind in ways ya know, so I wouldn't give up hope because of them. But what I would do is focus on making you the best you that is possible, that is all any of us can do. We aren't all superstars and a lot of us need a lot of work or continual work:)

[jahaims]

Cut them off and move on. Only immature people keep immature people around.

[HollyK21]

How to deal? You don’t have to deal with them at all. Just because they’re family does not mean your mental health has to suffer in order to keep the peace. If you live with family, save and move out. Then once you do, just create some distance. Live your own life without feeling as though you need their acceptance or approval, you don’t need any of that.

[Asker]

No like it’s extended family that I see at family functions. How do I deal with that?

[HollyK21]

Same thing I said — you don’t have to deal with them at all. I have tons of extended family on 4 different sides (grandparents, mom and dad), and I do not interact with anyone I don’t want to outside of a cordial hi and bye. You aren’t a kid anymore being forced to play nice, you’re an adult and can navigate life as one.

[Abbycado]

You can’t change people, unfortunately.

[Iron_Man]

do you work at a warehouse?

[Asker]

No why?

[Iron_Man]

There’s somebody that complains that works at a warehouse